Quantcast

Subscribe to:
POZ magazine
E-newsletters
Join POZ: Facebook MySpace Twitter Pinterest
Tumblr Google+ Flickr MySpace
POZ Personals
Sign In / Join
Username:
Password:
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
July 24, 2014, 02:33:33 AM

Login with username, password and session length


Members
Stats
  • Total Posts: 631661
  • Total Topics: 47817
  • Online Today: 231
  • Online Ever: 585
  • (January 07, 2014, 02:31:47 PM)
Users Online
Users: 3
Guests: 170
Total: 173

Welcome


Welcome to the POZ/AIDSmeds Community Forums, a round-the-clock discussion area for people with HIV/AIDS, their friends/family/caregivers, and others concerned about HIV/AIDS.  Click on the links below to browse our various forums; scroll down for a glance at the most recent posts; or join in the conversation yourself by registering on the left side of this page.

Privacy Warning:  Please realize that these forums are open to all, and are fully searchable via Google and other search engines. If you are HIV positive and disclose this in our forums, then it is almost the same thing as telling the whole world (or at least the World Wide Web). If this concerns you, then do not use a username or avatar that are self-identifying in any way. We do not allow the deletion of anything you post in these forums, so think before you post.

  • The information shared in these forums, by moderators and members, is designed to complement, not replace, the relationship between an individual and his/her own physician.

  • All members of these forums are, by default, not considered to be licensed medical providers. If otherwise, users must clearly define themselves as such.

  • Forums members must behave at all times with respect and honesty. Posting guidelines, including time-out and banning policies, have been established by the moderators of these forums. Click here for “Am I Infected?” posting guidelines. Click here for posting guidelines pertaining to all other POZ/AIDSmeds community forums.

  • We ask all forums members to provide references for health/medical/scientific information they provide, when it is not a personal experience being discussed. Please provide hyperlinks with full URLs or full citations of published works not available via the Internet. Additionally, all forums members must post information which are true and correct to their knowledge.

  • Product advertisement—including links; banners; editorial content; and clinical trial, study or survey participation—is strictly prohibited by forums members unless permission has been secured from POZ.

To change forums navigation language settings, click here (members only), Register now

Para cambiar sus preferencias de los foros en español, haz clic aquí (sólo miembros), Regístrate ahora

Finished Reading This? You can collapse this or any other box on this page by clicking the symbol in each box.

Author Topic: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse  (Read 4734 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline WillyWump

  • Member
  • Posts: 7,098
  • PLEASE no masturbating to this pic!
Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« on: April 25, 2012, 11:00:08 PM »
Some of you know my mom has been fighting Lung cancer for about 2 years now. She's a tough old (66) thing and has given it a valiant fight but as Lung Cancer often does it has spread to her brain. 20-30 Mets, including one large one on or near her brainstem it seems.

Monday night she was having problems standing and was very confused so I took her to hosital, and that is when they found that it had spread.

They've given her some drugs to shrink the swelling in her brain so she is pretty lucid and "with it" for now, which is nice, because at any moment that could go away again. She will begin Whole head radiation on Friday.

It really doesnt get any worse in regards to cancer, it is now in her Adrenal glands, bones , brain and brainstem (interesting enough the Chemo has cleared her lungs completely) but the buggers just keep moving around. Prognosis is clearly very poor. They are saying she has anywhere from a couple weeks to 3-6 months with the radiation. a few days without. She wants to continue on with the radiation so that is what we will do.

On top of all of this^ Mom will have to be coming back to live with me. She's not happy about it and I cant say Im totally thrilled but Im her only child and I will do whatever it takes and there is really no other option. I've tried to have nurses at her house over the past year, but she has kicked them out, not to mention I really cannot afford them full time.

Hospice is potentially in play here, we are just waiting on a firm diagnosis on prognosis from the doc which will probably come tomorrow or friday as they are still running tests.

So for the last few days between being at the hospital all day Ive been trying to get my house in shape to accomodate her. But I must say Im not real sure what to do in that regard. I will be meeting with a hospital social worker tomorrow who supposedly can hep me with home healthcare and getting beds, etc, that I might need.

