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Author Topic: Complicated Question about Exposure!  (Read 1294 times)

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Offline ineedadvice

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Complicated Question about Exposure!
« on: July 19, 2012, 07:10:49 PM »
I was in Las Vegas and received a hand job with oil at a massage parlor.  Afterwards I was still feeling frisky so a few hours later I went to different massage parlor for a second hand job. I am not circumcised and I have heard that uncircumcised men are more susceptible to HIV and I was concerned that as a result of the first hand job the head of my penis may have been even more vulnerable to infection going into the second hand job. There was still oil moisturising my penis from the first hand job. At the second massage parlor, the provider stripped and placed oil on my penis started rubbing my penis firmly while I touched her vagina. Her vagina was dry and I commented on that so she pushed her finger inside, wiggling it for about 2 seconds and removed her finger and asked me to put oil on my hand and touch her vagina with my oiled hand. Then she went to touch my penis and I panicked about her just having fingered her vagina and then touching my penis. Not thinking clearly I stopped her from rubbing my penis and asked her for some oil so I could touch her, trying to act normal. I was basically freaking out at this point about the possibility of infection but couldn't think clearly about what to do! She stopped and obliged after about 30 to 60 seconds started to give me a hand job again. I touched the outs tide of her vagina with oil and was very careful not to touch inside her vagina. I had an orgasm and left. The next evening I started to get a mild cold which I have now, a few days later, probably because of going in and out of extreme heat of the desert and air conditioned environments but I haven't been able to rid myself of the fear of contracting HIV. The next day I called the second massage parlor and asked the lady I saw there outright if she was HIV positive and she said "no", although that doesn't mean much I suppose. I have heard that no one has ever contracted HIV from a hand job and I don't want to be the first! Do you think I am at risk of having contracted HIV from this second event? I want to make sure that what happened in Vegas stays in Vegas :)

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Re: Complicated Question about Exposure!
« Reply #1 on: July 19, 2012, 07:14:00 PM »
As you have been advised before you never had an exposure.

HIV is transmitted by;
Unprotected penetrative anal and/or vaginal sex
Sharing works with other IV drug abusers
Mother to child

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Re: Complicated Question about Exposure!
« Reply #2 on: July 20, 2012, 12:51:42 AM »
inneed,

There's nothing complicated about what happened in Vegas - and it will stay in Vegas if you let it.

You can get all the handjobs you want - and don't bother with giving us more details, they don't matter - and you'll never, ever end up with hiv that way. You got a wank. Get over it.

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Offline ineedadvice

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Re: Complicated Question about Exposure!
« Reply #3 on: July 21, 2012, 04:59:57 PM »
Thank you very much for your reply. So being uncircumcised, having just had a hand job and her fingering her pussy still does not meet the criteria for concern?

Just double checking...

Also, I love your cat.gif :)


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Re: Complicated Question about Exposure!
« Reply #4 on: July 21, 2012, 05:34:31 PM »
inneed,

You absolutely have not had a risk for hiv infection nor a cause for concern.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST SPECIFICALLY OVER A HANDJOB, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann

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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Complicated Question about Exposure!
« Reply #5 on: July 21, 2012, 07:39:05 PM »
Thank you, Ann. I will not worry about HIV based on your sage advice!
What STI's should I be concerned about and testing for based on my trip
to the desert?

I still love your cat.gif!


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Re: Complicated Question about Exposure!
« Reply #6 on: July 22, 2012, 03:04:37 AM »
inneed,

You're not going to get anything from a handjob. You got a wank, now get over it.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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