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Author Topic: Had unprotected Anal Sex and is really freaked out. Need Some wisdom and advice.  (Read 4818 times)

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About 5 days ago i had unprotected anal sex without ejaculation, i was the receiver.  This was my first experience with another guy.  It was a complete mental laps in judgment.  We had anal intercourse for about 5 mins and i made him pull it out...it was very uncomfortable so i know there was no ejaculation. but i know that pre-cum poses some risk.  Can someone please give me some words of advice and wisdom.  I talked with this person and he told me that he gets tested regularly and that he was last tested in Nov. So we was clean.  And anyone after that test who he had sex with, he knew for a fact they were clean.  just freaked out right now....and wanting to know my risk level....Just scared!
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About 5 days ago i had unprotected anal sex without ejaculation, i was the receiver.  This was my first experience with another guy.  It was a complete mental laps in judgment.  We had anal intercourse for about 5 mins and i made him pull it out...it was very uncomfortable so i know there was no ejaculation. but i know that pre-cum poses some risk.  Can someone please give me some words of advice and wisdom.  I talked with this person and he told me that he gets tested regularly and that he was last tested in Nov. So we was clean.  And anyone after that test who he had sex with, he knew for a fact they were clean.  just freaked out right now....and wanting to know my risk level....Just scared!
THanks!

1. Never take anyone's word about their status
2. Always use condoms for penetrative anal or vaginal sex
3. Your test at 3 months post exposure will be conclusive, you should also have an STD panel done.

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Yes I know that .....Terrible Mental Laps!  Thanks

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Brice,

Using the word "clean" to describe someone's hiv status is very insulting to those of us who live with hiv. It implies that we are dirty - and I can assure you I shower every day. I'm just as clean as you are - hell, maybe even more so. Please do not use that term here again and think twice before you use it in "real life" as well.

You need to stop having lapses in judgement and start using your head - the big one, not the little one. Many people do not accurately know their hiv status, even though they honestly believe they are hiv negative. And unfortunately, some people lie.

A newly infected person is at his or her most infectious and this little fact is a big part of why the rate of new infections continues to rise. He may have been negative a couple months ago, but if one of those people he thought was negative was actually positive and he got infected, his viral load is going to be sky-high at the moment. And that will make him very infectious.

Does that scare you? Good. It should.

You need to start assuming ANYONE you have anal or vaginal intercourse with is hiv positive and protect yourself accordingly through the simple use of condoms for intercourse.

You need to test. The earliest you should test is at six weeks. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days. A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point, but is highly unlikely to change.

You also need to test for all the other much more easily transmitted STIs Some of them - syphilis, gonorrhea and chlamydia, for example - can be present with no obvious symptoms so the ONLY way to know for sure is to test.

You can test for most STIs ten days to two weeks after an incident, however syphilis shares a three month testing window with hiv in order to obtain a conclusive negative result.

Hopefully you will test negative on all counts and this will have been nothing more than a wake-up call. If it is, PAY ATTENTION!!! Good luck.

Ann
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