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Author Topic: This is so terribly sad  (Read 980 times)

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Offline Hellraiser

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This is so terribly sad
« on: May 13, 2012, 02:29:45 PM »
I know this sort of thing happens more frequently than one would imagine, but this brought a tear to my eye.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=pR9gyloyOjM

It's 10 minutes long but worth the watch in my opinion.

Offline tednlou2

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Re: This is so terribly sad
« Reply #1 on: May 13, 2012, 11:51:34 PM »
Thanks for sharing.  Very sad and so unfair.  Many of us do not think enough about what happens in the worst case scenario.  My partner and I have no legal documents.  Even if we did, our families could contest them.  It would just come down to what kind of judge you happened to get.  I can't imagine either of our families doing that.  However, you really never know how people will act.  When my uncle died last summer, I saw how family members swooped in to get his valuables.  So, we've been talking about how we need to get our legal affairs in order.  We need to stop talking about it and do it.

But, with the guy in the video, that family definitely seemed like the type who would challenge any documents in court.  I just got home from a family trip to the Smoky Mountains, with my partner's family.  They have all been great.  Well, except for the brother and his wife.  His dad actually went to a fundraiser in 2004 to help defeat the constitutional amendment here.  And, he's a big Republican.  Go figure.  ;)  His dad was really upset with us for not attending.  However, in 2004, we didn't have the extra money to attend.  He said he would have donated for us.  So, I don't think we have anything to worry about with his parents.  My parents are for marriage equality.  But again, people sometimes behave in ways you'd never think or expect. 

Offline red_Dragon888

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Re: This is so terribly sad
« Reply #2 on: May 14, 2012, 10:16:26 AM »
Thanks for posting.  It rekindled lost emotions when I went through my lost.  I wish him well in his pursuits. 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=I3ba3lnFHik

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Offline red_Dragon888

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Re: This is so terribly sad
« Reply #3 on: May 14, 2012, 10:21:32 AM »
Thanks for sharing.  Very sad and so unfair.  Many of us do not think enough about what happens in the worst case scenario.  My partner and I have no legal documents.  Even if we did, our families could contest them.  It would just come down to what kind of judge you happened to get.  I can't imagine either of our families doing that.  However, you really never know how people will act.  When my uncle died last summer, I saw how family members swooped in to get his valuables.  So, we've been talking about how we need to get our legal affairs in order.  We need to stop talking about it and do it.

But, with the guy in the video, that family definitely seemed like the type who would challenge any documents in court.  I just got home from a family trip to the Smoky Mountains, with my partner's family.  They have all been great.  Well, except for the brother and his wife.  His dad actually went to a fundraiser in 2004 to help defeat the constitutional amendment here.  And, he's a big Republican.  Go figure.  ;)  His dad was really upset with us for not attending.  However, in 2004, we didn't have the extra money to attend.  He said he would have donated for us.  So, I don't think we have anything to worry about with his parents.  My parents are for marriage equality.  But again, people sometimes behave in ways you'd never think or expect.
I agree, you never know.  Gay or Hetero, legal paper speaks loudly in courts and if the law is not on your side, then it can  be used against you by anyone who has something to gain by it. 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=I3ba3lnFHik

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Re: This is so terribly sad
« Reply #4 on: May 14, 2012, 11:19:09 AM »
So, we've been talking about how we need to get our legal affairs in order.  We need to stop talking about it and do it.
because accidents, and not always AIDS, happens the two of you should at least download, fill out, and get two witness signatures on living wills and durable medical power of attorney forms - http://www.uslegalforms.com/powerofattorney/ . Although these forms do nothing towards saving a house, car or other assets that family (or the bank, or the state! it's not always just family) may swoop in to take at the passing of a partner, these forms can dramatically help when a partner is sick/incapacitated and is expected to continue living. ;)

losing two partners to AIDS let me know how important these documents are, and also showed me how the worse problems often don't come from hateful/greedy family members; but just from the general system of how things operate when two people are not legally married. :(
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Re: This is so terribly sad
« Reply #5 on: May 14, 2012, 11:26:11 AM »
http://www.hrc.org/issues/pages/domestic-partnerships?gclid=CNXoo_uKgLACFYhM4AodH3a6Gw

here is one on Domestic Partnerships
Same-sex couples living in California, the District of Columbia, Nevada, Oregon and Washington state can take advantage of broad domestic partner laws that, like civil unions, offer access to the state-level rights and responsibilities of marriage.  In addition, Colorado (designated beneficiaries), Hawaii (reciprocal beneficiaries), Maine (domestic partnerships), Maryland (domestic partnerships), and Wisconsin (domestic partnerships) offer limited statewide spousal rights to same-sex couples within the state. Wherever you live, be sure to see the collection of legal documents to protect your family. Visit the Workplace section to learn more about governments and other employers that offer domestic partner benefits to their employees' partners.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=I3ba3lnFHik

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