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Offline bkkdweller

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Oral Sex at the BJ Bar
« on: June 26, 2012, 02:44:15 PM »
I live in Bangkok and drunkenly ended up at a blow job bar almost 4 weeks ago.  This has been my only sexual encounter outside my marriage of 5 years. 

I have read through this forum and noted that you always say that insertive oral sex has almost no HIV risk.  But, since then, I have suffered from:

2 days after - diarrhea that has still not gone away

5 days after - possible chlamydia treated with one week of doxycycline
                    (those symptoms gone)

12 days after - a strange one week illness where I was nauseous most of the day and had many lab tests done all of which came out normal (those symptoms also gone now)

And, for the last 2 days - (phantom?) lymph node pain in my neck

I wasnt too worried at first, but now of course, here I am.

I received unprotected oral sex from a sex worker who I assume does this all day (I went late at night), she had braces (gum abrasions?), and she was not afraid to deep throat.  Is there a higher risk for me in this case?  If she herself was not HIV+, then what about one of her recent customers before me leaving something behind in her throat?

Can I go back to having sex with my wife or should I wait out the 2 more weeks and get the 6 week test?  As you know, the anxiety and guilt are tough to deal with.

Thank you for any advice.

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Oral Sex at the BJ Bar
« Reply #1 on: June 26, 2012, 03:07:14 PM »
You never had an eposure to HIV from getting your dick sucked.

Offline bkkdweller

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Re: Oral Sex at the BJ Bar
« Reply #2 on: June 26, 2012, 03:28:10 PM »
Thanks for the quick reply, RapidRob.  I know you just said it, but, to clarify, it doesnt matter how many unprotected oral acts the SW performed that day previous to mine. I should stop worrying and move on, correct??

I really appreciate this forum...thank you for your help.

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Oral Sex at the BJ Bar
« Reply #3 on: June 26, 2012, 03:34:18 PM »
Yes you should stop worrying and move along.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Oral Sex at the BJ Bar
« Reply #4 on: June 26, 2012, 04:29:27 PM »
Getting a blowjob is one of the most common of sexual activities. In the entire history of the epidemic no guy has ever been confirmed to have been infected that way. You are not going to make history by becoming the first.

You have no cause for concern about HIV. None of your symptoms are in any way HIV specific. If they persist you should be discussing them with your doctor.

And yes, you can safely have sex with your wife without fearing you will infect her. You can't give her a virus you don't have.
Andy Velez

Offline bkkdweller

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Re: Oral Sex at the BJ Bar
« Reply #5 on: June 26, 2012, 06:29:08 PM »
Ok...no HIV exposure....thank you for the advice and for your work in this forum.  I will do my best to move on and deal with my anxiety.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Oral Sex at the BJ Bar
« Reply #6 on: June 26, 2012, 09:10:32 PM »
Good. You really have nothing to worry about this time.
Andy Velez


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