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HIV. Scared. Terrified.
« on: February 15, 2013, 08:16:42 AM »
One month ago, I was in a vacation in Seoul and I decided to go to a bath house. It was a gay bath house. Frankly, I was just there to look around since it was my first time for me to go to such a place. Then I met someone. He was going to do an oral and I said if he could do it with a condom, and he said it was ok. I did put one and then he continued. And then after that, he sat on my member for around 5 minutes and pulled it out again since I wasn't really getting hard. So I took out the condom and went to the comfort room to wash. I checked the condom and there were no holes nor it didn't break. So I ruled out this exposure.

After a few hours of just cruising, I met another guy. Now, he did an unprotected oral and I gave him a protected one. When we started to do anal, me being on the insertive role, I made sure that once in a while, I change the condom. I changed around twice or thrice. Then on the last time I was about to change, I realized that the condom was gone. I didn't realize that I was already doing it unprotected. I really have no idea how long has its been going but more or less 5 minutes already. He said he was clean and I dunno if it's true or not. I dunno.

Now I'm definitely scared. After week of exposure, I've been having an upset stomach and really loose stool. I've had rashes on palms that lasted for a few weeks. Sometimes it was itchy sometimes it's not. Now, it is all gone but my palms started to shed skin. And around at night, I would feel so tired and lethargic. Few days after the exposure, I've been having loose stools until the 2nd week. It stopped there.

I haven't had a fever, night sweats, or swollen lymph nodes though.

Anyone has an idea how big my risk is? I'm scared and very worried.
« Last Edit: February 15, 2013, 03:32:28 PM by redsmith »

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Re: HIV. Scared. Terrified.
« Reply #1 on: February 15, 2013, 11:32:51 AM »
If I am reading you correctly, all you had was some unprotected oral sex. Apparently the only anal sex you had was with the first guy and you were wearing a condom for that.

Essentially you are worrying needlessly because the only confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected anal and vaginal intercourse. As long as condoms are always used for those activities you will be well protected.

I don't see any need for HIV testing. Whatever is causing your symptoms is NOT HIV. If the symptoms continue you should discuss them with your doctor. This is not an HIV situation.
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Re: HIV. Scared. Terrified.
« Reply #2 on: February 15, 2013, 03:35:01 PM »
Hi Andy.

Sorry but I didnt realize that my post was misleading. I already edited it. The 2nd guy was also anal me being the top. So yeah, i think I had an unprotected exposure.

I am still worried. :(

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« Reply #3 on: February 22, 2013, 11:12:49 PM »
Hi. I got tested last week at 6 weeks post exposure and got a negative result. But just a week after that, yesterday, I had a high fever and severe diarrhea. I always throw up and feel very week. Could this be late ars? Are there any cases of being negative at 6 weeks to be positive after that? I am really terrified right now.

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« Reply #4 on: February 22, 2013, 11:39:26 PM »
Your 6 week test is conclusive and you do not have HIV , if you are feeling ill it has nothing to do with HIV . Its flu season so go see your doctor if you are sick .

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« Reply #5 on: February 23, 2013, 12:02:48 AM »
If you had unprotected anal sex then you can obtain your conclusive test result 3 months post exposure.

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« Reply #6 on: February 23, 2013, 12:14:16 AM »
My apologies Red , I didn't read carefully enough and Rod is correct on the 3 month post exposure if you had unprotected sex .

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Re: HIV. Scared. Terrified.
« Reply #7 on: February 23, 2013, 07:33:16 AM »

While your six week negative isn't quite conclusive, it's highly unlikely to change.

The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days. A six week negative is highly unlikely to change, but must be confirmed at the three month point.

I don't expect your result to change, but you do need to confirm at three months.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence. Make sure you do this - a correctly used condom rarely breaks.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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