Quantcast

Subscribe to:
POZ magazine
E-newsletters
Join POZ: Facebook MySpace Twitter Pinterest
Tumblr Google+ Flickr MySpace
POZ Personals
Sign In / Join
Username:
Password:
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
September 02, 2014, 09:10:56 AM

Login with username, password and session length


Members
Stats
  • Total Posts: 636871
  • Total Topics: 48341
  • Online Today: 211
  • Online Ever: 585
  • (January 07, 2014, 02:31:47 PM)
Users Online

Welcome


Welcome to the POZ/AIDSmeds Community Forums, a round-the-clock discussion area for people with HIV/AIDS, their friends/family/caregivers, and others concerned about HIV/AIDS.  Click on the links below to browse our various forums; scroll down for a glance at the most recent posts; or join in the conversation yourself by registering on the left side of this page.

Privacy Warning:  Please realize that these forums are open to all, and are fully searchable via Google and other search engines. If you are HIV positive and disclose this in our forums, then it is almost the same thing as telling the whole world (or at least the World Wide Web). If this concerns you, then do not use a username or avatar that are self-identifying in any way. We do not allow the deletion of anything you post in these forums, so think before you post.

  • The information shared in these forums, by moderators and members, is designed to complement, not replace, the relationship between an individual and his/her own physician.

  • All members of these forums are, by default, not considered to be licensed medical providers. If otherwise, users must clearly define themselves as such.

  • Forums members must behave at all times with respect and honesty. Posting guidelines, including time-out and banning policies, have been established by the moderators of these forums. Click here for “Am I Infected?” posting guidelines. Click here for posting guidelines pertaining to all other POZ/AIDSmeds community forums.

  • We ask all forums members to provide references for health/medical/scientific information they provide, when it is not a personal experience being discussed. Please provide hyperlinks with full URLs or full citations of published works not available via the Internet. Additionally, all forums members must post information which are true and correct to their knowledge.

  • Product advertisement—including links; banners; editorial content; and clinical trial, study or survey participation—is strictly prohibited by forums members unless permission has been secured from POZ.

To change forums navigation language settings, click here (members only), Register now

Para cambiar sus preferencias de los foros en español, haz clic aquí (sólo miembros), Regístrate ahora

Finished Reading This? You can collapse this or any other box on this page by clicking the symbol in each box.

Author Topic: I told my BF last night  (Read 2609 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline Justme2012

  • Member
  • Posts: 14
I told my BF last night
« on: January 20, 2013, 02:10:56 PM »
We did both did oraquick together and his was neg and mine poz. I had a blood test already but wanted to see what oraquick would say. Had a discussion with my doc yesterday and she said I'm so sorry but your positive. Took me a full 8 hours and him calling constantly to confirm that I was poz. Now this is where I get confused. Doc said I was exposed recently. The guy I was with before current tested in Nov and he was neg. The last sexual encounter with that guy was in  December 2011. Now how is that possible. Another person I managed to get a hold of neg and that's going two years back. My current BF is freaked of course and is going to do blood work as well Even though oraquick said neg. I have no idea what to make of this. He should have results by Wed. In the mean time is there someone that can help with this? I have been researching online but not finding exactly what I'm looking for.
1/19/13 tested poz
1/23/13 Cd4 339 VL 90
1/23/13 start Atripla
2/21/13 Cd4 553 VL undetectable

Offline mecch

  • Member
  • Posts: 11,508
  • red pill? or blue pill?
Re: I told my BF last night
« Reply #1 on: January 20, 2013, 03:10:46 PM »
Sorry but I am not sure I understand the scenario.
Did you have a western bloc test with your doctor, know you were positive already, and just do the quick test as a way to check your bf's status and reveal your own, confirmed, HIV+ diagnosis from your own doctor?

You are only positive when you have Western Blot confirmation.

If you are positive, and you want to wonder about how, the "recently" is rather vague.  What is that supposed to mean? Did the doctor say?  Within the last several weeks and you are in seroconversion?  Or within the last year? 

If you are positive, just hope for a continued negative result with your BF, and move forward with that. 

Some people can never figure out when or how they got HIV.  And if you trace back contacts, remember, people lie, or assume things that are no longer true (such as being HIV-). 


“From each, according to his ability; to each, according to his need” 1875 K Marx

Offline Justme2012

  • Member
  • Posts: 14
Re: I told my BF last night
« Reply #2 on: January 20, 2013, 05:01:55 PM »
A western bloc was done as well and that confirmed me being poz. My doc confirmed results and said that it's been at least 3 months and upward to a year of me having. Sorry it was vague. Still trying to understand and accept my status.
Now I'm waiting for second set of blood work and will know in two weeks the result of that.
1/19/13 tested poz
1/23/13 Cd4 339 VL 90
1/23/13 start Atripla
2/21/13 Cd4 553 VL undetectable

Offline mecch

  • Member
  • Posts: 11,508
  • red pill? or blue pill?
Re: I told my BF last night
« Reply #3 on: January 20, 2013, 06:51:58 PM »
Sorry to hear about your diagnosis.
Anyway, welcome here.

Its a shock. Takes time to digest everything. 

Maybe you'll never figure out how you got it and/or from whom.  Eventually you'll see that it doesn't matter much for your happiness and health going forward. 

“From each, according to his ability; to each, according to his need” 1875 K Marx

Offline Justme2012

  • Member
  • Posts: 14
Re: I told my BF last night
« Reply #4 on: January 20, 2013, 07:22:21 PM »
Yeah I was only able to get a hold of two past partners before my current. For both it's been over a year since last interaction and they both came back negative. I hear super highs and lows are common and definitely been having that since yesterday. And as for my current BF, he's been going through a range of emotions but having  initial neg has calmed him for now. He wants to retest in a couple of months to make sure. Right now he's supportive but I know that can change. Trying to focus on now but since first meeting we have been super happy and never have had any major issues. We have been dating for almost 6 months but we have known each other for longer.
I know it will take time and I just have to remind myself of that.
1/19/13 tested poz
1/23/13 Cd4 339 VL 90
1/23/13 start Atripla
2/21/13 Cd4 553 VL undetectable

Offline sadboyam

  • member
  • Member
  • Posts: 4
Re: I told my BF last night
« Reply #5 on: January 21, 2013, 07:13:03 AM »
Please see this. you can find valuable information about hiv here.

Edited by Ann to remove a link to forbidden denialist propaganda.

Best Regards
« Last Edit: January 21, 2013, 07:14:57 AM by Ann »

Offline Ann

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 28,140
  • It just is, OK?
    • Num is sum qui mentiar tibi?
Re: I told my BF last night
« Reply #6 on: January 21, 2013, 07:18:10 AM »
Sadboy,

As someone who is not hiv positive, you are not permitted to post in forums meant for hiv positive people only.

If you read the Welcome Thread before posting like you're supposed to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

Quote

With the exception of the “Am I Infected?” and “Off Topic” Forums, the AIDSmeds.com Forums are intended for people who have been diagnosed with HIV (or their loved ones/caregivers).  If you are questioning or unaware of your HIV status, please refrain from posting messages or questions in the Forums intended for HIV-positive people.


Please consider yourself warned!

Due to the nature of your post here, I am banning you. Posting denialist information is a bannable offence here - and this important rule was in the Terms of Membership you agreed to when you first became a member.

Ann
Condoms are a girl's best friend

Condom and Lube Info  



"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


Terms of Membership for these forums
 

© 2014 Smart + Strong. All Rights Reserved.   terms of use and your privacy
Smart + Strong® is a registered trademark of CDM Publishing, LLC.