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Author Topic: Mind ablaze with worry!  (Read 1126 times)

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Offline unsurethistime

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Mind ablaze with worry!
« on: December 05, 2011, 04:29:17 PM »
First of all a big thank you to the regulars, Ann, Rod, and Andy. Your patience with people here is boundless, and as many of them are essentially saying 'please God, don't let me be like you' I don't know how you do it!

Right, I'm paranoid about HIV. There's no denying it. After every slight risk i've ever had, i've always had those torturous 'what if' thoughts which eventually means I get tested. Basically back in May, I had sex with a CSW in Cambodia and my condom broke. She told me she had HIV and well...that was my travelling experience ruined. 6 weeks to the day after that I had a duo test which was negative. They booked me in for a 3-month test but the woman at the clinic said 'to be honest, you can be 99.9% certain you haven't got it, so I wouldn't worry'. Having felt enormously relieved I decided not to bother with the 3 month and just tried to put it out of my mind.

Which leads me to my next encounter. I got drunk about 2-3 months ago and had unprotected oral 'both ways' with another lad. Now I know about all the studies which show a negligible/zero risk but I had some worrying factors which might go against me. I had brushed my teeth probably 30 mins before. When he came I just sort of tasted it on the tip of my tongue before spitting it out. There really can't have been much in my mouth because I came at the same time and considering myself 99% straight the whole thing seemed suddenly disgusting and i tried to spit everything, my own saliva included, out. Anyway, I got home and noticed a small amount of blood in my spit. OH NO! 3 days later my tonsil developed (and I know that seems too soon to be ARS) white patches and it was painfully swollen. I'd kissed a few girls in a club two days before that so hopefully it was because of that. Since then though, I just haven't been able to get it off my mind, not for long anyway.

So, I know I need to get tested over the first encounter and I'll have to endure that downright harrowing wait for the results yet again. What I'm here for is your thoughts on the second.

P.S. Ann, if you reply, you don't have to worry about the condom copy/paste info. I've lurked here long enough for it to be burnt indelibly into my mind!

Thanks guys and gals x

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Re: Mind ablaze with worry!
« Reply #1 on: December 05, 2011, 05:32:44 PM »
With a negative at 6 weeks for a low level risk incident like a broken condom, I expect you to continue to test negative.

The oral incident is not one that I see as having put you at risk, so having another extended waiting period to re-test is unnecessary.

I expect you to come out of this ok.
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Re: Mind ablaze with worry!
« Reply #2 on: December 05, 2011, 07:20:45 PM »
I am sure Ann has duly noted your request not to copy and paste her information.

However, there have been no stunning new developments in HIV transmission theory in the last couple of years, so whatever we write will be essentially either paraphrasing or a copy and paste of existing scientific information of which you are already aware.

Therefore I concur with Andy. As you probably knew that I would.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Re: Mind ablaze with worry!
« Reply #3 on: December 05, 2011, 07:40:40 PM »

Well, if my C&P info is indelibly burned into your brain, then you'll know you need to be tested for all the other, more easily transmitted STIs as well. Are you aware that you can get chlamydia and/or gonorrhea in your mouth? Now you do. Get a swab done.

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