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Offline shahforyou

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Need Assurance please! urgent
« on: November 09, 2012, 10:36:08 PM »
Dear Sir/Madam,

I am feeling very nervous and anxious after what had happened couple of days ago. I went to a massage parlour where I received a hand job from the lady and in the process I tried to have a feel of her vagina. I was on a chair and she was standing right to me performing the hand job. As far as I remember I only manage to reach the the skin above the vagina and she said not to touch the actual vagina! but just thinking of a worst case scenario, where I am not able to remember everything clearly, if I touched her vagina and any of the liquid stick to my fingers and then I touched my penis. Would that lead to any chance of getting infected from the lady? one thing for sure that my fingers where there around or on her vagina not more than 30 seconds. She also kissed me on my chick and chest (again not more than 30 seconds before I said no) as i was fully aware of what was happening. Please advise if I was at any sort of risk.

I am getting married next January 23rd, and I will be able to finish only 10 weeks of the window period so the test would not give me an accurate result as well!

Please please advise, I am really worried !

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Re: Need Assurance please! urgent
« Reply #1 on: November 10, 2012, 07:30:15 AM »
shah,

You have NOT had a risk for hiv infection.

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect. For this reason, any vaginal fluids on your fingers are OUTSIDE the body and are not able to infect.

All you need to do to prevent hiv infection is to use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER A MASSAGE, A HANDJOB, OR TOUCHING A VAGINA, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Re: Need Assurance please! urgent
« Reply #2 on: November 11, 2012, 10:26:19 AM »
Thank you Ann for your quick response, I really feel a lot better now.

So even if I touched the top of my penis soon after taking hands off her vagina, I am at no Risk at all, considering the facts of Mutual Masturbation!

I believe your answer concluded Kissing facts as well mentioned in my questions.

I am still not sure about the status of her hands though, any cuts, sores and things like that!

Once again much appreciate your quick response!

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« Reply #3 on: November 11, 2012, 10:36:31 AM »
Shah,

Kissing isn't a risk.

Being masturbated is not a risk either, regardless of cuts or whatever.

You have NOT had a risk for hiv infection. Give it up and get on with your life.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Need Assurance please! urgent
« Reply #4 on: November 13, 2012, 09:07:44 PM »
Thanks Ann for your assuring answer on HIV transmission.

Am I right in guessing there would be no risk whatsoever for the other STIs as well?

I saw a very small red dot size bump just under my chest (Left side), this can completely be ignored as any STI symptoms I believe?

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Re: Need Assurance please! urgent
« Reply #5 on: November 13, 2012, 10:12:27 PM »
Our focus here is strictly on HIV. But I will say I don't see a risk for other STDs in the activities you are reporting.
Andy Velez

 


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