So much to do and no time to do it in.

I'm up and down. I usually get real down as I drive to the hospital so then I walk in with big tomatoe eyes, but after that I'm usually fine.

On the upside, she has a cute nurse, and mom told me today that he was quizzing her about me. So we had a nice laugh about that. ;)

Wish me luck.

-Will.e.Wump.
POZ since '08

Last Labs-
6/3/14 CD4- 736, UD 34%
6/25/13 CD4- 1036, UD,
2/4/13, CD4 - 489, UD, 28%

Current Meds: Prezista/Epzicom/ Norvir
.

Offline Buckmark

  • Member
  • Posts: 1,520
  • Would you like to tie me up with your ties, Ty?
    • Henry's Home Page
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #1 on: April 25, 2012, 11:09:32 PM »
Will,

I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom.  She's fortunate to have a good son like you who is taking good care of her.  I will say several prayers for both of you.

Hugs,

Henry
"Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things:
     One is that God loves you and you're going to burn in hell.
     The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love."
- Butch Hancock, Musician, The Flatlanders

Offline Jody

  • Member
  • Posts: 1,816
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #2 on: April 25, 2012, 11:12:36 PM »
So sorry about your mom Will, she is also lucky to have you as you are a wonderful son.  I hope her remaining time will be happily spent with you and your loved ones.  I am also an only child and elder care is tough, like you I try to handle it with patience, kindness and compassion.

Be well friend, Jody
"Wake up to find out that you are the eyes of the world".
 "Try to discover that you are the song that the morning brings."

Grateful Dead

Offline anniebc

  • Member
  • Posts: 5,936
  • AM member since 2003
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #3 on: April 25, 2012, 11:14:03 PM »
Hi Will

Your mum is only two years older than me, she is too young to be going through this, I'm glad she has you beside her.  Even though it's not something you are not happy about I'm sure it will turn out OK for both of you, but it sounds like the Hospice will be the best place for her in the long run, if you are out working during the day there is no way you can give her the nursing she is going to need.

Thinking of you both.

Aroha
Jan :'(
-----------------------------------------------------------------------
Never knock on deaths door..ring the bell and run..he really hates that.

Offline Rev. Moon

  • Member
  • Posts: 3,782
  • Smart ass faggot ©
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #4 on: April 25, 2012, 11:16:58 PM »
Oh Will, this is too bad. She is actually too young to be dealing with so much.

Just letting you know that you and your mom will be in my thoughts.  She is indeed blessed to have you by her side.  Sending you both many hugs.
"I have tried hard--but life is difficult, and I am a very useless person. I can hardly be said to have an independent existence. I was just a screw or a cog in the great machine I called life, and when I dropped out of it I found I was of no use anywhere else."

Offline GSOgymrat

  • Member
  • Posts: 5,001
  • HIV+ since 1993. INTJ
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #5 on: April 25, 2012, 11:23:30 PM »
I'm so sorry your mom is not doing well. Cancer is such a horrible thing. Hang in there.

Ford

Offline Jeff G

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 10,731
  • How am I doing Beren ?
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #6 on: April 25, 2012, 11:25:10 PM »
Will , I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your mom . My thoughts are with the both of you . Please remember to take care of yourself as well . BIG HUG .

Offline Miss Philicia

  • Member
  • Posts: 23,874
  • celebrity poster, faker & poser
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #7 on: April 25, 2012, 11:39:52 PM »
Thinking of both you and your mother, Wumpy
"Iíve slept with enough men to know that Iím not gay"

Offline tednlou2

  • Member
  • Posts: 4,760
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #8 on: April 26, 2012, 01:54:38 AM »
My thoughts are with your mom and you.  Stay strong!  I hate to even imagine this with my mom.  It is encouraging that she hasn't given up hope and still wants to kick some butt.     

