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Author Topic: Fingering and Need to Test?  (Read 2574 times)

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Offline krallice

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Fingering and Need to Test?
« on: August 31, 2012, 07:54:32 AM »

I've been single for about 7 months now and my ex-girfriend and I are trying to work things out. After reading the forums I understand that it's a no-risk situation, but I guess I'm looking for reassurance that there's no way I could have acquired HIV that I could pass to my girlfriend. I was tested for ALL STDs a few months ago.

About a week ago I met a woman on Craigslist and while we did not have vaginal sex or oral sex, I did end up fingering her for probably a good 45 minutes. I did insert my fingers into her vagina a number of times. She also played with herself and gave me a handjob. She used spit as a lube and I did masturbate myself with the same hand that I used to finger her. We also kissed and I did suck on her nipples. I may have had a slight hangnail when I fingered her.. the next day I also noticed the tip of my index finger was sensitive.

After we finished she regaled me with tales about her other Craigslist adventures which included threesomes with two men and other threesomes.

She said that she had been tested for HIV a month ago but has had other partners since, but all condom-protected.

I had an HIV antibody test done  a couple of days ago (Result was negative for HIV)(here's my recent sexual history, I've hooked up with 3 women in the last few months).. The test was done:

-13 weeks after unprotected vaginal sex with woman #1
-5 weeks after condom protected sex, unprotected oral with woman #2
-1 week after fingering a woman (inserted fingers into vagina with possible hangnail) with woman #3

1.) Even if she was, hypothetically HIV+, was I at ANY risk for acquiring HIV?
2.) Do I need testing for HIV?
3.) Can I safely resume unprotected sex with my girlfriend? (she has been tested and is hiv negative)

« Last Edit: August 31, 2012, 08:14:24 AM by krallice »

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Fingering and Need to Test?
« Reply #1 on: August 31, 2012, 08:15:26 AM »
The bottom line is you are HIV negative. You tested negative at 13 weeks after an unprotected incident.

Nothing you are reporting of your activities since then including fingering would have put you at risk for HIV. No matter what spin you put on the fingering. It's not a risk. Period.

In terms of sexual risk for HIV transmission it's simple. As long as you consistently and properly use condoms for vaginal and anal intercourse you will be well protected. Unprotected intercourse is the only confirmed risk for the sexual transmission of HIV. Period. 
Andy Velez

Offline krallice

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Re: Fingering and Need to Test?
« Reply #2 on: August 31, 2012, 01:44:44 PM »
Hi Andy. Thanks so much. Just to reiterate and confirm I am 100% on the same page with you, so inserting one's finger(s) into a woman's vagina, (even with a hangnail/torn cuticle) equals zero risk for HIV, no need to test, no need to worry?

I can simply put this whole encounter out of my mind?

« Last Edit: August 31, 2012, 01:57:28 PM by krallice »

Offline Ann

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Re: Fingering and Need to Test?
« Reply #3 on: August 31, 2012, 04:59:49 PM »

Putting your fingers into anyone's vagina is absolutely NOT a risk for hiv infection, regardless of hangnails or cuts or whatever else you can dream up to worry about. You do NOT need to test over fingering.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!!!

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