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Offline Fondoo

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I'm too sexy for this curse!
« on: November 24, 2012, 06:58:39 PM »
   Help. I am having a hard time being single. It scares the crap out of me.

 divorced 5yrs, still in court fighting to father my 7 year old daughter. recently started to open up to women again.
    I am unused to the amount of sex energy coming at me. One of the warnings of the yogic path I follow is having to deal with being more attractive. Sex karma is heavy. HIV laws are horrifying. i have been practicing 5 years so this is new.
   
   I am looking for some support. I am 46 years old and like to dance. I recently started going out and cannot believe what girls today want to do on the dance floor! My body wants to F%$K them all!!
   
 i am a responsible man so i don't go f%^king around but I have been shutting my sexuality down allot. It is unhealthy. any advice on healthy safe, uncomplicated ways of playing with sex energy would be great.
   
 
 
  this situation is as scary as it is great. Hell I could play HIV laws by the #'s and all she has to do is lie and me and my families life goes to hell. i have major trust issues right now, but still need a woman! arg..
 
   
  The last time I hung out at this site was to get advice dealing with full blown AIDS. My current doctor believes I was misdiagnosed because she can see no trace of the trauma in my body. I wanted to share that for anyone considering (traditional) yoga.

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #1 on: November 24, 2012, 07:42:52 PM »

  The last time I hung out at this site was to get advice dealing with full blown AIDS. My current doctor believes I was misdiagnosed because she can see no trace of the trauma in my body. I wanted to share that for anyone considering (traditional) yoga.

namaste
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Are you saying you don't have teh AIDS anymore -- as in no antibodies detected?
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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #2 on: November 24, 2012, 07:55:25 PM »
any advice on healthy safe, uncomplicated ways of playing with sex energy would be great.
use a condom and/or stay adherent to meds to stay undetectable
oh, and lube!  ;)

My current doctor believes I was misdiagnosed because she can see no trace of the trauma in my body. I wanted to share that for anyone considering (traditional) yoga.
trauma has nothing to do with HIV. If you received a Western blot positive, you have HIV. period. What kind of doctor believes you were "misdiagnosed"? You should be seeing an Infectious Disease doctor to treat HIV.
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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #3 on: November 24, 2012, 11:00:37 PM »
Mind boggling. It must be dreadful to be that handsome and carry a virus.

Thank goodness the rest of us are shit-ugly and therefore used to stigma.

Also, you are now HIV Negative? Awesome! Please do go on.

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Offline wolfter

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #4 on: November 24, 2012, 11:03:10 PM »
HIV being a curse is so 80's.  Been there done that! :o  And the irony is, I saw many not so sexy people also suffering.  Even (gasp) straight people and children.
Complacency is the enemy.  ;)  Challenge yourself daily for maximum  return on investment.

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #5 on: November 24, 2012, 11:14:30 PM »
Oh please , like yoga can cure aids . If putting our legs behind our ears could cure aids half of the forum would be cured by now .

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #6 on: November 24, 2012, 11:34:31 PM »
If putting our legs behind our ears could cure aids half of the forum would be cured by now .

Perhaps that was just a partial vaccine?  It prevented us from getting the super AIDS.   ;D
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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #7 on: November 24, 2012, 11:37:06 PM »
**yawns**  ::)
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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #8 on: November 25, 2012, 05:14:11 AM »
Fondoo you are going to get some ridicule unless you clarify some parts of your story.

Most important - you mean you think never have "full blown AIDS"?  Well that is a pretty loose term and sometimes not so meaningful in this day and age. Some people who once had very low numbers, DO have spectacular results from HAART meds, and reconstituted immune systems.  I am guess this is what you mean.  (You don't mean that you are not HIV+ anymore, right?)

2)  So what state do you live in with the tough HIV tranmission and disclosure laws? Please list here, exactly what you are up against, if you hope to get useful advice.  If there are no laws abotu DISCLOSURE, then half the evil has been avoided and less a chance of "he said, she said" being a problem.

3)  You can call it a curse, OK, I understand that feeling, but thinking like that does not seem particularly suited to the peace of mind yoga might help create.

4)  Obviously the one great way to get your freak on regularly without anxiety would be to have an HIV+ lover.  Or a lover who knows your status and 100% an deal with it..  Yeah, I know, not wo easy to find.

« Last Edit: November 25, 2012, 05:18:22 AM by mecch »
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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #9 on: November 25, 2012, 02:05:47 PM »
  My doctor can see no trace of the MAC or PCP that almost killed me. I also went a couple years of double digit t-cell counts Usually she said there would be lingering damage. I am a 20 year survivor.
   
  I just needed to blow off some steam.I took a girl out from tango class, second date she asks me about sex disease.
   I tell her about HIV and get dumped. I just need to harden up a bit. Most HIV lovers would have to relocate to Hawaii so it is tough.

