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is my incident a risk for HIV?
« on: February 08, 2013, 11:31:51 PM »
Hi, I recently spent time with a female escort, we began by dry humping by rubbing genitals with my boxers on, we then continued with a protected handjob.

Also roughly 5 days later i developed a rash which is really itchy on my legs between my thighs and is moving down towards my calves), to which it is now the 14th day and  is still here, is this a symptom of HIV?

I told my Doctor and he said i have absolutely nothing to worry about at all, but i still have this anxiety problem.

I know my boxers buttons were intact but what if during the dry humping period i penetrated her with my boxers on i.e. penis with boxers inside vagina, is this possible, if so am i at risk?
« Last Edit: February 08, 2013, 11:34:08 PM by gs279 »

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Re: is my incident a risk for HIV?
« Reply #1 on: February 08, 2013, 11:53:16 PM »
Hi, I recently spent time with a female escort, we began by dry humping by rubbing genitals with my boxers on, we then continued with a protected handjob.

Also roughly 5 days later i developed a rash which is really itchy on my legs between my thighs and is moving down towards my calves), to which it is now the 14th day and  is still here, is this a symptom of HIV?

I told my Doctor and he said i have absolutely nothing to worry about at all, but i still have this anxiety problem.

I know my boxers buttons were intact but what if during the dry humping period i penetrated her with my boxers on i.e. penis with boxers inside vagina, is this possible, if so am i at risk?

HIV is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect. For this reason, bodily fluids outside the body do not pose a risk and that means masturbation or rubbing in the way you described is not a risk for HIV infection.


Your doctor gave you very sound advice you can count on . The situation you described in no way was a risk for HIV . I hope this puts your fear to rest .   

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Re: is my incident a risk for HIV?
« Reply #2 on: February 09, 2013, 04:31:24 AM »
Ok but the thing that worries me is that i may have possibly penetrated her with my boxers on, is this possible? if it did happen would it pose a hiv risk?

Also i have this itchy rash that is spreading along my leg, and i have no explanation for it which started roughly on the 5th day and is now 14th day and is continuing to spread along my leg, symptom of hiv?

or am i just over analysing the situation and trying to make something out of nothing?   I welcome and appreciate any advice you can give me.

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Re: is my incident a risk for HIV?
« Reply #3 on: February 09, 2013, 06:54:42 AM »
gs,

NO! You would not have been able to penetrate her through your boxers. Even an attempt to do so would have hurt her and she WOULD have shoved you off her.

You haven't had a risk for hiv infection by any stretch of the imagination.

If the rash persists, get it checked out. Whatever is going on has nothing to do with hiv. Hiv does not cause itchy genital rashes.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST SPECIFICALLY FOR HIV OVER ANY OF THE ACTIVITIES YOU'RE WORRIED ABOUT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Did i put myself at risk?
« Reply #4 on: February 11, 2013, 07:23:21 PM »
Hi there i slept with an escort, I had a tiny tiny cut on my lip (which was not bleeding) so i told her i wouldn't kiss her on the lips, so i kissed her chest which had red spots. i didnt see any blood on her chest just red spots, but lets assume she was bleeding.

I finished with a protected handjob/blowjob using a condom. i put the condom as soon as we began.

did i put myself at risk with the cut on my lip when kissing her chest? any risk of hiv through this small small cut on my lip which was was not bleeding just looked sore, potentially kissing the red spots? ( which i don't remember doing but it a possibility)

I asked her if she had STD's she says she got checked for them all and is healthy, i explicitly asked for HIV testing she said yes that was part of the test (does she have a reason to lie to me?)

do i need to get tested? or do i have no reason whatsoever to panic.


Any consolation, i will no longer sleep around any more i need a monogamous relationship, the anxiety caused by these HIV scares is intolerable and I have to stop because i am treating these women as you can read in the description in such a vulgar manner that is not acceptable.

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Re: Did i put myself at risk?
« Reply #5 on: February 11, 2013, 07:44:30 PM »
Hi there i slept with an escort, I had a tiny tiny cut on my lip (which was not bleeding) so i told her i wouldn't kiss her on the lips, so i kissed her chest which had red spots. i didnt see any blood on her chest just red spots, but lets assume she was bleeding.

I finished with a protected handjob/blowjob using a condom. i put the condom as soon as we began.

did i put myself at risk with the cut on my lip when kissing her chest? any risk of hiv through this small small cut on my lip which was was not bleeding just looked sore, potentially kissing the red spots? ( which i don't remember doing but it a possibility)

I asked her if she had STD's she says she got checked for them all and is healthy, i explicitly asked for HIV testing she said yes that was part of the test (does she have a reason to lie to me?)

do i need to get tested? or do i have no reason whatsoever to panic.


Any consolation, i will no longer sleep around any more i need a monogamous relationship, the anxiety caused by these HIV scares is intolerable and I have to stop because i am treating these women as you can read in the description in such a vulgar manner that is not acceptable.

Under no circumstances is this an HIV situation.

HIV is a very fragile virus, and is sexually transmitted through unprotected vaginal and anal sex. Kissing, oral sex, and probably any scenario you can imagine presents NO RISK for HIV.

Even with cute on your lip, chapped lips, chapped fingers, cut fingers, all that.

You had absolutely no risk.

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Re: Did i put myself at risk?
« Reply #6 on: February 11, 2013, 07:46:59 PM »
Hi gs279 . Since you are only allowed to post in the AM I infected forum please remember to post all of your questions in your original thread here .

There is no need to start another thread everytime you wish to ask a question and I have merged the threads you have started into one  .

Thanks Jeff . 
« Last Edit: February 11, 2013, 07:50:20 PM by Jeff G »

 


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