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Author Topic: Probably Freaking Out over Nothing, But Still Worried  (Read 289 times)

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Offline ArcAngel796

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Probably Freaking Out over Nothing, But Still Worried
« on: September 12, 2014, 12:40:45 PM »
Okay, I get HIV tested once a year in July. In mid-June, I had sex with another man and used a condom for the anal sex the whole time as the penetrative partner. However, we did not use a condom during oral sex. He performed oral sex on me for a couple of minutes and I returned the favor for 20 seconds max. He did not cum in my mouth and I'm not even sure if there was any pre-cum. I absolutely hate giving oral for these reasons. However, I have a nervous tick and unconsciously bite my gums for some reason. I've always done it. I also had a small cut on my lip from cutting it a little the day before. I'm just worried about possibly getting HIV from this incident. When I tested in July, I was negative, and that calmed me down a lot. However, I did catch a small cold that went away after 5 days, which I think I got from the gym. Lord knows those machines are a cesspool for nasty bacteria.

So, I guess it was the cold that just got me thinking about ARS and scared me all over again. However, like I said, it was short and most of the symptoms cleared up after one day. Hence why I'm convinced it was a cold. It's not like I haven't done oral before, and those times I ended up negative too. So, am I just getting myself all riled up? Any advice?

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Re: Probably Freaking Out over Nothing, But Still Worried
« Reply #1 on: September 12, 2014, 01:10:44 PM »
Hey Arc,

You are worrying completely unnecessarily. The ONLY confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. All of the details like your nervously bitting your lip, etc., are not risks. Receiving oral is absolutely not a risk. As far as giving oral, your saliva contains over a dozen elements and proteins which very effectively prevent the transmission of HIV in a viable form.

There's no need for testing nor for further concern on your part.

Take a breath and get on with your life. Really.
Andy Velez

Offline ArcAngel796

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Re: Probably Freaking Out over Nothing, But Still Worried
« Reply #2 on: September 12, 2014, 01:59:22 PM »
Thank you so much! It's funny too, after the incident I started noticing HIV more when I saw it around me and I was convinced it was someone sending me subliminal messages. I know it's crazy but still, it scared the heck out of me. Well, at least I won't have a one-night stand ever again. This was enough to completely turn me away from that. Take care on any account! And thanks again for calming me down a million!

Offline ArcAngel796

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Just an update and final question!
« Reply #3 on: Today at 12:33:48 PM »
So I wrote in about having performed oral on a man without a condom. As I stated before, he did not ejaculate in my mouth and any further sex was with a condom. Yesterday, out of an abundance of caution, I went to a local HIV clinic and got an HIV test. It came back negative and I am now so much calmer following that test. I just have one final question. I got the test at 89 days past incident instead of 90. Can I still consider the test conclusive? My money is on yes but some reassurance couldn't hurt.

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Re: Probably Freaking Out over Nothing, But Still Worried
« Reply #4 on: Today at 12:44:50 PM »
Your test is conclusive, you are negative.



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