   I forget this is no place for "me" to find emotional support. Thank you all for the help in the past. If I need some medical info or what not I will come back.
Namaste

 If anyone knows of a forum for HIV that is more gentle and loving please P.M. me

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #10 on: November 25, 2012, 06:08:28 PM »
  My doctor can see no trace of the MAC or PCP that almost killed me. I also went a couple years of double digit t-cell counts Usually she said there would be lingering damage. I am a 20 year survivor.
   
  I just needed to blow off some steam.I took a girl out from tango class, second date she asks me about sex disease.
   I tell her about HIV and get dumped. I just need to harden up a bit. Most HIV lovers would have to relocate to Hawaii so it is tough.

   I forget this is no place for "me" to find emotional support. Thank you all for the help in the past. If I need some medical info or what not I will come back.
Namaste

 If anyone knows of a forum for HIV that is more gentle and loving please P.M. me

I think we've been awfully gentle and kind, considering the original post in this thread. Sometimes it's hard to read intent into the written word, and going on at some length about your sex energy and attractiveness might, to some, seem less like a self-aware statement and more like, perhaps, over-the-top arrogant narcissism.

I rather think, under the appropriate light, I'm freaking adorable. But I don't go on and on about it.

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Offline phildinftlaudy

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #11 on: November 25, 2012, 06:10:30 PM »

 If anyone knows of a forum for HIV that is more gentle and loving please P.M. me

Perhaps match.com? e-harmony? or "akindergentlerhivforum.com"?

Wish you the best - remember, sometimes the response given is directly in line with the post (or lack of initial clarity in it). For better or worse, many thousands of people have found support here - sometimes it does not come in the form they would prefer it to, but they find it supportive nevertheless.

Hope you find what you are looking for - just remember that sometimes what we are looking for isn't always what we actually need. Sometimes what we need comes in a way that is uncomfortable, but keeps us alive and helps us move further in our journey.
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12/10  740    41  <48   
8/11    667    36  <20  
03/12  1,041  42  <20
05/12  1,241  47  <20
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Offline mecch

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #12 on: November 25, 2012, 06:28:31 PM »
  My doctor can see no trace of the MAC or PCP that almost killed me. I also went a couple years of double digit t-cell counts Usually she said there would be lingering damage. I am a 20 year survivor.

That's great.
And why do you think you should still have MAC or PCP.  The body can heal, you know. I'm glad your immune system is doing fine!

About the other stuff, not sure what rubbed you the wrong way.

But if you care to actually explain what the HIV laws you are so worried about, maybe people can discuss this.  Many have given the same questions a lot of thought.  I don't see why you need to bolt this forum.  After all, we aren't here to hook up with each other, or to provide you a list of eligible partners.  Why not discuss the interesting the topic you introduced, above?
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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #13 on: November 25, 2012, 08:03:57 PM »
After all, we aren't here to hook up with each other

Oh, I certainly am. Especially the young ones. The Young & the Hung. [ref. William Higgins/Catalina c. 1985]
« Last Edit: November 25, 2012, 08:06:46 PM by Miss Philicia »
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Offline Rev. Moon

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #14 on: November 25, 2012, 08:33:08 PM »
Oh, I certainly am. Especially the young ones. The Young & the Hung. [ref. William Higgins/Catalina c. 1985]

My main goal when I joined this forum was to eventually hook up with Mecch and The Bivens.  I am still patiently waiting.
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Offline WillyWump

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #15 on: November 25, 2012, 09:40:23 PM »
   
    I am unused to the amount of sex energy coming at me.

 is having to deal with being more attractive.
   
   

I dont really do any Yogi stuff,  but being super attractive and having all the sex  thrown at me is a daily curse for me. It can be tough. I feel your pain brother.
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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #16 on: November 25, 2012, 10:30:38 PM »
I dont really do any Yogi stuff,  but being super attractive and having all the sex  thrown at me is a daily curse for me. It can be tough. I feel your pain brother.

LOL...this is why I lubs ya.

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Offline Denver Toad

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #17 on: November 26, 2012, 03:18:31 PM »
Fondoo,

An example of ambiguity;
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Most HIV lovers would have to relocate to Hawaii so it is tough.

Do you mean lovers of HIV, as in folks that are smitten with the virus, need Hawaiian beach therapy ?

Or; People in love, serodiscordant I assume, need to relocate to Hawaii to deal with the stress of the relationship.


Rest assured my friend when I've traveled to Hawaii, we were married on Kauai, my HIV made the trip there and back unaffected and fully intact. Dealing with a virus was no more, or no less, difficult (tough) no matter the location. Admittedly a Mai Tia or three left me less concerned temporarily but in the morning nothing had changed.

