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Am I at any risk?
« on: February 03, 2012, 12:36:10 PM »
Firstly, I want to thank you all for these forums they are extremely helpful and provide loads of useful info. I visit here from time to time and I know I should be OK from this incident, but would like to hear from expert. OK, I recently had protected anal intercourse (giver not receiver) with a good friend (who happens to be a high priced ts escort). As far as I know she practices safe sex all the time too (shes a good friend and I trust her, but accidents happen in this business). I'm not worried about the anal or the oral. My question is there was alot of unprotected cock grinding and she masterbated our cocks together for a good amount of time. Sorry to get graphic but I don't know how else to put that. There was alot of precum involved and that is what is worrying me. What do you guys think about this and should I get tested over this? Thanks for your opinion.

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« Reply #1 on: February 03, 2012, 04:09:24 PM »
Being graphic is not a problem here. It's a good way of being able to accurately evaluate whether or not there was risk.

In your case there was no risk. No matter what spin you put on mutual masturbation it is not a risk for HIV. There's no need for further concern nor for testing over that incident with your friend.
Andy Velez

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« Reply #2 on: February 03, 2012, 10:15:49 PM »
This is what I like to hear no doubt :) I actually was thinking over my concern today and realized that its not a concern lol. Thanks bud and keep up the great work here.

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Am I at any risk?
« Reply #3 on: February 24, 2012, 10:21:19 PM »
I posted on here about a month ago but I could not find the thread. A few days ago I had protected sex with a girl I barely know. I had been drinking and in the heat of the moment I frankly didnt care to look, but she was on her period. After we finished I noticed blood covering my condom and around my thighs. I was as careful as I could be removing the condom and wiped the blood off me with soap and a towel. About 24 hours later I felt a lymph node on my neck start to swell. Am I ok to assume since I was protected I should not worry about hiv? I'm not sure what stds I can get from this incident but about how long should I wait for an accurate result to go to a clinic (assuming the lymph node does not go down)? I feel relatively well aside of the lymph node in my neck. Thanks   

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Re: Am I at any risk?
« Reply #4 on: February 24, 2012, 10:28:08 PM »
Please do not start a new thread every time you have another question or thought - regardless if you think your questions are related to each other or not. It helps us to help you when you keep all your thoughts or questions in one thread and it helps other readers to follow the discussion. Additional threads will be merged.

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« Reply #5 on: February 25, 2012, 05:02:11 AM »

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep everything in one thread. It doesn't matter how long it has been since you last posted in your thread or if the subject matter is different.

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Yes, you are ok to assume you had no risk - because you had NO RISK.

Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

You can rest assured that some of the poz women at some point had sex during their period (and it often gets messy) yet their partners remained negative.

Whatever is causing your lymph node to swell isn't hiv. Symptoms of hiv infection - if they happen at all - do not happen within 24 hours. It normally takes about two weeks for symptoms - if they happen at all - to show up.

You can test for any other STIs at ten days to two weeks after the incident. Some are more easily transmitted than hiv so it's always wise to have a complete STI screen at least once a year.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

   , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Am I at any risk?
« Reply #6 on: March 12, 2012, 08:56:22 PM »
Another question for you guys. Very recently I had a one night stand with a girl that admitted to me she used heroin "a few times" as well as other drugs. We used a condom, but I also sucked her nipples and tasted breat milk. I sucked them for less then 5 minutes. I kinda kicked myself afterward because I remembered that breast milk contains the hiv virus and I'm worried. Is this only a theoretical risk or is there documented cases. Would it be wise for me to get tested?

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Re: Am I at any risk?
« Reply #7 on: March 12, 2012, 09:06:47 PM »
No risk at all. Adults do not contract HIV from mothers milk.

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Re: Am I at any risk?
« Reply #8 on: March 12, 2012, 09:48:04 PM »
Sucking milk from the breast of an HIV positive woman is not a risk for another adult. It is only a risk for an infant under 6 months of age because at that point the infant's immune system is not sufficiently developed to provide protection.

You are worrying needlessly and there's no cause for concern nor for testing over this incident.
Andy Velez

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Re: Am I at any risk?
« Reply #9 on: March 12, 2012, 10:36:08 PM »
Ok, thanks guys, thats a relief. I can stop hyperventilating now.

Offline notabot

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Re: Am I at any risk?
« Reply #10 on: April 07, 2012, 12:48:15 AM »
This question is in regards to giving oral sex to either a male or female. Recently, I found a study that took place in San Fran around 2000 in which 7.8 percent of new hiv cases was attributed to oral sex. This is a huge contradiction to other studies I have read. Was this just a case of bad science or is this a legit study? I tried to find more info on this case but there is not a whole lot to go on, but I did find that the cdc says there is a few documented cases of hiv from oral. I'm assuming its giving oral not receiving that they are referring to and is there really documented cases? I always make sure my partners use a condom, but a few times I almost let my emotions get the better of me and would like to know if there truly is any risk if i did give unprotected oral. Thanks.

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Am I at any risk?
« Reply #11 on: April 07, 2012, 04:15:30 AM »
No incident HIV infections among MSM who practice exclusively oral sex.
Int Conf AIDS 2004 Jul 11-16; 15:(abstract no. WePpC2072)??Balls JE, Evans JL, Dilley J, Osmond D, Shiboski S, Shiboski C, Klausner J, McFarland W, Greenspan D, Page-Shafer K?University of California, San Francisco, San Francisco, United States

Oral transmission of HIV, reality or fiction? An update
J Campo1, MA Perea1, J del Romero2, J Cano1, V Hernando2, A Bascones1
Oral Diseases (2006) 12, 219–228

AIDS: Volume 16(17) 22 November 2002 pp 2350-2352
Risk of HIV infection attributable to oral sex among men who have sex with men and in the population of men who have sex with men

Page-Shafer, Kimberlya,b; Shiboski, Caroline Hb; Osmond, Dennis Hc; Dilley, Jamesd; McFarland, Willie; Shiboski, Steve Cc; Klausner, Jeffrey De; Balls, Joycea; Greenspan, Deborahb; Greenspan
Page-Shafer K, Veugelers PJ, Moss AR, Strathdee S, Kaldor JM, van Griensven GJ. Sexual risk behavior and risk factors for HIV-1 seroconversion in homosexual men participating in the Tricontinental Seroconverter Study, 1982-1994 [published erratum appears in Am J Epidemiol 1997 15 Dec; 146(12):1076]. Am J Epidemiol 1997, 146:531-542.

Studies which show the fallacy of relying on anecdotal evidence as opposed to carefully controlled study insofar as HIV transmission risk is concerned:

Jenicek M. "Clinical Case Reporting" in Evidence-Based Medicine. Oxford: Butterworth–Heinemann; 1999:117
Saltzman SP, Stoddard AM, McCusker J, Moon MW, Mayer KH. Reliability of self-reported sexual behavior risk factors for HIV infection in homosexual men. Public Health Rep. 1987 102(6):692–697.Nov–Dec;

Catania JA, Gibson DR, Chitwood DD, Coates TJ. Methodological problems in AIDS behavioral research: influences on measurement error and participation bias in studies of sexual behavior. Psychol Bull. 1990 Nov;108(3):339–362.


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