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I have a couple of basic questions, but first I will tell you my situation.

I had unprotected sex 3 times in one night with a guy I was dating (I'm a female), he did not ejaculate in me.  I performed oral on him, without ejaculation.  Before engaging in sex, I did at least ask when he last tested (he indicated he tested 7 months prior), etc, you never know when someone is lying.  I had a test done at 3 1/2-4 week time frame and another at 8 weeks.   I had a full range of STD testing, done last week (3 1/2 months after) and everything was negative.  I know everyone states that you should have another test at 13 weeks, but my question are:

1) Have you ever seen anyone test negative at 4 weeks and 8 weeks, test positive at the 13 week test (given there are not other unsafe encounters)?

2) I started having a problem with my mouth, red and sore, (I did burn my mouth on some unbelievably hot coffee a week ago), and it's been bothering me (I'm also a smoker), but, could this be an indication of something else, 3 1/2 months after the encounters?

I had one encounter after this time, but it was FULLY protected and to the best of my knowledge (I looked at the condom), there was no breakage.  3) Is it VERY obvious looking when a condom breaks?

Along with this one, there is another web site that I monitor the questions and answers on, medhelp, and Dr. H indicates that you can be 99% sure at a 8 week test, do you all disagree.  He has indicated that he along with other doctors that work closely with HIV patients have never had anyone test positive that tested negative at a 6 week test, based on the same encounter, do you all agree?  (I guess in a way that's a repeat question).

Thanks for your time for answering and all that you do for us worriers!!!!

God Bless

Condom failure is very noticeable. Yes I have seen someone go from negative to positive within 4 week time frame. I've never seen anyone go from negative to positive at 8 weeks. Your mouth problems should be looked at if it is bothering you. Symptoms or the lack of symptoms mean zilch when it comes to diagnosing HIV. I don't believe in using percentages when it comes to HIV test results. I wouldn't want it to come back and bite me on the ass.


I've never seen a six week negative turn positive at three months either. However, you would be wise to get your three month confirmation so you can move on with your life.

And speaking of your life, you need to stop playing roulette with it by having unprotected intercourse. You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can make sure your fella is using them properly. While you're on either of those pages, have a look through the bottom three links in the left-hand column. They discuss ways that you, as a woman, can protect yourself. I recommend the female condom as they are also excellent barriers against hiv infection, and importantly, they give YOU the control over condom use.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

Please consider your recent check-up as the start of a life-long habit. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.


Thank you very much for taking the time to answer my questions, as well as everyone else on here.

I ABSOLUTELY agree about "stop playing roulette."  I always carry condoms now and have no problems saying 'no glove, no love.'  At my last encounter, I made sure that a condom was put in place before he went inside me and as soon as we were done, he withdrew and removed the condom. 

I had my mouth problem looked about two weeks ago, I went to an ENT and he stuck a camera down my nose to make sure I didn't have throat cancer, from being a smoker.  I am currently working on quiting, I have cut back from 1 1/2 packs a day to 1/2 pack a day, and I 'm going to start using the patch on Monday.  My GP looked at my mouth two weeks ago, when I had burnt my mouth a couple days before on coffee and indicated it was a scald burn, but then two days later, burnt it on hot coffee again (some of these places serve the coffee so hot, and I'm a latte addict :).  I guess I made it worse when I burned on top of a burn.  But, plan on going back this week if it isn't better.

Thanks again for all your the work that you all do on here and being so patience for those of us that make stupid decisions in our lives, or get paniced when we try to be safe, and condoms break, etc.  You all really do help control the fears, and you have equally provided me with a lot of knowledge on how to stay safe.

One more questions, please.

I've read that close to 70% or more of people that experience ARS, a 'high fever' is almost always present.  What exactly is a 'high fever' as it relates to ARS, 101, 102, higher?  I was curious for my own knowledge.

Thank you again.


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