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Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« on: August 10, 2012, 02:30:09 PM »
Good evening,
I have read the welcome thread.
I have a question. I recently had protected intercourse with a woman (I am a male), so with a condom. I had strokes deep into the vagina, do not remember hitting that thing in front of the the cervix. . After I pulled out I gave her oral while, so to speak, fucking the matras/bed with the  condom still on and intact. After about 15 minutes I noticed the condom was ripped. Is it possible to get infected by vaginal fluid on the ripped condom. I mean if the fluid came in contact with my urethrea (where the pee comes out) thanks for your time! kind regards Mopier

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #1 on: August 10, 2012, 03:34:49 PM »
No, that's a non-risk. HIV is a fragile virus and when exposed to the air quickly becomes non-viable. In the setting  you have described it would already have been non-viable so it wouldn't matter if your penis/pee slit were in contact with her vaginal fluids in that manner.

There's no need for further concern or for you to get tested.

Wearing the condom during intercourse is what matters in terms of protection against HIV transmission.
Andy Velez

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #2 on: August 10, 2012, 03:52:18 PM »
Ok, thank you for the quick response, have a nice weekend  :)

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #3 on: August 10, 2012, 03:59:32 PM »
Hai, but I did not not notice the condom being ripped after I pulled out, it could be thorn quickly after I pulled out, sorry for throwing in if ' s and when' s nkind regards Mopier

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #4 on: August 10, 2012, 04:09:22 PM »
As long as it ripped from friction during sexual play after you pulled out then you were not at risk.
Andy Velez

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #5 on: August 10, 2012, 04:26:47 PM »
Ok I rest my case  :P

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #6 on: August 10, 2012, 07:42:38 PM »
OK.
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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #7 on: August 11, 2012, 09:15:51 AM »
Hai even when the condom did have the cervix fluid on it (ok en now I stop) kind regards Mopier

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #8 on: August 11, 2012, 09:23:33 AM »
Yes, you need to stop. You already really know the answer.
Andy Velez

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #9 on: August 13, 2012, 04:54:37 PM »
Hi Andy, yes you are right, i know the answer thank you for time. It is often a mind thing i know, all the best Mopier

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #10 on: August 13, 2012, 06:01:36 PM »
OK. Get on with your life.
Andy Velez

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #11 on: August 20, 2012, 07:37:49 AM »
Hi all, I wonder if withdrawing my penis with cervical fluid on the condom, and maybe therefore present in the opening of the vagina could pose a risk when performing the oral ? Thank for your reply. KInd regards Mopier

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #12 on: August 20, 2012, 07:49:17 AM »
No, HIV is not transmitted in that manner. Even assuming your penis went as far up as the cervical cavity and was then transmitted to the vaginal lips, your saliva contains over a dozen elements and proteins which very effectively prevent the transmission of viable HIV.

You are worrying needlessly. There is no need for testing.
Andy Velez

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk/new case
« Reply #13 on: September 03, 2012, 07:21:47 AM »
Goodafternoon,
Yesterday I wok up and noticed a blue eye en a terible headache. I also noted some scratches on my back. It appeared to me I was fallen that night. But I could remember the fall. (before and after)
The knight before I drank a decent amount of alcohol at home but still remember going to bed.
My fear Is that I sufferd from a kind of amnesia or blackout combining the alcohol or and the fall (must be hard the way my eye looked en painful. It may sound irrational but my fear is that I went to bed, woke up took the stairs (2) took my bike en went to our gaypark en performed possibel unprotected sex. My bum was ok the next morning (never had real anal sex before except for dildo en not regular). I never take actions when I have drunk.Thank in advance greetings Mopier

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #14 on: September 03, 2012, 07:37:13 AM »
Sorry I ment that i could not remember the fall, before and after

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #15 on: September 03, 2012, 07:44:17 AM »
Excessive drinking and sex don't mix. Had you had anal penetration you would have known without a doubt.

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #16 on: September 03, 2012, 03:22:33 PM »
No, right Do you mean during or after intercourse?

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #17 on: September 03, 2012, 03:45:14 PM »
I mean you probably could feel it even if you are drunk? greetin Mopier
« Last Edit: September 04, 2012, 06:55:48 AM by mopier »

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #18 on: September 04, 2012, 04:32:29 AM »
Mopier,

If you had anal intercourse, you'd definitely know about it. You say you've been penetrated by a dildo in the past but if you were doing that to yourself, it is FAR different to someone else inserting their penis. As you've never been penetrated by a penis before, your first time would likely have been painful and you would have noticed the difference the day after, if not at the time even through your drunken haze.

It sounds to me like you got drunk at home, fell at home, and went to bed. If you were in as bad a state as it sounds like you were, I very much doubt you would have been capable of getting on a bike to go to your local cruising spot.

While you do not need to test over this imaginary event, as a sexually active adult you should be testing at least once a year as a matter of routine, like going for routine dental check-ups.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
« Last Edit: September 04, 2012, 07:03:02 AM by Ann »
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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #19 on: September 04, 2012, 05:38:36 AM »
Hi Ann and Rodney,
Ok clear , I learned from this one, no more excessive drinking
Keep up your good work greetings Mopier
« Last Edit: September 04, 2012, 06:57:38 AM by mopier »

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #20 on: September 04, 2012, 07:00:11 AM »
Hello , could you remove my name at the top of your message.
I did so because by exident the last post were signed not with mopier
Thanx greetings Mopier
« Last Edit: September 04, 2012, 07:07:58 AM by mopier »

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #21 on: September 04, 2012, 07:03:57 AM »
You might want to edit your last post as well if you're that worried about it... you did it again.

Hello , could you remove my name at the top of your message.
I did so because by exident the last post were signed not with mopier
Thanx greetings XXXXXX
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #22 on: September 04, 2012, 07:09:46 AM »
Yes I removed it, thank you greetings
Mopier

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #23 on: November 03, 2012, 11:44:47 AM »
Ok I understand the answer from Andy that although there  are cerfical fluids present
on the outer lips of the vagina  while giving oral there is no risk, what about in that situation giving  oral with cuts is the mouth or infected gums. Thanx for your reply

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #24 on: November 03, 2012, 11:45:44 AM »
I mean the fluids present at the cervix : )

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #25 on: November 03, 2012, 01:32:02 PM »
The cervix is located deep inside the vagina, and you cannot reach it with your tongue. Cunnilingus does not pose a risk for HIV no matter what details you add.
"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #26 on: November 03, 2012, 03:15:29 PM »
Ok I understand but I mean if you fuck deep and your penis touches the cervix, and you withdralaw then fluid of the cervix could spread on the outer lips. When then giving oral with cits in the mouth that coul be a risk?

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #27 on: November 03, 2012, 03:44:45 PM »
Ok I understand but I mean if you fuck deep and your penis touches the cervix, and you withdralaw then fluid of the cervix could spread on the outer lips. When then giving oral with cits in the mouth that coul be a risk?

Nope, that is not what anyone has ever suggested. If you fuck someone deep, then withdraw, then immediately perform cunnilingus, you will still not be encountering these VERY THICK MUCOUS-TYPE fluids, as they will still be deep inside the cervix.

In the history of the pandemic, there has never been a single verified and documented case of HIV being passed through cunnilingus. YOu will not be the person to make history, no matter what length your penis might be, or it's capacity to suction mucousal fluids from the cervix.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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Re: Question about vaginal fluids and risk
« Reply #28 on: November 03, 2012, 05:43:14 PM »
Ok thanks for your quick reply I rest my case , glad I 'm not gonna be special in that way : )

 


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