Offline spacebarsux

  • Member
  • Posts: 1,350
  • Survival of the Fittest
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #9 on: April 26, 2012, 03:08:01 AM »
I'm sorry to hear about this Will. Best wishes and all the strength to you and your mother.
Infected-  2005 or early 2006; Diagnosed- Jan 28th, 2011; Feb '11- CD4 754 @34%, VL- 39K; July '11- CD4 907@26%,  VL-81K; Feb '12- CD4 713 @31%, VL- 41K, Nov '12- CD4- 827@31%

Offline Growler

  • Member
  • Posts: 559
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #10 on: April 26, 2012, 05:59:09 AM »
Willy, take care of yourself mate and try to find and share with your mum as much happiness and joy as possible in the time she has left.
GROWLER
ďIf loving someone is putting them in a straitjacket and kicking them down a flight of stairs, then yes, I have loved a few people.Ē

Offline bocker3

  • Member
  • Posts: 3,358
  • You gotta enjoy life......
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #11 on: April 26, 2012, 07:25:04 AM »
Will,

So sorry that your mom is in this shape.  I'm sure she knows how very fortunate she is to have such a good and caring son.
As you take care of her, please remember to take care of you too!  Get some exercise to help reduce your stress, and please try to eat well too.
Will keep you and mom in my thoughts.

Hugs,
Mike
Atripla - Started 12/05
Reyataz/Norvir - Added 6/06
Labs - Pre-Meds
Sep05 T=350/25% VL98,559
Nov05 288/18%  47,564
Current Labs
May2013 691/31% <20

Offline J.R.E.

  • Member
  • Posts: 7,094
  • Joined Dec-2003 Living positive, since 1985.
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #12 on: April 26, 2012, 07:56:05 AM »
Will,

Sorry to hear about you mom. Keeping both of you in my thoughts.


Ray
Current Meds ; Viramune, Epzicom, 40mg of simvastatin, 12.5mg of Hydrochlorothiazide.
Metoprolol tartrate 25mg



http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=40802.0

http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=45159.0

http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=39722.msg495621;topicseen#msg495621

http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=46806.0

http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=39414.msg491701#msg491701


 In October of 2003, My t-cell count was 16, Viral load was over 500,000, Percentage at that time was 5%. I started my first  HAART regimen  on October 24th,03.

 As of 6/4/14,  t-cells are at 423, Viral load <40

 Current % is at 13% 

  
 62 years young.

Offline aztecan

  • Member
  • Posts: 5,382
  • 29 years positive, 56 years a pain in the butt
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #13 on: April 26, 2012, 09:21:09 AM »
Hey Will,

I am very sorry to hear of your mother's turn for the worse. I know this is a difficult time for you and for her.

I will send as much supportive energy as I can muster. You both will be in my thoughts.

(((((HUGS))))

Mark
"May your life preach more loudly than your lips."
~ William Ellery Channing (Unitarian Minister)

Offline Ann

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 28,134
  • It just is, OK?
    • Num is sum qui mentiar tibi?
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #14 on: April 26, 2012, 09:55:12 AM »
((((((Will)))))) Thinking of you and your mother both and sending you strength, positive energy and peace.
Condoms are a girl's best friend

Condom and Lube Info  



"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline denb45

  • Member
  • Posts: 5,051
  • "1987 Classic Old School POZ+"
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #15 on: April 26, 2012, 10:04:15 AM »



 Sorry Will.e.Wump.  :(   mothers are special and you only get one in your entire lifetime, do whatever you have to do for her, and I wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you young man  ;)
"it's so nice to be insane, cause no-one ask you to explain" Helen Reddy cc 1974

Offline pozniceguy

  • Member
  • Posts: 1,175
  • Niceguy Dallas
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #16 on: April 26, 2012, 10:29:11 AM »
so  sad   Will,  a major  setback  for  both of you.... glad you are able to help with taking her in and arranging care.... lots of  good thoughts and positive energy  coming your way  and a few prayers as well...


Nick
remember the good times...honor the past but don't live there
Le stelle la notte sono grandie luminose, nel cuore profondo del Texas

Offline LM

  • Member
  • Posts: 409
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #17 on: April 26, 2012, 10:29:39 AM »
I'm sorry, I wish you and your mom much strength.

