Subscribe to:
POZ magazine
Join POZ: Facebook MySpace Twitter Pinterest
Tumblr Google+ Flickr Instagram
POZ Personals
Sign In / Join
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
May 30, 2015, 05:08:07 PM

Login with username, password and session length

  • Total Posts: 665910
  • Total Topics: 51214
  • Online Today: 211
  • Online Ever: 585
  • (January 07, 2014, 02:31:47 PM)
Users Online


Welcome to the POZ/AIDSmeds Community Forums, a round-the-clock discussion area for people with HIV/AIDS, their friends/family/caregivers, and others concerned about HIV/AIDS.  Click on the links below to browse our various forums; scroll down for a glance at the most recent posts; or join in the conversation yourself by registering on the left side of this page.

Privacy Warning:  Please realize that these forums are open to all, and are fully searchable via Google and other search engines. If you are HIV positive and disclose this in our forums, then it is almost the same thing as telling the whole world (or at least the World Wide Web). If this concerns you, then do not use a username or avatar that are self-identifying in any way. We do not allow the deletion of anything you post in these forums, so think before you post.

  • The information shared in these forums, by moderators and members, is designed to complement, not replace, the relationship between an individual and his/her own physician.

  • All members of these forums are, by default, not considered to be licensed medical providers. If otherwise, users must clearly define themselves as such.

  • Forums members must behave at all times with respect and honesty. Posting guidelines, including time-out and banning policies, have been established by the moderators of these forums. Click here for “Am I Infected?” posting guidelines. Click here for posting guidelines pertaining to all other POZ/AIDSmeds community forums.

  • We ask all forums members to provide references for health/medical/scientific information they provide, when it is not a personal experience being discussed. Please provide hyperlinks with full URLs or full citations of published works not available via the Internet. Additionally, all forums members must post information which are true and correct to their knowledge.

  • Product advertisement—including links; banners; editorial content; and clinical trial, study or survey participation—is strictly prohibited by forums members unless permission has been secured from POZ.

To change forums navigation language settings, click here (members only), Register now

Para cambiar sus preferencias de los foros en español, haz clic aquí (sólo miembros), Regístrate ahora

Finished Reading This? You can collapse this or any other box on this page by clicking the symbol in each box.

Welcome to Am I Infected

Posted Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Welcome to the "Am I Infected?" POZ forum.

New members -- those who have posted three or fewer messages -- are permitted to post questions and responses, free of charge (make them count!). Ongoing participation in the "Am I Infected?" forum -- posting more than three questions or responses -- requires a paid subscription.

A seven-day subscription is $9.99, a 30-day subscription is $14.99 and a 90-day subscription is $24.99.

Anyone who needs to post more than three messages in the "Am I Infected?" forum -- including past, present and future POZ Forums members -- will need to subscribe, with secure payments made via PayPal.

There will be no charge to continue reading threads in the "Am I Infected?" forum, nor will there be a charge for participating in any of the Main Forums; Meds, Mind, Body & Benefits; and Off Topic Forums. Similarly, all POZ and AIDSmeds pages, including our "How is HIV Transmitted?" and "Am I Infected? (A Guide to Testing for HIV)" lessons, will remain accessible to all. 

NOTE: HIV testing questions will still need to be posted in the "Am I Infected?" forum; attempts to post HIV symptoms or testing questions in any other forums will be considered violations of our rules of membership and subject to time-outs and permanent bans.

To learn how to upgrade your Forums account to participate beyond three posts in the "Am I Infected?" Forum, please click here.

Thank you for your understanding and future support of the best online support service for people living with, affected by and at risk for HIV.

