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Author Topic: Young KY Guy Unexpectantly Dies; Leaves Wish To Help Others  (Read 750 times)

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Offline tednlou2

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Young KY Guy Unexpectantly Dies; Leaves Wish To Help Others
« on: August 22, 2012, 12:18:38 AM »
Had to share this, because it is a nice story in a sea of bad.  But, also, because he and his family are from Kentucky.  The story was featured on the "Today Show" today.

http://video.today.msnbc.msn.com/today/48736377#48736377


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Re: Young KY Guy Unexpectantly Dies; Leaves Wish To Help Others
« Reply #1 on: August 22, 2012, 08:40:48 AM »
The brother is a cutie.
There is something nice about the whole thing, but also a smarmy side.
The nice side is clear.
The smarmy side I dunno.  How about that he gets to decide who to tip.  How about all the waiter and waitresses hoping they will get it, too.  Also, now they know what the family looks like.  Also, it solves nothing really about the hideous wages and absent benefits of waiters.   Also since when do 30 year old have Wills?   
“From each, according to his ability; to each, according to his need” 1875 K Marx

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Re: Young KY Guy Unexpectantly Dies; Leaves Wish To Help Others
« Reply #2 on: August 22, 2012, 09:38:06 AM »
  Also, it solves nothing really about the hideous wages and absent benefits of waiters.   

Yeah, I guess it would have been better to have done nothing since they couldn't solve this problem.  GEEZ

I have been following the story and I found them to be a very delightful family, carrying out their son's wishes and receiving gratitude from others' is helping them deal with the grief of loosing a young loved one.

Not every action has a nefarious motive.

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Re: Young KY Guy Unexpectantly Dies; Leaves Wish To Help Others
« Reply #3 on: August 22, 2012, 08:33:23 PM »

    That is very nice .

                                       Carl  :)
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Re: Young KY Guy Unexpectantly Dies; Leaves Wish To Help Others
« Reply #4 on: August 23, 2012, 09:14:41 AM »
The brother is a cutie.
There is something nice about the whole thing, but also a smarmy side.
The nice side is clear.
The smarmy side I dunno.  How about that he gets to decide who to tip.  How about all the waiter and waitresses hoping they will get it, too.  Also, now they know what the family looks like.  Also, it solves nothing really about the hideous wages and absent benefits of waiters.   Also since when do 30 year old have Wills?

I don't get the "smarmy side". Basically the guy instructed his family to do an unexpected act of kindness and charity and people were inspired by it. I think that is great. As far as a will, the video says he died unexpectedly, not instantly. He could have just told his family to do this before he died.

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Re: Young KY Guy Unexpectantly Dies; Leaves Wish To Help Others
« Reply #5 on: August 23, 2012, 12:48:27 PM »
I guess you are all right.  Maybe it was the news story production and "narrative" that irks me. 

I get nervous when the genuine and remarkable charitable nature of Americans is taken by boilerplate journalism and potentially used by the political right, or by people, to support an idea, that it is by personal giving and charity that the poor, sick, or underpaid are going to have a chance at a better life.  Its kinda related to the "lottery" and "internet action" memes.  Like that poor lady bus monitor who got a windfall. Nobody begrudges her the windfall.  Its fine with me if a waiter or two or 10 or 50 get one time big tips. Don't want people to think this is the solution for bigger problems.
“From each, according to his ability; to each, according to his need” 1875 K Marx

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Re: Young KY Guy Unexpectantly Dies; Leaves Wish To Help Others
« Reply #6 on: August 23, 2012, 03:03:57 PM »
I think one of the nicest aspects of the story is that this action is helping the mother cope with the loss of her son. The "big tip" seems to have been more than just a opportunity to make someone's day better or even a distraction from grief. It has given the family an opportunity to talk about Aaron Collins and the type of person he was.
« Last Edit: August 23, 2012, 04:01:39 PM by GSOgymrat »

Offline mecch

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Re: Young KY Guy Unexpectantly Dies; Leaves Wish To Help Others
« Reply #7 on: August 23, 2012, 04:10:57 PM »
Yes good points. Im sure you all understand it better than I. I tend to react to media portrayals as that's my specialty.  Thanks for the insight.
“From each, according to his ability; to each, according to his need” 1875 K Marx

 


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