Offline Joe K

  • Global Moderator
  • Member
  • Posts: 3,493
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #18 on: April 26, 2012, 12:05:25 PM »
What horrible news Will, my thoughts are with you and your mom.  We just lost Stephen's mother and the hospice/hospital staff were excellent in helping to set up her house, so she could go home and die.  Take advantage of their offers to help.  I'm also a only child, so I empathize with all the duties falling squarely on your shoulders.

Please remember to take care of yourself as well.

Joe

Offline wolfter

  • Member
  • Posts: 4,350
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #19 on: April 26, 2012, 12:25:35 PM »
So sorry to read this.  Stay strong and take care of business.  Your mother is very fortunate to have such a caring son. 

Have you considered contacting veterans organizations?  I know VFW's have inventories of hospice needs equipment that they loan out for free.  It doesn't matter if you have a veteran affiliation or not. 

Take care and best wishes.

Wolfie
productivity breeds content

Offline Theyer

  • Member
  • Posts: 2,470
  • Current ambition. Walk the Dog .
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #20 on: April 26, 2012, 12:26:33 PM »
I am so sorry Mr Wump ,and I am wishing you all the luck I can.Your Mother sounds great,certainly the bit about the fixing you up with the nurse.
michael
"If we can find the money to kill people, we can find the money to help people ."  Tony Benn

Offline RAB

  • Member
  • Posts: 1,895
  • Joined March 2003
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #21 on: April 26, 2012, 01:00:05 PM »
Well crap Wumpster.  This is just awful.  I'll keep you and your mom in my thoughts and prayers.

As others have said make sure you take care of yourself too.

Love and Hugs

RAB

Offline Lugzsoo

  • Member
  • Posts: 183
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #22 on: April 26, 2012, 02:23:45 PM »
Sorry to hear this hope everything turns out good for you and your mom . God bless you both

Hugs to you both

Offline thunter34

  • Member
  • Posts: 7,302
  • His name is Carl.
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #23 on: April 26, 2012, 07:32:44 PM »
Hey, Will.  So sorry about your Mother.  Sending love and positive energy your way.
AIDS isn't for sissies.

Offline OneTampa

  • Member
  • Posts: 2,092
  • "Butterflies are free."
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #24 on: April 26, 2012, 08:42:39 PM »
Will,

I join everyone in saying that I am sorry to hear of your mother's illness.

I am sure she knows that she has in you a precious son at her side.

Bless you and your mother.
"He is my oldest child. The shy and retiring one over there with the Haitian headdress serving pescaŪto frito."

Offline phildinftlaudy

  • Member
  • Posts: 2,959
  • sweet Ann what you think babe...
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #25 on: April 26, 2012, 09:06:39 PM »
Will -
I am so sorry to hear this.
Please give your mother a big hug from me.
Also, give yourself one too.
I am sure that it means so much to her that you are there for her.
Enjoy every conversation and your time together with her.
If you do go the hospice route - just know that they are truly angels. They have to be some of the most amazing people I have ever met.
Having been through the process with my dad a little over a year ago - I can't speak highly enough about how they made a difficult situation much more bearable.

I will be keep you and your moms in my prayers and my thoughts.
Make sure you also take care of yourself.
Much love to you.

-Phil
September 13, 2008 - diagnosed +
Labs:
Date    CD4    %   VL     Date  CD4  %   VL
10/08  636    35  510   9/09 473  38 2900  12/4/09 Atripla
12/09  540    30    60   
12/10  740    41  <48   
8/11    667    36  <20  
03/12  1,041  42  <20
05/12  1,241  47  <20
08/12   780    37  <20
11/12   549    35  <20
02/12  1,102  42  <20
11/12   549    35  <20

Offline Solo_LTSurvivor

  • Member
  • Posts: 1,176
  • Twerk Baby Twerk
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #26 on: April 26, 2012, 11:13:25 PM »
Will,

I'm so sorry to hear this.  Sending you lots of positive energy and keeping you in my thoughts.
don't equate intelligence with lack of masculinity
Jim Phelps, Mission Impossible
____________________________

