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extremely scarred
« on: April 06, 2012, 05:45:45 AM »
Hello everyone,

I'd like to first start by saying thank you for taking the time to read this.

Where to begin...

I'm 22 years old and have engaged in unprotected sexual intercourse with three different women, all of whom I was dating at the time of each occurance. My most recent girlfriend had mono which she passed on to me, or so I thought. Not long after we had unprotected sex I ended up breaking out in my pubic area with what I had thought was genital warts. They popped up on the shaft of my penis as well as all over the my pubic region. It was at this time that I noticed that one of my tonsils was noticably inflamed. The warts went away on their own after about two weeks but I still had an inflammed tonsil. I went to the doctor who gave me round after round of powerful antibodies (amoxocilen). When none of the antibiotics worked they put me on steriods which also didn't work. It's been nearly a year and a half and my tonsil is still enflamed. I saw an etn specialist who told me it was quite common and isn't anything to worry about.

It's been nearly two years since my outbreak out what i thought to be genital warts. Since that time I've noticed many symptoms similar to those of HIV infection:
- unplanned weight lose
- diarrhea
- anxiety
- depression
- wart like rash on palm of hands
- acute inflammed tonsil

I'm unbelievably scarred. I have yet to be tested for HIV, reason being that I fear that if I'm infected ill probably commit suicide. This sounds crazy but its the truth. My respect for HIV+ people compared to anyone else is unrivaled. They are true warriors in my mind and exeplify the bravery and courage of the strongest human beings imaginable. I'm simply not one of thoae people. I don't have it in me. Im not strong enough.

Any response (positive, negative, or otherwise) would be GREATLY appreciated. thank you so much and  have a great day.

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Re: extremely scarred
« Reply #1 on: April 06, 2012, 10:05:23 AM »
Stop with the drama about suicide. Let's focus on some details and what you need to do. First of all you need to stop having unprotected vaginal (and anal) intercourse. Everytime you are involved in those activities you need to be wearing a condom. No exceptions. Condoms provide very effective protection against HIV transmission. It really is that simple.

HIV is not an easy virus to transmit. It is significantly more difficult to accomplish from female to male than the other way around. Low risk is not the same as no risk, so you do need to get tested. And the odds are in your favor that you will test negative.   

Instead of torturing yourself with doubts and fears, get tested. If I have read your story correctly you're well past the 3 months  point at which you can get a conclusive and reliable result. You can go into get tested terrified. Do it anyway.

Given what you have reported I expect you will test negative. None of your so-called symptoms are in any way HIV specific.

Keep us posted on your result. Good luck. And remember, start using condoms when you're having sex. 
Andy Velez

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Re: extremely scarred
« Reply #2 on: April 19, 2012, 06:17:50 PM »
I appreciate the reply, you've put my mind at ease a little bit! Thank you so much!

I'm not able to get in for an std/HIV test with my doctor until next week. I'm still very uneasy about the whole situation. I know for a fact that I've contracted a viral std I'm just not sure which one (herpes, genital warts, hiv).

I was wondering if there were any definitive signs of contracting the HIV virus?

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Re: extremely scarred
« Reply #3 on: April 19, 2012, 08:36:31 PM »
I can't help you out about symptoms. Something for you to know now and remember for the future is that neither the presence nor the absence of symptoms is ever the way to know reliably about your HIV status.

Only an HIV specific test taken at the right time will give you a reliable result.

Symptoms that show up and about which people often get worried about HIV are just too much like many other illnesses.

I still expect you to come out of this ok.
Andy Velez

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Re: extremely scarred
« Reply #4 on: April 20, 2012, 05:45:04 AM »
Thee,

I missed your initial post from April 6th.

What you're calling warts doesn't sound like warts to me - warts generally don't go away on their own. If you're thinking they were warts because they were painless, then it may well have been syphilis.

Primary syphilis causes painless sores (called chancres) on the body where you have come into skin-to-skin contact with someone else's syphilis. They go away after a week or two.

Secondary syphilis can cause a rash on the palms of your hands and/or soles of your feet weeks or months (sometimes longer) after primary infection has occurred. See why I'm thinking syphilis?

Syphilis is a treatable bacterial infection - but it must be treated. Even though the sores and rashes go away on their own, syphilis will still be in your body causing damage.

Tertiary (third stage) syphilis isn't pretty - and it can kill you (syphilis is what killed Al Capone). Historically, syphilis has been known as "The Great Imitator" because it mimics many other illnesses.

Go get a complete STI check up (including but NOT limited to hiv testing) as soon as possible. You are far more likely to have picked up some STI other than hiv. The other STIs are MUCH more easily transmitted and some, UNLIKE hiv, only need skin-to-skin contact in order to be transmitted.

If you want to know more about syphilis, talk to a doctor. We try to keep our focus on hiv here, but your post was just screaming out "syphilis!" to me, so I told you about it.

Ann
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Re: extremely scarred
« Reply #5 on: April 26, 2012, 01:58:13 AM »
Hey all,

I want to start by thanking you both for taking the time to put my mind at ease a little bit and lend some insight to my situation. Unfortunatly i had to leave the country unexpectedly for a family emergency, so it looks like I may have to postpone my sti test another week (which is not smart on my part)

After reading your replies I'm going to get a full sti test rather than just an hiv test. I apologize for asking so many questions but I had a few concerns:

- its been nearly a year and a half since my breakout, should I be concerned about how long I've waited to take care of this?

-I performed oral sex on a number of girls. During the time of my break out I noticed I have puss in the back of my throat, a marble looking rash on the roof/back of my mouth.

Thank you guys so much again!

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Re: extremely scarred
« Reply #6 on: April 26, 2012, 05:50:36 AM »
theet,

Syphilis is treatable even after a year and a half. There are two possible problems with having waited so long to get treated - if you are indeed dealing with syphilis. You might not be, but you absolutely do need to be tested.

One possible problem is that you've passed it on to someone else during that time. The other is the possibility that you've gone on to develop neurosyphilis (one of the manifestations of tertiary syphilis) which can be a little more difficult to treat, but is still treatable.

You need to get your mouth checked out by a doctor or dentist. While it's unusual to get oral gonorrhea through cunnilingus, it sometimes happens. When you get your complete sexual health check up, you may as well have your throat swabbed while you're at it. Better safe than sorry. Whatever was going on in your mouth does not change the fact that hiv is not transmitted (either way) during cunnilingus.

Do make sure you're tested for syphilis. The painless sores on your penis that went away, then were followed by a rash on the palms of your hands should be a red flag to any sexual health care provider who knows their stuff.

Please do get your complete sexual health check up at the earliest opportunity. Good luck.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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