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Author Topic: New guy at work  (Read 2024 times)

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Offline wolfter

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New guy at work
« on: November 08, 2011, 04:51:27 PM »
I've been working with a new guy at work for a little over a week now and was immediately interested.  I don't usually mix work with pleasure but I started flirting immediately.  My radar kicked into high gear at first sight.  We've been mostly hanging together at work and enjoy each others' company.  He mentioned today that maybe we get a drink some night after work.  I saw my opportunity!  I asked in a stunned manner; "how do you know I don't have a boyfriend?"  He immediately looked shocked and apologized.  I told him it was OK because I don't have one.  He felt relieved and still suggested going out for a couple. 

He also works a full time job but suggested this evening.  I informed him I bowl tonight and he asked if it's OK if he stops by and hangs out.  Hell yes it's OK!!!!  I've never had to decide on a hot outfit that you can also bowl in.....I'll figure it out.

I guess flirting is just like riding a bike afterall.

Wolfie (who hopefully won't be back here until tomorrow)
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Offline Theyer

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #1 on: November 08, 2011, 05:02:14 PM »
Good luck , full details now you have tantalized us. Yes my life is that boring.
"If we can find the money to kill people, we can find the money to help people ."  Tony Benn

Offline hope_for_a_cure

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #2 on: November 08, 2011, 05:05:08 PM »
You go Wolfie.  I bet you flashed him one of your smiles and had him hooked from the get go!  Enjoy yourself and by the time you read this... hope your night out went well.  

Offline GSOgymrat

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #3 on: November 08, 2011, 05:28:31 PM »
Sounds promising, you charmer!

Offline Growler

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #4 on: November 08, 2011, 07:21:28 PM »
Remember ladies a gentleman NEVER kisses and tells.

Well-a well-a well-a huh
Tell me more, tell me more, did you get very far?
Tell me more, tell me more, like does he have a car?
Uh-huh-uh-huh-uh-huh-uh-huh
 

Have fun mate

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Offline leatherman

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #5 on: November 08, 2011, 10:09:59 PM »
I bet you flashed him one of your smiles and had him hooked from the get go!
having been charmed by that smile myself, I say "WooHoo Wolfie! Have a great time!"

oh, and I want to hear all the dirty details later. 8)
leatherman (aka mIkIE)


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That I live and you are gone.
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There's a pain goes on and on.
Empty chairs at empty tables
Where my friends will meet no more.

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Offline bocker3

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #6 on: November 08, 2011, 10:20:04 PM »
Wolfie (who hopefully won't be back here until tomorrow)

Why -- how late do you bowl??   ;D

Hope you get a strike!

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Offline tednlou2

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #7 on: November 08, 2011, 11:50:00 PM »
There is something so exciting and powerful about meeting someone new.  It releases so many endorphins and other things  ;D 

That is the one thing about being with someone for so long.  You have to try and keep the romance going.  Good luck and report back with the details. 

Offline wolfter

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #8 on: November 10, 2011, 06:59:11 AM »
There is something so exciting and powerful about meeting someone new.  It releases so many endorphins and other things  ;D 

That is the one thing about being with someone for so long.  You have to try and keep the romance going.  Good luck and report back with the details. 

I was in a long term relationship and haven't dated since my early 20's.  It's that great, yet terrifying feeling. 
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Offline wolfter

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #9 on: November 10, 2011, 07:16:01 AM »
We ended up going out for a while after bowling.  He is so adorable, and at a minimum, I'm certain I've got a new friend.  Learning the new things about a person and determining compatabilities takes time.  There are a couple of "red flags" that I'm already concerned about, but I'll just see where it progresses. 

As deeply as I long for another relationship, I refuse to settle or push for something that wasn't meant to be.  I've dreaded the whole dating thing as an older adult.  The whole insecurities thing and all.  This gave me the confidence that I needed to believe I was actually desirable to someone.