Extensive and nightly research revealed that the best Mai Tia on the island of Kauai was found at Kalypso Bar and Grill.

http://www.kalypsokauai.com/index.html



 

 
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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #18 on: November 26, 2012, 07:28:51 PM »
I'd have to relocate to San Antonio if I'm going to ever feast on those delectable shrunken Raisinette® testicles. At least he carries a condom so I don't have to catch chlamydia and die like Coach Carr says.

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #19 on: November 26, 2012, 09:33:27 PM »
Started Meds On 5/1/2012 Norvair, Truvada, Prezista, and Bactrim

4/17/2012--CD4 83/ VL 353,000  7.0%
5/15/2012--CD4 218/ VL 4,970    14.1%
6/27/2012--CD4 146/ VL 420      6.1%
10/11/2012-CD4-223/ VL-62       9.5%
2/14/2013--CD4-215/ VL-119      13.6%
7/3/2013---CD4-256/ VL-UD       18.0%
10/18/2013 CD4-223/ VL-UD       22.2%
01/23/2014-CD4-381/VL-UD       25.3%--Dropped the Bactrim
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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #20 on: November 27, 2012, 07:42:43 AM »

An example of ambiguity;
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Most HIV lovers would have to relocate to Hawaii so it is tough.

Do you mean lovers of HIV, as in folks that are smitten with the virus, need Hawaiian beach therapy ?

Or; People in love, serodiscordant I assume, need to relocate to Hawaii to deal with the stress of the relationship.


I think Fondoo is saying he lives in Hawaii and cannot find any poz women there on which to unleash his rampant sexuality. I get the impression he's  going by what he's found in online hiv dating sites and that they all live on the mainland and would have to relocate in order to partake in his delights.

That's my best guess, anyway.
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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #21 on: November 27, 2012, 02:49:21 PM »
I'd have to relocate to San Antonio if I'm going to ever feast on those delectable shrunken Raisinette® testicles. At least he carries a condom so I don't have to catch chlamydia and die like Coach Carr says.



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« Reply #22 on: November 27, 2012, 03:11:36 PM »

I think Fondoo is saying he lives in Hawaii and cannot find any poz women there on which to unleash his rampant sexuality. I get the impression he's  going by what he's found in online hiv dating sites and that they all live on the mainland and would have to relocate in order to partake in his delights.

That's my best guess, anyway.

I have spoken to some of my *younger* galpals in NZ and the consensus is, that partaking in his delights just isn't worth the airfare and travel time, not without some photographic evidence of this rampant sex machine, maybe some of the locals will find him appealing...or maybe not, who knows.

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #23 on: November 27, 2012, 03:12:32 PM »
http://youtu.be/39YUXIKrOFk

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« Reply #24 on: November 27, 2012, 05:11:20 PM »
I have spoken to some of my *younger* galpals in NZ and the consensus is, that partaking in his delights just isn't worth the airfare and travel time, not without some photographic evidence of this rampant sex machine, maybe some of the locals will find him appealing...or maybe not, who knows.

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Might be ok if he stumps up for the airfare and a nice four-star hotel! And if one wasn't all that impressed with him, I'm sure he could be given the slip. There's plenty of other sexy men in Hawaii who wouldn't mind a tryst with a sexy, poz woman, regardless of their own hiv status. That's what they make condoms for!

You'd just have to be sure the ticket was round-trip. ;)

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Re: I'm too sexy for this curse!
« Reply #25 on: November 27, 2012, 06:29:12 PM »
Might be ok if he stumps up for the airfare and a nice four-star hotel! And if one wasn't all that impressed with him, I'm sure he could be given the slip. There's plenty of other sexy men in Hawaii who wouldn't mind a tryst with a sexy, poz woman, regardless of their own hiv status. That's what they make condoms for!

You'd just have to be sure the ticket was round-trip. ;)

LOL...I will put this to my galpals, I don't think a wee trip would go amiss.

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« Last Edit: November 28, 2012, 01:42:06 AM by anniebc »
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« Reply #26 on: November 27, 2012, 06:32:36 PM »
LOL...I will put this to my galpals, I don't think a wee trip would go amiss.

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I will invite all you women on the forum over and cook you a meal while you watch a movie , no sex involved . I bet I would get more takers than a man with a sexy curse LOL .

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« Reply #27 on: November 27, 2012, 10:34:42 PM »
I will invite all you women on the forum over and cook you a meal while you watch a movie , no sex involved . I bet I would get more takers than a man with a sexy curse LOL .

So that is how they do that "scared straight" thing a 'ma so?

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« Reply #28 on: November 28, 2012, 01:46:10 AM »
I will invite all you women on the forum over and cook you a meal while you watch a movie , no sex involved . I bet I would get more takers than a man with a sexy curse LOL .

I do believe you would my dear, just make sure the meal is cooked to perfection, I would hate for us to go all that way only to suffer from food poisoning... ;)

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