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Where there's a will...


...there's a bunch of people waiting for you to die...

Finally got around to working on a will. Not that there's a lot to give away but a will certainly helps avoid some unnecessary legal complications.

I have already had a Medical Proxy for some years. One of my best friends. He knows when I want the plug pulled. Being a true hardcore New Yorker he won't have a problem doing it either. Which is why I asked him. We've talked about how we'd want things done if we were incapacitated. So it's not some whim of the moment. Still...I know it's a hard thing for someone to accept that responsibility. But I'm really glad he decided to take it.

Also had made the decision years ago that I want to be cremated. Then have my ashes spread at the beach I love. Everyone knows this including parents and friends. Don't want a lot of money spent on funeral things. At least from my perspective that is a waste of money that can find a better use.

What all have the rest of you done prepping for the "END." Other than a will and a Medical Proxy are there other arrangements you've made.

do you want and do you have a living will (a DNR "do not resuscitate" document)? It's different from the Medical Power of Attorney (I think that's what you mean by "medical proxy"). If you don't want extreme measures taken at the last, the living will is a good document for your medical proxy to have on hand so that they can further prove they are making the appropriate decisions you would want.

need  to be  sure that the  Facility (  Hospital/clinic/ ER  etc)  accepts  the  DNR   some places  will not  do it,,   many places insist that a Dr acknowledge  and sign  the  document... even then they may ignore it and put you on life  support  anyway....  most  common is  to have  all  available  family there to agree to  stop  "extraordinary measure" ...unfortunately have been thru this  scene  twice

both time  ended with "family members" agreeing  and  Hospital/Dr accepting the  result.....having the  document  just  got the  discussion started


Good points made by all. When I finally ( I put it off too) made all my final arrangements I found the experience quite liberating.

Reminds me once again, and please forgive me if you heard it before, of a queen I knew who was fired from his waiter/waitress job as he was starting to get sick. This was the early 90's so everyone here can relate. His last wishes, following cremation, were that his ashes be put into all the pepper shakers in this restaurant. We never did any such thing but to this day, whenever I see a pepper shaker, I think of Deva. RIP brother.

Anybody here remember the Gram Parson's story? When he died (overdose) he was boxed up and was to be air mailed to Florida. His friend's, in a slightly convincing hearse, show up at LAX and stole his body (with box). They took him up to Joshua Tree and torched him with gasoline, as per his wishes. The only thing they charged them with was desecration of a corpse. Cremation is no longer cheap.



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