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Author Topic: Just got harassed big time on an HIV dating site:  (Read 7345 times)

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Offline wolfter

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Re: Just got harassed big time on an HIV dating site:
« Reply #50 on: August 10, 2012, 05:51:59 PM »
My entire family uses that word and I cringe every time.  I have explained it over and over to them and my mother just tells me pack away my high priced education as the rest of them knew what was meant.

I'm just surprised you used it, that's all.  But I reckon that's O.K.   :o 

Kinda reminds me of our yearly reunion down home when my cousin who graduated from Purdue University used the word "antithesis" while everyone was smoking some good Meigs county bud (in the family graveyard no less) and everyones's jaws just dropped open in complete misunderstanding.

I whispered to my favorite hillbilly cousin that the word simply means the opposite to which he replied, "then why didn't he just say that".
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Offline LiveWithIt

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Re: Just got harassed big time on an HIV dating site:
« Reply #51 on: August 10, 2012, 06:51:39 PM »
From what I can ascertain, LiveWithIt has been living with "it" for at least 15 years, so unless he was infected when he was 10 years old he can't be a spring chicken himself.



No, I was 11.  sad story really.   :-X


















No I'm more of a cock in my 40s and sometimes I am the baby in the room so it feels kind of nice.
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Offline mecch

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Re: Just got harassed big time on an HIV dating site:
« Reply #52 on: August 10, 2012, 08:08:04 PM »
I belong to a support group and it's gross how all the older guys flock over to the new young guys that come and scare them away into never coming back.  That's why the average age is around 60 there.  People want younger and better looking than themselves.  That's why if a guy in his 20's shows up he won't ever be seen again.  There is one good looking guy in his 30's there, but maybe he is just happy with the attention, otherwise it's hard for someone under 50 to come back more than once.

Here's a story of two guys who are older and not attractive, not even their personalities.  One guy in his late 60s or 70s illegally went to Cuba through Mexico and talked about how nice the guys were.  Of course they were nice, they were hookers.  Another guy about the same age was talking about a married 23 year old guy coming over on his birthday and him trying to talk him into F'ing him bareback.  Maybe he paid more for that. 

One guy in his late 40's came in one time, he seemed like he was hyped up on something and the only thing he wanted to know was where to find guys in their 20's.   It just seems to me that a lot of older gay guys in their mid 60's and up are mostly a-holes. 

People think they are better than they are and want to date younger and hotter than themselves.  I just want a nice guy who is around my age. 

This week a thing that looks like the fat monster from the first Hellraiser movie got mad at me when I made a silly joke.

Jesus why do you go to that group if they are all so awful as described.

You got a point about men being dogs wanting younger "bitches" as it were. But this applies to HIV+ and HIV-, straight and gay.   

This sort of delusion is depressing, boring and sometimes disgusting, and I don't waste time with such people.  Why do you?  Even laughing at them or judging them doesn't return good energy.  Just stay away from them why don't you.

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Offline denb45

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Re: Just got harassed big time on an HIV dating site:
« Reply #53 on: August 10, 2012, 08:25:36 PM »
To the OP.......Maybe you need to find another support group, that one you describe sure sounds like something I wouldn't want to go to, does any actual support even happen there, sure sounds like it doesn't to me......just sayin  :-[


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DEN
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Offline LiveWithIt

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Re: Just got harassed big time on an HIV dating site:
« Reply #54 on: August 10, 2012, 11:50:32 PM »
Jesus why do you go to that group if they are all so awful as described.

You got a point about men being dogs wanting younger "bitches" as it were. But this applies to HIV+ and HIV-, straight and gay.   

This sort of delusion is depressing, boring and sometimes disgusting, and I don't waste time with such people.  Why do you?  Even laughing at them or judging them doesn't return good energy.  Just stay away from them why don't you.

It's not all bad, most of the worst show up one time (it's once a week) and never come back.  The guy who leads it is a nice guy, and so are most of the other guys, including some of the older guys.
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Offline onemoretime

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Re: Just got harassed big time on an HIV dating site:
« Reply #55 on: August 12, 2012, 06:16:55 PM »
I actually sometimes have trouble remembering if i was diagnosed in 03 or 04,  as I get older.  i sometimes have to refer to my data on this site to be sure.  i also purchased my apartment the same time, so that confuses me too.  because i signed the contract dec 03 and closed July 04, so that trips me up.  I do however remember the exact moment, the feeling of terror and paralyzing shock. even though i was 95% sure this time the result was going to be poz.  had some strange post infection issues. numbness in arms, soar wrists, infections on face and chest.  I just new my "luck" had run out.  had had those thoughts other times and still tested neg so I had hope.  but i do remember that day, but not allays the year strangely.
08/04 diag 490 cd4 vl 50,000
10/25/05 436 50,513 hvb 1.1 billion
12/13/05 truvada sustiva
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03/08   470 undetectable still on atripla. Non smoking (chantex)
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Offline denb45

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Re: Just got harassed big time on an HIV dating site:
« Reply #56 on: August 12, 2012, 06:35:23 PM »
Well as long as most realize that it's a support group and NOT a  dating service,  only then can any real support actually take place, that's why most of those types don't come back , if you were wondering why  ;)


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Den
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Offline Solo_LTSurvivor

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Re: Just got harassed big time on an HIV dating site:
« Reply #57 on: August 12, 2012, 07:25:46 PM »
Well as long as most realize that it's a support group and NOT a  dating service,  only then can any real support actually take place, that's why most of those types don't come back , if you were wondering why  ;)


hugs

Den

Ahem!  Stop cruising the boys in speedos on TV and pay attention...


But irregardless, an HIV support group IMO shouldn't be used as a dating service. If you're sitting there sizing up every member's appearance, age, and dating potential there's something wrong with you.
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Offline LiveWithIt

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Re: Just got harassed big time on an HIV dating site:
« Reply #58 on: August 13, 2012, 12:56:44 PM »
I actually sometimes have trouble remembering if i was diagnosed in 03 or 04,
I'm not sure when I was diagnosed either.  I think it was 97 but it may have been a year or two difference.  I try to remember via where I lived at the time and how old I was around then and where I was working, etc, but I'm not sure.  It may have been a year or two earlier.  One day I might have to dig up a copy of my old medical records to find out.  I got a copy when I moved to Florida from my old doctor, it was as thick as a book.   I don't know if my records from before I stared seeing him are in there because I went to a clinic before then,
Pray God you can cope
I know you have a little life in you yet.
I know you have a lot of strength left.

 


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