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Author Topic: SE Asia prostitutes/ condom broke once near top / several encounters  (Read 688 times)

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Hi everyone,

I have spent some time over the past weeks reading the posts on this forum and am glad that it exists.
Equally, I have my own risk that makes me extremely worried.

In Cambodia, I had sex with 9 (female) prostitutes. Except for the first all were successfully protected, apart from oral sex.  (I checked each time afterwards and am sure) I tried my best to be careful, but an accident happened.

With the first, sex (vaginal) was comparatively brief, but the condom broke somewhere during the encounter. The condom was broken near the top, in a way that I believe that only the gland ("helmet") was exposed. I actually didn't notice until afterwards when (after the penis shrunk) I tested with the tap to see water running through it.

I am circumcised, if that helps in this situation. Equally, I haven't had any symptoms of any kind, apart from a short cold 3 weeks later (which involved no fever, just a wet cough, which I think was due to the temperature changeing to early monsoon season).

Though I'm sceptical, she said afterwards that she doubted she had HIV and had tested negative on a test 2 years ago. She seemed healthy, had one child.

I checked her vagina for blood afterwards, and found none, indicating she wasn't on her period.

The last appointment with the doctor made me feel quite nervous given that she seemed to draw attention to the fact that unprotected oral sex (receiving blowjobs) was still a risk that I should be concerned about.

I'd like to have an assessment what the risk is, and whether being as worried as I am is justified. I went to have a test done last week (6 weeks and a few days after the encounter in question), and will get the results tomorrow.

I'm worried about the results and it's been killing me over the past week.  Do the number of protected encounters afterwards affect the risk for the first accident? What is the risk for oral sex?  Is what I've described indicative of a cause for concern?
« Last Edit: June 18, 2014, 09:29:55 AM by idiot1234 »

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Re: SE Asia prostitutes/ condom broke once near top / several encounters
« Reply #1 on: June 18, 2014, 09:56:46 AM »
The best you can do is test at 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results . The fact that you were the insertive partner is in your favor as the insertive partner rarely goes on to test positive after a condom break .

There are several issues I have with you post . The first is there is no need to do a water test on a condom and you stand a good chance of damaging it and then are left to think you had a risk when you did not . Condoms are designed as to leave no doubt when they fail so a water test is not advisable .

The second thing is its not a good idea to ask a casual sex partner to test for HIV and examine their vaginas . Because of the testing window period asking a person to test only tells you that they did or did not have hiv 12 weeks ago... they could be in the window period and already infectious and not yet have the antibody's to test positive yet . If you have a risk for HIV the only test that matters is your own test that you took at the appropriate time . Your HIV status is your responsibility so concentrate on that and let them do the same for themselves . If I had a sex partner who asked me to go test and wanted to examine my genitals I would tell them to go fuck themselves and go get tested . Its insulting really and does not tell you a single thing .   

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple! 

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Re: SE Asia prostitutes/ condom broke once near top / several encounters
« Reply #2 on: June 18, 2014, 10:12:57 AM »
Thank you for your reply. still:

Do the number of protected encounters afterwards affect the risk for the first accident? What is the risk for oral sex?  Is oral sex i.e: receiving blowjobs, a risk for HIV?

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Re: SE Asia prostitutes/ condom broke once near top / several encounters
« Reply #3 on: June 18, 2014, 10:23:44 AM »
Thank you for your reply. still:

Do the number of protected encounters afterwards affect the risk for the first accident? What is the risk for oral sex?  Is oral sex i.e: receiving blowjobs, a risk for HIV?

Getting a blow job is not a risk for HIV . The theoretical risk for oral transmission comes from GIVING blow jobs to a man with a HIGH hiv viral load while you have large open wounds in your mouth .

Protected sex is not a risk for HIV and does not make it any less easy or harder to contract HIV if you did have a risk .

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Re: SE Asia prostitutes/ condom broke once near top / several encounters
« Reply #4 on: June 20, 2014, 03:44:35 AM »
 :)

The test came back negative on all counts: Hepatitis B and C, Syphillis and HIV.

I'm relieved. Thank you for your answers.

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Re: SE Asia prostitutes/ condom broke once near top / several encounters
« Reply #5 on: June 20, 2014, 09:12:44 AM »
You didn't have a risk for HIV so I'm not surprised ... congrats . 

 


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