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mafioso86:
first of all i'd like to say how much this site had educated me and others that i know...my story is the following...

i've started dating someone who is hiv positive. i really really like him. i am scared of how to go about being sexual with him. so far we've had hardcore kissing which i know is safe and fingering...which i think is safe even though he is pretty wet....he's also told me that with his medicine he's become undetectable...which i take is a good thing

i would like to know if what i'm doing with fingering is safe.i know that kissing is safe no matter how hardcore it is. and i would also like to know what i can do to continue dating him and how to have a healthy sexual relationship with him without any fears....

Mrmojorisin:
To have a healthy sexual relationship with anyone simply means to use condoms for anal and vaginal sex. Fingering is safe and is not at all a danger for transmission

mafioso86:
thanks, he said his viral load is undectable or so low or whatever. there just seems to be alot of misinformation on the internet. even with kissing i read somewhere that if you both have cuts there's a risk. i'm trying to go into this openheartedly

jkinatl2:

--- Quote from: mafioso86 on December 25, 2012, 05:26:27 PM ---thanks, he said his viral load is undectable or so low or whatever. there just seems to be alot of misinformation on the internet. even with kissing i read somewhere that if you both have cuts there's a risk. i'm trying to go into this openheartedly

--- End quote ---

If you use a condom for anal sex you will avoid HIV infection.  That's what we tell worried well people in the Am I Infected forum. Kiss all you want/can. Saliva contains over a dozen identified elements that render HIV incapable of infection.

Fingering is also not a risk for HIV.

I'm not going to go into the controversy regarding oral sex except to suggest you read my signature line.  As one of the people authorized to give risk assessments on the Am I Infected forum, in addition to assisting in the development of the Lessons section on this site regarding HIV transmission, I can assure you that we use current peer reviewed study that, unlike other sites, does not incorporate obsolete or disproven fear-mongering or anecdote disguised as data.

mafioso86:
i love my man he is so sexy. i'm going to try to make this work, he says his viral load is below 1% and that i have a chance of seeing a unicorn before we get it from kissing. maybe we'll look into sex toys or something

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