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Offline zhangkaiwen

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precum on the outside of condom
« on: December 25, 2012, 04:38:15 AM »

So here is the situation. I had sex (i bottomed) with a guy i met online. When i was putting the condom on his penis, i saw i have pushed down some precum when i rolled down the condom. So there was some precum (he precumed a lot) sitting on the base of the shaft where the condom ended. And i put some lube and received.

do you guys think this was risky at all? does this count as incorrect use of condom?

thanks for your time and help in advance.


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Re: precum on the outside of condom
« Reply #1 on: December 25, 2012, 09:49:20 AM »
That does not count as incorrect use of a condom. Even if his precum was highly infectious, HIV cannot remain viable outside the body. Not even for a moment. Your sex as you described it was totally protected. Keep up the good work :)
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Re: precum on the outside of condom
« Reply #2 on: January 02, 2013, 03:42:44 PM »
Hi guys, thanks to jkinatl2's reply first,

I just have a few questions about the testing methods. So two days ago, i felt a little pain behind my right ear when i swallowed water, so i pressed the areas behind my ears, and the right one felt harder and tender when pressed hard.

I have been thinking to get a test, but I'm aware of the three months window period, and I know not all people who are infected experience seroconversion illness.

But would the tests be able to pick up anything during the seroconversion? I have read that the p24 antigen test detects hiv in the early stage of infection, so is this test going to give relatively conclusive results during possible seroconversion?

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Re: precum on the outside of condom
« Reply #3 on: January 02, 2013, 05:25:33 PM »
Stop pressing and squeezing your bits and places. You'll create a problem where there may not be any. See your doctor if that sensitivity persists.

I'm in complete agreement that you are worrying needlessly. There was no risk and no need for testing on your part unless you need the inevitable negative result just for your peace of mind.

If you had a for real risk, which I hasten to say you did not, then you would need an HIV test. That can be done at 6 weeks and if the result is negative that points the way to a conclusive negative at 3 months. But all of this is unnecessary for you because please believe me, you were not at risk in the situation you have described. Really. 
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Re: precum on the outside of condom
« Reply #4 on: January 18, 2013, 09:07:15 PM »

The other day had protected receptive anal sex. I checked the condom was still intact after he came. But I looked at the package and saw the condom was expired a month ago. He said not to worry because it was not that long ago it expired.

I also did some research afterwards and found out that condoms should not be stored in hot places like a glovebox in a car. And it freaked me out b/c I used condoms stored in my glovebox a few times (although I check every time they did not break after use).

So can out dated and/or heated condoms fail without breakage? People say heat weakens latex, does that mean weakened condom will break more easily or weakened condom will fail even no breakage was apparent?


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Re: precum on the outside of condom
« Reply #5 on: January 19, 2013, 06:57:08 AM »

NO, condoms do not fail without obvious breakage. If any of the condoms used had broken, you would have known.

Just because a condom is a little out of date or has not been stored correctly does not mean it will definitely break. It just means it makes it more likely.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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