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Author Topic: Hello, I would like it very much for you to help me.  (Read 921 times)

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Offline WorryDelRey

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Hello, I would like it very much for you to help me.
« on: December 22, 2012, 03:41:46 PM »
Hi there dear experts, thank you so much for all your help with everyone's doubts and problems. Here's my situation:

Last september 19th I engaged in unprotected oral sex with a man I had just met. The oral sex lasted about 20 minutes and he didn't cum inside my mouth, yet some semen drops fell on my tongue. I don't know the status of the man, but he told me he was negative. And I told him about my fears to get sick and how I thought oral sex was no risk, and he told me I would be okay.

During the intercourse I deepthroated him.

When it was over I went as fast as I could and washed my mouth with water, washed my tongue, and gargled with some water. I felt okay, but when I got home anxiety struck me so I started washing my teeth violently and gargling with listerine, and my throat started to hurt.

My throat hurted for about 4 days and I was worried it could be ARS so I told my parents about the encounter and they took me to do an ELISA test 5 days after the encounter, and it came out negative. But I know it's not conclusive so I don't know if I should trust it or I should retest now that I'm 3 months after it.

The thing is, I'm still anxious about this encounter. 6 weeks after the encounter I had a flu-like thing. But I had lots of phlem and a runny nose. I searched online and it said that ARS didn't come with a runny nose so I guess it was just a normal cold. Then a few weeks ago I had an inflamed lymph node in my groin, just one tiny one. And I researched and it said that during ARS more than one lymph node would have inflamed. Is all this true? Should I be worried? Should I retest?

I don't know if I should trust the guy, half my mind does, the other half is running around in anxiety. I remember there were some pills in his nighttable but I think it would be rude for me to think they are antiretrovirals or something. But in case he was HIV+ and was already on meds, would the risk be lower?

Was I ever at risk?

I know you get lots and lots of these things about oral sex but please, help this poor guy have a peace of mind during christmas season. And my therapist said that talking to HIV experts would help. Thank you very much for reading.

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« Reply #1 on: December 22, 2012, 11:57:10 PM »
Also, I don't know if it's important to note but just before engaging in the oral sex I had eaten and I had not washed my teeth in some hours. Since I had eaten does this mean that the PH in my saliva could save me from any case of infection, or is it the contrary? Same thing with the enzymes in the saliva, could they be more active since they are meant to be breaking down what I was eating?

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Re: Hello, I would like it very much for you to help me.
« Reply #2 on: December 23, 2012, 12:09:05 AM »
This is not an HIV situation. HIV is spread sexually through unprotected anal and vaginal sex.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Offline WorryDelRey

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« Reply #3 on: December 23, 2012, 12:21:13 AM »
So there's no point in retesting?

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« Reply #4 on: December 23, 2012, 12:41:29 AM »
Not unless it's strictly for peace of mind.

Every sexually active adult ought to have a twice yearly STD panel, including an HIV test.
"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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