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Offline Ravhyn

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« on: October 22, 2011, 01:02:32 AM »
hey everyone sorry I have been away a while. I will be disseappering again but I just wanted to let everyone know I was okay. My husband wants a divorce, he waited till the end of his deployment to tell me so I sat for a year waiting for him to get ready to come and then drop it in my lap. I haven't had a job in 6 years except my entrepenaur attempts so I have two weeks to get a job, move out and start my life over.  I haven't even gone on a date in that 6 years, so this is all very new waters for me. (not that I plan to run out and go on a date)

So I just wanted everyone to know that I am okay, and will hopefully be back before the beginning of the year. 
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Offline leatherman

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Re: Divorce
« Reply #1 on: October 22, 2011, 01:33:36 AM »
ah damn. I'm very sorry to hear about this Rav. :'(
Best wishes during this hard time of moving on with your life. :-*
hang in there though. You're tough and you'll make it through this.
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Offline Ravhyn

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Re: Divorce
« Reply #2 on: October 22, 2011, 02:59:21 AM »
Yea, would be nice though to come on here once and actually have some good news =)

ty Leatherman, I wish u all a great holiday season. Hoping I'll be on in time to wish everyone a Merry Christmas. 
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Offline jkinatl2

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Re: Divorce
« Reply #3 on: October 22, 2011, 03:49:59 AM »
Hope you take good care of yourself during this difficult time. Its always hard to go through these life altering events AND deal with a disease that alters a person's life anyhow. For what it's worth, you aren't alone.

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Offline mecch

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Re: Divorce
« Reply #4 on: October 22, 2011, 05:29:36 AM »
I am very very sorry to hear that. What a shock.  Sending you some courage strength and luck.
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Re: Divorce
« Reply #5 on: October 22, 2011, 08:01:33 AM »
I am sorry, take good care and do not stay away too long.
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Re: Divorce
« Reply #6 on: October 22, 2011, 08:31:15 AM »
I'm so sorry Ravhyn . My thoughts are with you .
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Re: Divorce
« Reply #7 on: October 22, 2011, 08:37:20 AM »
Oh Ravhyn, that just sucks! I've been wonder where you've been recently and hoped that your absence was purely down to you being busy, happy and healthy.

I can't believe he's done this to you and it sounds like you're probably better off without him. I mean, what kind of man lets you sit there, worried sick while he's overseas in dangerous territory, and then comes home and dumps this shit on you? If I could get my hands on him, I'd kick his ass for you.

I hope you manage to keep in touch in the coming weeks, even if that means slipping into a cyber-cafe now and then. We'll all be thinking of you and sending you positive energy. I know I will.

Hang in there sweetie!

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Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Divorce
« Reply #8 on: October 22, 2011, 11:19:31 AM »
Hi Rav,

Damn! Well it'll take a while to deal with it all. One day at a time, Rav. And stay close to those who will support you and care about you, including here in the Forum. Of course the financial concerns are important, but overall you especially need caring company to get through.

Keep us posted on how things are going.


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Offline next2u

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Re: Divorce
« Reply #9 on: October 22, 2011, 12:08:52 PM »
hello ravhyn,

sorry to hear the crappy news. don't stay away too long and please keep in touch. man, your whole world just got turned upside down.

i won't ask many questions now but be sure to drop in when you can and let us know what's going on.

take care and stay strong.

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Offline pozniceguy

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Re: Divorce
« Reply #10 on: October 22, 2011, 04:49:42 PM »
such  sad  news  from such a great  person  , hope  you get this  straightened out  quickly...   .. feel  free to  Pm/chat if you want..

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Offline anniebc

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Re: Divorce
« Reply #11 on: October 22, 2011, 05:21:56 PM »
Hi Ravhyn

I'm so sorry to hear this, he certainly doesn't deserve you, I know it's going to be hard for you in the beginning but in time you will be able to turn you life around and start afresh, someone worth waiting for is out there somewhere just waiting for you, give it time but don't give up.

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Offline GSOgymrat

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Re: Divorce
« Reply #12 on: October 22, 2011, 05:47:14 PM »
Sorry you are going through this. I hope you find a good job. Keep us posted.

Offline skeebo1969

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Re: Divorce
« Reply #13 on: October 23, 2011, 10:06:34 AM »

   Divorce sucks and the way he went about it really sucks, so sorry Rav.  I know it's the least of your worries, but hang in there kiddo there's more fish in the sea.  As the others have said, please keep us updated on how you're doing. 

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Re: Divorce
« Reply #14 on: October 24, 2011, 04:47:21 AM »
God, what an asshole.  I'm so sorry, Rav.  Like the others have said, hang in there.  Just take one thing at a time, and try not to get overwhelmed.  Stick with people who want to help and support you.  I'll be thinking about you, and hoping for the best during this difficult situation.  Stay strong! :-*
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Re: Divorce
« Reply #15 on: October 24, 2011, 10:59:05 PM »
I express my condolences and respect in equal measure: ouch! Yuck!
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Offline mecch

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Re: Divorce
« Reply #16 on: December 19, 2011, 05:12:04 AM »
People are still posting to the recipe thread so I thought to write and see if you are back online and how you are doing?  Hope you are among friends are family for the holidays. I'm sending you my best wishes for a better new year!
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