Seroconverted: Early 80s
Tested & confirmed what I already knew: early 90s

Current regimen: Atripla. 
Last regimen:  Epzicom, Sustiva (since its inception with NO adverse side effects: no vivid dreams and NONE of the problems people who can't tolerate this drug may experience: color me lucky ::))
Past regimens
Fun stuff (in the past):  HAV/HBV, crypto, shingles, AIDS, PCP

Jan 2012: 818/21%
Apr 2012: 964/22%
Jul. 2012: 890/21%
Oct. 2012: 920/23%

Still UD after all these years

Offline BT65

  • Global Moderator
  • Member
  • Posts: 9,837
  • Vegas baby!
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #27 on: April 27, 2012, 04:35:19 AM »
Willy, this makes me sad.  I'll continue to keep you and your mom in my thoughts and well wishes.  As you know, I helped take care of my mum in her last days with lung cancer.  Not a good way to go (but what is).  Hospice is a tremendous blessing, so getting set up with them is great. 

Please take care of yourself, you're going to need all the strength you can muster!
Much luv,
Betty
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

Offline skeebo1969

  • Member
  • Posts: 5,699
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #28 on: April 27, 2012, 06:24:06 AM »



   I'm sorry to here of your mother's grim condition.  Having gone through this myself with my own mother I know it's not easy.  No words can make it any better...  hang in there Willy.
I despise the song Love is in the Air, you should too.

Offline Matty the Damned

  • Member
  • Posts: 12,198
  • Ninja Please
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #29 on: April 27, 2012, 06:25:58 AM »
Christ Wumpy. :(

Matty the Damned doesn't pray but he will keep your mum in his daily anxieties.

MtD

Offline MarkB

  • Member
  • Posts: 292
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #30 on: April 27, 2012, 04:25:17 PM »
Will

My Mum died from lung cancer: I will be thinking very especially of your mother, and of you, where I am.

Offline WillyWump

  • Member
  • Posts: 7,098
  • PLEASE no masturbating to this pic!
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #31 on: April 29, 2012, 08:30:48 PM »
Thanks everyone for the kind words and thoughts.

This is tough as SHIT. Mom is now on a rented hospital bed in my living room. She goes from the bed to a recliner, and thats it. I use a wheelchair to take her back and forth to the restroom.

Luckily I have a home health care aAid coming in Mon, weds, fri to bathe and help with grooming.

She fell the other day and I could barely get her up, it's like deadlifting 150 pounds.

I guess she really should be in a facility, but She starts daily radiation tomorrow, and im hoping some of her abilities will return.

Doc and I are going to guage her response to radiation, and then decide on Hospice.

-Will
POZ since '08

Last Labs-
6/3/14 CD4- 736, UD 34%
6/25/13 CD4- 1036, UD,
2/4/13, CD4 - 489, UD, 28%

Current Meds: Prezista/Epzicom/ Norvir
.

Offline RapidRod

  • Member
  • Posts: 15,274
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #32 on: April 29, 2012, 09:39:56 PM »
Will, I'm so sorry. I hope things improve.

Offline forrest

  • Member
  • Posts: 162
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #33 on: April 29, 2012, 10:02:55 PM »
Sorry to hear about this Wil.  It's always tough to know what to say... but thoughts are with you as you go through this difficult time.  Thank goodness she has you! Hang in there!
2011-03-26:  Tested Positive

Date           |VL        |CD4 |4%  |CD8 |8%  |C4:C8
2011-04-06 |48,653 |603 |32.0 |646 |35.0 |0.61
2011-05-23 |64,324 |577 |36.0 |576 |36.0 |1.00
2011-08-02 |18,319 |574 |36.3 |587 |37.2 |0.98
2011-12-06 |10,375 |480 |30.1 |616 |38.7 |0.78
2012-02-22 |  9,674 |570 |33.6 |655 |38.7 |0.87
2012-05-04 |  8,439 |559 |30.4 |706 |38.4 |0.79

Offline buginme2

  • Member
  • Posts: 2,834
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #34 on: April 29, 2012, 10:10:59 PM »
Sorry to hear you are having a difficult time.  Your mother is so fortunate to have you as her son.

