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Offline Leon87

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Actual oral sex risk?
« on: October 11, 2012, 06:10:13 PM »
Hello,
so basically I've had unprotected oral sex with a guy a couple of nights ago, just that, and even though he didn't cum in my mouth (but I did in his) there was a bit of precum that surely went in my mouth cause I culd actually taste it. I don't know about the status of this guy I just know he has sex frequently but he said he always uses a condom, though he let me cum in his mouth which isn't a good sign..
I didn't worry too much about his pre-cum cause from what I know (and I've read loads about it) there's no real risk with pre-cum if you don't have serious cuts or sores in your mouth which I don't have, still, he actually might have been hiv positive so I'd like to have an opinion from you guys, should I be worried about it, I mean, about his precum in my mouth?
Oh he also fingered me and there was his salive on his fingers but from what I know that doesn't put me in any risk!
Well then, please let me know your opinion about this, as I said I'm not exactly worried but I'd like an opinion from a forum that I visit and trust.

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Re: Actual oral sex risk?
« Reply #1 on: October 11, 2012, 08:11:00 PM »
As you probably know by reading the forums, there have been three long term studies on serodiscordant couples (where one is positive and the other is negative.) These couples used condoms for anal and vaginal sex, but no barrier at all for any form of oral sex.

In the studies, three,five and ten years in length, not a single person got infected through oral sex. Not one.

Saliva contains over a dozen elements that act to neutralize HIV.  This, combined with the very low number of cells in the oral cavity that could even GET infected, makes this activity a form of safer sex.

The only caveats I can conjure up (and this is theoretical, since oral infections have not been isolated in the wild except for the notoriously unreliable patient report) is if A) your mouth is severely compromised (google "meth mouth") and your partner has an exceptionally high viral load (think millions.) In that perfect storm, I could certainly concede a possibility for infection, especially as long term meth use also inhibits saliva production, which is why a person's breath is so corpsey and his/her teeth rot out.

In short, this isn't an HIV situation unless perhaps you meet the above criteria.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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Offline Leon87

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Re: Actual oral sex risk?
« Reply #2 on: October 11, 2012, 08:32:36 PM »
Thanks for the fast and detailed reply! Of course I have no idea about the status of the other person, of course I hope he didn't have an exceptionally high viral load. About my teeth and mouth I can safely say that they are absolutely fine, not even a dental cavity.
So should I take the test anyway in about 6 weeks or can I just ignore it?
(I've already tested negative something like a year ago which was after last time I actually had sex).

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Re: Actual oral sex risk?
« Reply #3 on: October 11, 2012, 10:53:42 PM »
Thanks for the fast and detailed reply! Of course I have no idea about the status of the other person, of course I hope he didn't have an exceptionally high viral load. About my teeth and mouth I can safely say that they are absolutely fine, not even a dental cavity.
So should I take the test anyway in about 6 weeks or can I just ignore it?
(I've already tested negative something like a year ago which was after last time I actually had sex).

I honestly wouldn't worry to test over that incident, so long as you are using condoms for penetrative sex.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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Re: Actual oral sex risk?
« Reply #4 on: October 12, 2012, 07:19:32 AM »
Leon,

About testing - while you don't need to test specifically over this incident, if you're sexually active you should be getting tested on a regular basis and not just for hiv, but for all the other STIs as well.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Offline Leon87

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Re: Actual oral sex risk?
« Reply #5 on: October 15, 2012, 04:46:55 PM »
Thanks everyone for the reply!
Now, speaking of being paranoid, of course I am getting ill and well I hope it has nothing to do with what happened?It hasn't even been a week so it's too soon for it to be the virus, also this is a period in which everyone gets ill, and I know that, but I was already ill something like 2 weeks ago, is it possible to get ill again after only 2 weeks?

 


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