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Offline Coldintheuk

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Previous hook up diagnosed..
« on: April 10, 2014, 02:11:27 PM »
It's another one of those "am I infected" threads I'm afraid..

Firstly a bit of background.

I'm gay man, 36 living in the UK. Around the beginning of November last year I started regularly hooking up with a younger lad who said he was bi.. These meet ups were a very one sided affair, he'd come over, perform oral on me, he rimmed me a couple of times - I'd cum, then he'd leave. Possibly the first or second we met we 69'd for a little while. But I'm always careful not to perform oral if I know I have a sore mouth for whatever reason.

Anyhow, this guy maintained that he'd only been with two other men.
We met up around 6 or so times.

The last time we met was December 10th 2013.. Soon after this, out of nowhere he says he's fallen in love with a guy and they are now in a relationship. Fair dos, good luck to him. I wish him well and we kept in touch via the odd text - because actually, he's a nice enough chap..

Christmas happens. And I hook up with a few more guys. I'm top, and always use protection for anal. So that's all good.

Come the end of January it was about 6 months since my last trip to the clinic.. So I dutifully took myself along. Urine taken. Swabs of the throat, penis and back passage (they are very thorough in Manchester you know!) and bloods. Finally looking at my records they decide to give me a hepatitis booster vaccination.

Two weeks later I get an "all clear" text message.

That same week the guy I was meeting up with from November says his boyfriend has Chlamydia.. And that he and his bf have been doing postal tests for all the STIs..

To cut a long story short, he was confirmed HIV positive this Monday just gone. He and his bf never did anal. And I was clean too, so it's clearly one of the other two guys he's been with.

I feel for the guy.. He's a good kid. No one deserves that news.

Anyhow, so on to me again, I'm right in thinking there was very low risk for me when I met this guy? Having oral performed on me and being rimmed is considered low risk isn't it? Sucking someone who is positive for less than a minute isn't too bad either? Moreover I tested negative about 5 to 7 weeks after this event?

I'm actually due to go back in a couple of weeks for a blood test to check my hep vaccination - I'll ask them if they think I need another HIV test, but I just thought I'd ask here in the meantime as I'm no expert.

Thanks for reading.

Offline Jeff G

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Re: Previous hook up diagnosed..
« Reply #1 on: April 10, 2014, 02:18:28 PM »
You have not had a risk for HIV so your test is conclusive that you do not have HIV .

The risk factors for sexually transmitted HIV comes from unprotected anal and vaginal sex so you need not worry . Rimming and getting a blow job is not a risk for HIV ... its not low risk, its no risk .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Also, referring to HIV negative people as clean is to infer that those of us with HIV are dirty and its offensive for us ... I know you meant no harm but now you know . 


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Re: Previous hook up diagnosed..
« Reply #2 on: April 10, 2014, 02:31:24 PM »
Ugh. Seriously. Many apologies :(

I have friends who are positive and I go online and use language like that. Mortified.


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Re: Previous hook up diagnosed..
« Reply #3 on: April 10, 2014, 02:36:00 PM »
Ugh. Seriously. Many apologies :(

I have friends who are positive and I go online and use language like that. Mortified.


Its all good ... and you did not have a risk for HIV so its a good day and you learned something too ! .


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