He's an industrial electrician yet asked if I wanted to help him correct some issues with his fuse box in the house he's remodeling.  Obviously, I accepted and am looking forward to the weekend.  Maybe I'll convince him it needs to be really hot in the house so we can work shirtless?  There's part of that dream fantasy I have about shirtless manual laborers. 

Thanks for all the nice comments!
Wolfie
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Offline hope_for_a_cure

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #10 on: November 10, 2011, 07:39:48 AM »
He's an industrial electrician yet asked if I wanted to help him correct some issues with his fuse box in the house he's remodeling. 

He sounds butch Wolfie! 

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #11 on: November 10, 2011, 07:43:04 AM »

Maybe I'll convince him it needs to be really hot in the house so we can work shirtless?  There's part of that dream fantasy I have about shirtless manual laborers. 


If the thermostat is already pushed up high when you get there, you'll know you're on the same page. Might be why he asked you to help. He wants you to hold his tools! ;D

Good luck!
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Offline wolfter

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #12 on: November 10, 2011, 07:49:40 AM »
He sounds butch Wolfie! 

So if I mentioned first that he enjoys playing classical music on his piano and enjoys crafting, would you think he's a fem?....JK....gotta love the stereotypes.  He's quite petite actually. 

I've never quite figured out if I'm butch or fem since I do a wide sprectrum of interests and abilities. ;D

Wolfie
Judging someone does not define them, it defines you. 

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Offline hope_for_a_cure

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #13 on: November 10, 2011, 07:55:02 AM »
LOL...he sounds like a dream!  Enjoy getting to know him more.

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #14 on: November 10, 2011, 08:31:34 AM »

I've never quite figured out if I'm butch or fem since I do a wide sprectrum of interests and abilities. ;D


You could always be a femibutch like me. ;D
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline wolfter

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #15 on: November 10, 2011, 09:01:09 AM »
You could always be a femibutch like me. ;D

I've always called it being versatile....kinda like that top/bottom thing.  I'm neither exclusively - I'm both and expect the same ;D  And I do hope he already has the heat kicked up.  That'd be a good sign.
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Offline mecch

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #16 on: November 10, 2011, 09:37:01 AM »
I don't usually mix work with pleasure but I started flirting immediately. 
Well as long as you are really sure this isn't a bad idea, then congrats on the flirt!
“From each, according to his ability; to each, according to his need” 1875 K Marx

Offline GSOgymrat

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #17 on: November 10, 2011, 09:53:26 AM »
Plays classical piano is definitely a plus!

Offline denb45

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #18 on: November 10, 2011, 01:30:35 PM »
I've always called it being versatile....kinda like that top/bottom thing.  I'm neither exclusively - I'm both and expect the same ;D  And I do hope he already has the heat kicked up.  That'd be a good sign.

Go for it Greg  ;) when I 1st met Bob, I was really shy, but he wasn't tho, he told me later-on that he thought it was cute ( me being shy and all, and being kinda funny about being POZ+),

he also told me
"Hey, so what, I know what safe sex is, so I'm not worried about that" I just like YOU for who you are  ;D

18 yrs later we still like each other  :D
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Offline wolfter

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Re: New guy at work
« Reply #19 on: November 11, 2011, 07:11:23 AM »
Yeah, that disclosure thing was a toughy back then.  My last attempt (just a few years ago) at a relationship resulted in him leaving while I was at work without any further communication.  He was such a fool anyways.  He begged me for sex and I could have simply lied but had to disclose before I could have intercourse.  If he is out there having sex based on what people are telling him about their status, he hasn't learned anything about the entire dynamics of this virus.

I plan on really getting to know Stephen before disclosing.  Hopefully he's mature and old enough to know about this virus.  If a true friendship develops first, it might be easier to deal with.  If not, it won't crush me.  I no longer feel the need to assume ownership for others' behaviors.

Wolfie
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True peace is not merely the absence of war, it is the presence of justice.

 


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