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Author Topic: Scared please help Ann and andy! Question of risk with guy  (Read 1444 times)

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Offline anxiousman

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Scared please help Ann and andy! Question of risk with guy
« on: October 26, 2011, 09:59:39 PM »
Hey Im begging and praying that you please answer my post and just tell me blatantly if i am at risk or not

Basically I met with a guy after speaking for a while - I made it clear I didn't wanna do anything - we were driving about and the guy got his cock out - I was a bit taken aback (I'm bi curious) and then he grabbed my hand and put it on his cock and some precum was on the side of my hand - I'm not sure if he touched his precum or not and he shoved his hand down my pants and began rubbing the head of my penis which firstly was super sensitive cos I'm uncut and also freaked me out cos of the fact he rubbed his fingers into my penis head and where my urethra Is so i grabbed his hand off me with the hand i had his precum on and adjusted my cock not realising his pre was on my hand -

I did not have any cuts (none I noticed and I examined my hands) I used some anti bacterial gel on my hands and I'm getting so paranoid
and it all happened so quickly i am trying to figure out exactly what it was as he didnt respect my boundaries
and I read that uncut guys and precum and cum on cocks and urethra is a big risk for HIV transmission!'! I have looked at a couple googles but was so scared I've been basically having panic attacks daily since it happened on Friday !
I saw this site and it is by far the most honest and direct - I have seen all the hiv symptoms and keep swallowing praying I don't get a sore throat checking my lymph nodes and temperature I'm going insane and I can't speak to anyone because I'm so embarrassed that he didnt respect me and I'm religious and I didn't want him touch me

Please can you tell me honestly and directly if I'm at risk and put my mind at rest I'm pleading

Thanks in advance from anxious man and I won't bother you with a million reposts I will accept your answer
« Last Edit: October 26, 2011, 10:02:57 PM by anxiousman »

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Re: Scared please help Ann and andy! Question of risk with guy
« Reply #1 on: October 27, 2011, 12:05:12 AM »
If you did not have unprotected anal sex, you had absolutely NO RISK for HIV at all.

*edited for glaring typo
« Last Edit: October 27, 2011, 11:21:59 AM by jkinatl2 »
"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Re: Scared please help Ann and andy! Question of risk with guy
« Reply #2 on: October 27, 2011, 07:14:06 AM »
Anxious,

Getting cum on your hand is absolutely NOT a risk for hiv infection, even if you had cuts on your hand. Getting a handjob is also not a risk for hiv infection.

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect. For this reason, mutual masturbation, even with hands dripping in cum or vaginal fluids, is not a risk for hiv infection.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST SPECIFICALLY OVER THIS INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Offline anxiousman

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Re: Scared please help Ann and andy! Question of risk with guy
« Reply #3 on: October 27, 2011, 11:18:32 AM »
Thank you both so much for your responses and I know I said no follow up and I mean it I accept your answer and I finally slept a few hours today but just to confirm even if he had cum or precum on his hand when he rubbed my urethra it's not risky right!? That's the only thing I was concerned about - on my hand I wasn't really but more of him groping me

Thanks!!!! You are doing an amazing job and it really is brilliant that you can help ease our anxieties

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Re: Scared please help Ann and andy! Question of risk with guy
« Reply #4 on: October 27, 2011, 11:35:49 AM »
His hand could have been dripping with the fluid and it wouldn't have been a risk in that manner. HIV is a fragile virus and is not transmitted in the manner you are concerned about. Really.
Andy Velez

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Re: Scared please help Ann and andy! Question of risk with guy
« Reply #5 on: October 27, 2011, 08:17:02 PM »
That's all I needed to hear!!! Phew!! I'm still shaken by the incident and I won't be meeting a guy again I trusted him
- thanks so much for that all three of you and GOD bless you for your help

I know ignorance must annoy you but it's so difficult to know what's true but like I said I admire your direct and committed responses that's how I prefer it!
 
Take care and I hope I won't need to bother you again (with all due respect)
Look after yourselves

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Re: Scared please help Ann and andy! Question of risk with guy
« Reply #6 on: October 28, 2011, 08:44:08 AM »
Anxious,

You're welcome.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!!!

Ann
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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