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Offline freakedout15

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Need help please!! Symptoms are showing!
« on: April 19, 2012, 01:25:42 PM »
Hey everyone,

For the past two weeks, reading some of these stories has been what has kept me sane throughout this very scary experience. I finally decided to just build up the courage and ask my questions and explain my situation.

About three weeks ago, I had unprotected oral sex (she only gave it to me), frottage, and fingering with a girl I knew fairly well. I am fairly certain that during frottage, he panties stayed on, but I am not sure. We both had a few drinks that night, so my memory is a little faint. I do know, however, that there was definitely no penetrative sex at all.

Anyway, after she left, I noticed a very tiny little red dot right below my nail of the finger I used to finger her. I am not sure how fresh of a cut this was, but it definitely was not bleeding at the time I noticed it nor did I feel any pain when I fingered her. I started to freak out about this and for the past three weeks I have been reading up on EVERYTHING std related, especially HIV. After initially feeling a small tingling in my penis that went away an about 10 days, I then began having loose stool for about three days. I also noticed a swelling in my neck, but the doctor said she didnt feel any lymph nodes. I also noticed thrush on my tongue recently, which I have never really checked for, but am definitely worried about now.

My questions are how much of a risk am I at for HIV? I am going to get tested today, and everyone tells me to stop worrying. The girl has even told me that she is negative for all STD's, but I am very scared this could be a rare case having all the symptoms I have. What if she had just been infected and her risk of transmitting it was very high? Would that be enough to infect me through the little cut in my finger if I pleasured her with that finger? She had also been drunk, so could that have broken down the enzymes in her saliva and caused it to transfer that way? I am also uncircumcised, so wouldn't it be even easier for it to spread?

I am sorry for all the questions and somewhat of a long post, but I am very scared. I know I am describing a "perfect storm" situation, but I am just so worried I am going to be the unfortunate one that this happens too!

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Re: Need help please!! Symptoms are showing!
« Reply #1 on: April 19, 2012, 01:30:52 PM »
I also experienced night sweats about two or three times, but they were spread out and I have no fever. I am also experiencing a small ear infection right now that is on and off.

Someone please let me know if I have anything to be worried about, or if I am jusr freaking out!

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Re: Need help please!! Symptoms are showing!
« Reply #2 on: April 19, 2012, 02:12:24 PM »
The perfect storm is going on only in your head. There is absolutely nothing in what you have related which would have put you at risk for HIV.

It's a fragile virus and sexually is only confirmed to have been transmitted through either unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse. Use condoms consistently for those activities and you will be well protected. It really is just that simple.

If you have concerns about any symptoms that is something to discuss with your doctor. They have nothing to do with HIV. And there is no need for HIV testing. Really.
Andy Velez

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Re: Need help please!! Symptoms are showing!
« Reply #3 on: April 19, 2012, 02:59:23 PM »
Thanks Andy,

So you do not think I even need to get tested? I am actually still a virgin, so I just didn't know what to do and became very freaked out. Testing is free and my roommate wants to go anyways, so I will probably do it for my peace of mind. However, you don't think there is any chance it can come out positive?

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Re: Need help please!! Symptoms are showing!
« Reply #4 on: April 19, 2012, 03:36:22 PM »
I sort of summized that you are new to sexual activity.

I'll just repeat again that you were not at risk for HIV. If you want to test just for peace of mind I don't have any doubts you'll get a negative result.

This is also a good time to tell you that other STDs are much easier to acquire than HIV. So even as you are enjoying exploring your sexuality, we recommend that anyone who is sexually active ought to at least once a year have a full STD panel done. And more frequently should there be any suspicious symptoms.

This time I don't see any cause for concern.
« Last Edit: April 19, 2012, 08:32:28 PM by Andy Velez »
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Offline freakedout15

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Re: Need help please!! Symptoms are showing!
« Reply #5 on: April 19, 2012, 06:57:35 PM »
Thanks Andy,
 I guess I'm just a little scared from reading up on all of the symptoms and then experiencing them within the time frame its supposed to show up. I've clearly been assuming the worst, but it's just hard to think about what else this could be. I just need a test to tell me for sure, but I do appreciate your input. It definitely has calmed me down.

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Re: Need help please!! Symptoms are showing!
« Reply #6 on: April 19, 2012, 08:33:58 PM »
Sure, get tested if that's what you need to get past this. And of course your result will be negative is how I see it.

Becoming sexually active is exciting. It also can stir up all sorts of feelings including anxiety.

You'll come out of this one ok. Really.
Andy Velez

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Re: Need help please!! Symptoms are showing!
« Reply #7 on: April 20, 2012, 12:57:02 AM »
You were given oral sex. This is not a risk for HIV  at all.

No one has ever gotten HIV from getting a blowjob. Saliva is not infectious - moreover, saliva inhibits HIV. YOu cannot get HIV from getting oral sex.

You had no risk.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Re: Need help please!! Symptoms are showing!
« Reply #8 on: April 20, 2012, 06:01:49 AM »

As JK and Andy both told you, getting a blowjob is absolutely NOT a risk for hiv infection.

Fingering is also absolutely NOT a risk for hiv infection. You have NOT had a risk for hiv infection.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!!!

Read through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use them correctly and with confidence. You might want to buy some and practice putting them on in the privacy of your own bedroom. This way, you'll be more familiar with them when you need them in the heat of the moment.

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