Author Topic: i think i had infected my girlfriend  (Read 1726 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline shawan

  • Standard
  • Member
  • Posts: 3
i think i had infected my girlfriend
« on: February 10, 2013, 08:57:30 PM »
Hi..i feel very guilty now..i dont know what to do..
On 3 november last year, i had gone to a massage palor..i received:
1. Body massage
2. Handjob
While the session, i also inserted my finger in her vagina and fingering inside her for about 30 minutes.after fingering her, i realised that my skin at the top of my finger( near the fingernail) had peeled back and i can see the red layer under the peeled back skin. I am very sure that the skin on my finger had peeled back WHILE i fingered inside her vagina. I know that you guys will tell me that that is not a risk. But...i had experiencing symptoms:
1. 3 days - i had fever and headache. The head ache was like i'm having migrain and it lasted for about 1 week.
2. 5 day- dark and black spots That look like moles appeared on the back side of both of my arms.
3. 11 day- i had swollen gland on the right side of the neck. Gone to see the doctor and he said that my lymphnode swollen.
4. 18 day- rashes appeared on my arms, chest, stomach and leg. They dissapeared after i applied some aloevera helly but they come back after that.the lympnode still swollen and some new swollen.
5. I also feel muscle ache on my arms and legs.
6. Feel very tired.
7. Always feel sleepy and burning sensation at the eyes.
After a couple of weeks, the symptoms gone but tiredness in the eyes still there and untill now. Sonetimes i also feel tired especially when i'm driving.

What make me felt very nervous is..on 27 january 2013, i had unprotected sex with my gf.on the next day, she had stomachache and diarrhea. I also noticed that black spot like moles also appeared on her arms. 2 weeks after that, she had sore throat, fever, muscleache all over the body,feel very tired and fatigue.yesterday, i realised that she also have some rashes on her arms. She also said that her eyes feel very tired.
This had make me feel very nervous and guilty.
For your information, i'm from malaysia and the masseuse that i fingered was a thai. Please anyone...tell me what happened. You guys always said that fingering is not a risk. But why all of this happened to me. My gf dont know that i had the exposure. I'm not lying..i'm telling the truth here..

Online Jeff G

  • Member
  • Posts: 14,675
  • How am I doing Beren ?
Re: i think i had infected my girlfriend
« Reply #1 on: February 10, 2013, 10:29:44 PM »
Hi Shawan . The incident you described is NOT a risk for HIV . You cant get HIV from fingering or masturbation period . You do not have to worry about the peeled back skin on your finger as a route for HIV transmission . HIV is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Here is what you need to know in order to protect your self from HIV . You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions unless your in a monogamous relationship where you are both secure in your relationship .

The symptoms you described are NOT specific to HIV so you can put your mind at ease , if you continue to feel unwell see your doctor for a check up and see if he / she can figure out whats wrong with you . 

Offline shawan

  • Standard
  • Member
  • Posts: 3
Re: i think i had infected my girlfriend
« Reply #2 on: February 10, 2013, 10:48:24 PM »
Yes..i know that..but..my finger was INSIDE her vagina and tHe skin was peeled back INSIDE her vagina..

Online Jeff G

  • Member
  • Posts: 14,675
  • How am I doing Beren ?
Re: i think i had infected my girlfriend
« Reply #3 on: February 11, 2013, 12:00:17 AM »
Yes..i know that..but..my finger was INSIDE her vagina and tHe skin was peeled back INSIDE her vagina..

There has never been a single documented case where HIV was transmitted in the manner you described and I'm certain you wont be the first .

I read your concerns very carefully and you should be confident as I am that fingering a vagina with a nick or raw place on your finger is not a risk for HIV . You can stop worrying about this no risk situation .

Offline shawan

  • Standard
  • Member
  • Posts: 3
Re: i think i had infected my girlfriend
« Reply #4 on: February 11, 2013, 01:40:29 AM »
Ok..tq..but why i get the symptoms? Why my gf get the symptoms?
I totally scared and confuse here..

Offline jkinatl2

  • Member
  • Posts: 6,007
  • Doo. Dah. Dipp-ity.
Re: i think i had infected my girlfriend
« Reply #5 on: February 11, 2013, 02:21:50 AM »
Ok..tq..but why i get the symptoms? Why my gf get the symptoms?
I totally scared and confuse here..

I am sorry that you and your gf have been ill. From the activity you described, there is no basis in science for HIV to be the culprit.

You had NO risk for HIV.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

Welcome Thread


Terms of Membership for these forums

© 2015 Smart + Strong. All Rights Reserved.   terms of use and your privacy
Smart + Strong® is a registered trademark of CDM Publishing, LLC.