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Author Topic: Condom broke with a prostitute  (Read 2197 times)

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Offline needhelp042012

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Condom broke with a prostitute
« on: April 17, 2012, 10:03:57 AM »

I've been through a few of these forums looking for information about HIV & STI/D infections from a condom breaking whilst having sex with a sex worker.  I am going mad with worry as this happened to me last night.  I am working in Dubai and ended up getting very drunk in a bar and went back to my room with a girl from the bar, she performed unprotected oral on me and I did a little cunnilingus on her before she pulled my head up.  We then started to have protected intercourse but the condom broke, she felt it break and I pulled out instantly.  I then washed myself thoroughly, not that I even know if that helps and am now absolutely terrified I am infected.
I can't believe how utterly stupid I have been, I'm 38, am married with kids and am more concerned about how this could affect them and that I could loose the wife I love very much.  I know its hypocritical to say I love my wife and then go and have sex with a sex worker, I am ashamed and gutted that everything I care for in life and possibly that could be lost.
If anyone has had a similar experience that could give me any advice I would greatly appreciate it.


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Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Condom broke with a prostitute
« Reply #1 on: April 17, 2012, 06:04:53 PM »
Your risk was a very, very low one due to the broken condom. It was a single incident and a very brief one at that. HIV is far more difficult to transmit from woman to man than the other way around. And you were protected until it broken.

Taking all of that into consideration I do expect you to test negative. You can di an initial test at 6 weeks. A negative result that point is a strong indication that you will continue to test negative for a conclusive result at 3 months.

There's no good to flogging yourself over the incident. It's now a part of your history and you don't get extra points for guilt and regret. You did what you did and let it go is my suggestion.

Ultimately I expect you to come out of this ok. For what it's worth among the many, many reports of broken condoms here, none have ever resulted in the guy turning positive. 
Andy Velez


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