Offline WillyWump

  • Member
  • Posts: 7,098
  • PLEASE no masturbating to this pic!
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #35 on: May 13, 2012, 08:04:17 PM »
Hi, So an update of sorts.

I had to make the decision to put mom in Hospice a decision that came with great struggle from within myself. But nevertheless she is in Hospice, in a Care facility (read nursing home). I think this is like her 5th day in the facility, after spending 10 days in the Hospital.

Doing well, already surprising the docs. THey were saying "a couple weeks" a couple weeks ago. and she is still very alert even if somewhat confused.

anyways it's tough.

We celebrated Moms day in the "care facility ::), flowers, fresh Oatmeal Raisin cookies, and Sea Island shrimp House takout for lunch. I got her out of bed and rolled her out to the Rose garden, where there were no roses. There were however several of those big apartment style bird houses that were brimming with birds, which mom took great delight in.

I'm doing well mostly, sometimes its very tough but as we know a good cry really cleanses out the soul.

Nayways my cuz is in town visiting mom so I got the night off and thougt I would see if I could wreak some havoc around here with you people

-Will

« Last Edit: May 13, 2012, 08:06:48 PM by WillyWump »
POZ since '08

Last Labs-
6/3/14 CD4- 736, UD 34%
6/25/13 CD4- 1036, UD,
2/4/13, CD4 - 489, UD, 28%

Current Meds: Prezista/Epzicom/ Norvir
.

Offline GSOgymrat

  • Member
  • Posts: 5,001
  • HIV+ since 1993. INTJ
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #36 on: May 13, 2012, 08:17:16 PM »
I confess I got choked up reading your post, it being Mother's Day. It reminded me of when my mom was in hospice. There is really nothing I can think to say but that you both are in my thoughts.

Offline tednlou2

  • Member
  • Posts: 4,760
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #37 on: May 13, 2012, 10:55:23 PM »
This is indeed sad all together, but especially on Mother's Day.  It is good to hear you got to spend some time with Mom today and can also get a little break.

Offline Andy Velez

  • Global Moderator
  • Member
  • Posts: 24,381
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #38 on: May 14, 2012, 09:56:59 AM »
Sounds like you and your Mom are doing as well as can be expected in this very difficult situation, Willy.

You can only do your best, angels can do no more.

Hoping that things continue as well as possible for her in the hospice and sending best to you.

Cheers, bud.
Andy Velez

Offline red_Dragon888

  • Member
  • Posts: 2,811
  • Love and Be Love in Return
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #39 on: May 14, 2012, 11:20:49 AM »
I know she is very happy and lucky to have you there by her side.  Hopefully she will pull through and take on the world.  I wish you all the best and a whole lot of positive energy to you, yours and the world.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=I3ba3lnFHik

ďNeither look forward where there is doubt nor backward where there is regret. Look inward and ask not if there is anything o

Offline Miss Philicia

  • Member
  • Posts: 23,874
  • celebrity poster, faker & poser
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #40 on: May 14, 2012, 01:10:35 PM »
You're a good son, Wumpy -- now return the phone call I just made to you :)
"Iíve slept with enough men to know that Iím not gay"

Offline skeebo1969

  • Member
  • Posts: 5,699
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #41 on: May 14, 2012, 05:23:15 PM »
Hi, So an update of sorts.

I had to make the decision to put mom in Hospice a decision that came with great struggle from within myself. But nevertheless she is in Hospice, in a Care facility (read nursing home). I think this is like her 5th day in the facility, after spending 10 days in the Hospital.

Doing well, already surprising the docs. THey were saying "a couple weeks" a couple weeks ago. and she is still very alert even if somewhat confused.

anyways it's tough.

We celebrated Moms day in the "care facility ::), flowers, fresh Oatmeal Raisin cookies, and Sea Island shrimp House takout for lunch. I got her out of bed and rolled her out to the Rose garden, where there were no roses. There were however several of those big apartment style bird houses that were brimming with birds, which mom took great delight in.

I'm doing well mostly, sometimes its very tough but as we know a good cry really cleanses out the soul.

