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« on: April 26, 2012, 04:45:46 AM »
 :-\hi-
i am a 34 yr old gay guy and i had a sexual encounter a little over a month ago with a bi guy who used to be a drug addict and is an active alcoholic. this all sounds very stupid on my part for doing this, but bare with me.
he used to always talk about dating strippers and going out with hookers.
i have very bad oral health and i had an active rash on my hand and so there were many breaks in my skin. I gave him a blow job on 2 separate occasions, and he came in my mouth both times.

about 2 weeks after, I got very very sick. shaking chills, lost weight, nauseas, diarrea, rash that looks like bug bites, and my lymph nodes are so big that they hurt in my throat and groin area, and i am sore all over and my legs feel very weak. i have a fever off and on. i am still having these symptoms. i went to the er, and they put me on antibiotics and i have been on them for 2 weeks and nothing is helping me.

i went to my doctor today (he is gay and has worked with many people with hiv) he looked at my issues and took blood. showed him my rash and he seemed upset that I had a fever, and we talked about my other problems. then he asked me if i would be around tomorrow if he had to get ahold of me. he has never said that to me after an hiv test b4.

i am really scared.
« Last Edit: April 26, 2012, 06:50:30 AM by justaguy777 »

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Re: scared
« Reply #1 on: April 26, 2012, 06:09:12 AM »
justa,

If your oral health is really terrible and this guy is hiv positive with a really high viral load, then you might have a small cause for concern. Forget about getting cum on the rash on your hand - hiv just isn't transmitted that way.

It would be extremely unusual for you to end up with hiv giving a blowjob - it's rare as hen's teeth and as I implied above, your oral health would have to be really, really bad and he would have to have a really high viral load.

Your saliva contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect. Not only is the mouth a very inhospitable environment for hiv, but the specific types of cells that hiv can latch onto and infect are not found in abundance in the mouth.

If I'm reading you correctly and you've tested two weeks after the incident, it's too early. Chances are good that you're dealing with a totally unrelated illness (like flu), but if you are seroconverting you might get an indeterminate antibody result. Do you know what tests the doctor ran?

Again, I would stress how rare it would be for you to end up poz over this. The only thing that concerns me is that you report having really bad oral health. Are we talking something like meth-mouth here?

Hang in there.

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Re: scared
« Reply #2 on: April 26, 2012, 06:16:01 AM »
hi ann-

thank you for your response. as far as my mouth, it is not as bad as meth mouth, no, but it is still pretty bad. i have a bunch of cavities and have teeth missing.

i don't understand being so sick, and i don't understand the rash or why i have been sick for so long or why antibiotics are not working.
he did a test that has a window of 3 months, and then one that has a window of 14 to 21 days. (he said)
plus he did a mono test. i didn't do any kissing tho.

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Re: scared
« Reply #3 on: April 26, 2012, 06:17:25 AM »
and whoops, no. the incident was about a month ago. i have been sick for 2 weeks.

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Re: scared
« Reply #4 on: April 26, 2012, 07:03:24 AM »
justa,

Mono might be nicknamed the "kissing disease", but all it takes is close contact with someone who has it. Antibiotics don't do a thing for mono.

Unless your missing teeth involve fresh, still bleeding, raw holes that are also infected with bacteria, you're likely ok where hiv is concerned. I cannot stress enough how rare it is for hiv to be transmitted during oral.

For example, there have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

Not all of the positive partners in these studies were on meds with undetectable viral loads either. These were big studies that went on for years - with no cases of oral transmission.

It sounds like your doctor used a standard antibody test bundled with a p24 antigen test. It's the p24 that can sometimes detect an infection in the first two or three weeks.

The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days. A six week negative is highly unlikely to change, but must be confirmed at the three month point.

If the illness you are experiencing is seroconversion, you will likely test positive - or at least indeterminate - at four weeks. If you do get a positive result today, you will still need further confirmatory testing, so don't immediately assume that you've been diagnosed as poz. False positives happen.

Ann
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Re: scared
« Reply #5 on: April 26, 2012, 07:37:34 AM »
Ann-

 Thank you so much for writing.
no, the teeth were not freshly pulled.

I Thank you for this info, and will keep you posted on what happens today.

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Re: scared
« Reply #6 on: April 26, 2012, 03:54:54 PM »
test for mono and the first hiv test came back negative. :)

 


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