Nayways my cuz is in town visiting mom so I got the night off and thougt I would see if I could wreak some havoc around here with you people

-Will

Brings back memories of when my own mother was in hospice.  As she lay in bed during her last I remember stepping outside and seeing all the cars zoom by on nearby I-95.  It's weird when one's world stops how so much keeps moving.... doesn't seem right.

Anyways, enjoy these moments and try to take every second in.  It will be gone before you know it and all that's left are the sporadic dreams and fond memories.

I despise the song Love is in the Air, you should too.

Offline OneTampa

  • Member
  • Posts: 2,092
  • "Butterflies are free."
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #42 on: May 14, 2012, 07:46:45 PM »
Will,

You and your mother remain in my thoughts.

Take care.
"He is my oldest child. The shy and retiring one over there with the Haitian headdress serving pescaŪto frito."

Offline Miss Philicia

  • Member
  • Posts: 23,874
  • celebrity poster, faker & poser
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #43 on: May 15, 2012, 02:52:16 PM »
I just talked to La Wumpella for a good 40 minutes on the phone. He seems to be doing OK all things considered.
"Iíve slept with enough men to know that Iím not gay"

Offline Jeff G

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 10,731
  • How am I doing Beren ?
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #44 on: May 15, 2012, 03:14:21 PM »
I just talked to La Wumpella for a good 40 minutes on the phone. He seems to be doing OK all things considered.

Thanks for sharing ... Willy , you have been in my thoughts .

Offline Miss Philicia

  • Member
  • Posts: 23,874
  • celebrity poster, faker & poser
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #45 on: May 15, 2012, 04:03:50 PM »
Thanks for sharing ... Willy , you have been in my thoughts .

Willamina said hearing my high pitched nelly voice completely ruined all of his masturbatory fantasies he had of me. You know, a girl's gotta keep it real.
"Iíve slept with enough men to know that Iím not gay"

Offline Jeff G

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 10,731
  • How am I doing Beren ?
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #46 on: May 15, 2012, 04:08:43 PM »
Willamina said hearing my high pitched nelly voice completely ruined all of his masturbatory fantasies he had of me. You know, a girl's gotta keep it real.

Please ... your voice is all Lauren Bacall from cigs , booze and coke unless its klonny Thursday and then it goes up a couple of octaves . 

Offline red_Dragon888

  • Member
  • Posts: 2,811
  • Love and Be Love in Return
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #47 on: May 15, 2012, 08:33:35 PM »
my condolences...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=I3ba3lnFHik

ďNeither look forward where there is doubt nor backward where there is regret. Look inward and ask not if there is anything o

Offline BT65

  • Global Moderator
  • Member
  • Posts: 9,837
  • Vegas baby!
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #48 on: May 16, 2012, 04:38:30 AM »
So sorry to read this, Will, but it seems she's in a good place.  Keep doing what you are, and peace to you and your mom. :-*
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

Offline WillyWump

  • Member
  • Posts: 7,098
  • PLEASE no masturbating to this pic!
Re: Momma Has Taken a Turn for the Worse
« Reply #49 on: May 17, 2012, 09:11:58 PM »
I just talked to La Wumpella for a good 40 minutes on the phone. He seems to be doing OK all things considered.

Yes, I am actually doing pretty good, dealing with the situation better.

What doesnt kill us makes us stronger, and all that. (didnt Jesus say that)

Mom keeps outliving her prognosis, tough old bat. The nurses keep telling her she is in "rehab", so she keeps complaining that no one is rehabbing her. Over the last few days she has shown an improvement in her condition mentally, kind of like she was "getting better", but nurses say it could just be a rally before the end.

We will see.

-W

ps, thanks again for all t he kind words. and yes, Missp voice wreaks of Nelliness and rainbows.
POZ since '08

Last Labs-
6/3/14 CD4- 736, UD 34%
6/25/13 CD4- 1036, UD,
2/4/13, CD4 - 489, UD, 28%

Current Meds: Prezista/Epzicom/ Norvir
.

 


Terms of Membership for these forums
 

© 2014 Smart + Strong. All Rights Reserved.   terms of use and your privacy
Smart + Strong® is a registered trademark of CDM Publishing, LLC.