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Offline porky

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Prostitute used vaseline
« on: April 07, 2009, 05:12:22 AM »
Hi all, and thank you for providing this great resource of information on the net.

I am 28/male. One week ago, I was at a massage parlor which provides extra services. The masseuse was giving me a body scrub when, seeing that there was no other lubricant on hand, she spontaneously proceeded to masturbate me as well as inserted her finger deep into my anus at the same time. She fingered and masturbated me in a very vigorous manner, all this with her hands full of body scrub. Looking back, I should have stopped her at the first sign of discomfort but I didn't. This continued for about 5 minutes before we ended the session. I think I failed to wash up properly immediately after, as when I reached home I still had body scrub particles on my penis.

The next few days, my foreskin and penis head had peeling skin, probably due to the 'exfoliation'. And although I did not notice any blood on the penis or the anus when wiping, I am certain that the rough scrubbing also tore the lining of my anus. I'm worried that the rough action may have caused the masseuse's finger to bleed at the time of fingering but I have no idea as the room was dark.

I do not know the HIV status of the masseuse I was with, but she has been in the industry for more than 10 years. Now, I am concerned about being infected with HIV or other STDs. Please evaluate my risk...I appreciate your kind help.

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Re: Risk from anal scrubbing!?
« Reply #1 on: April 07, 2009, 06:17:19 AM »
Porky,

Fingering is NOT a risk for hiv infection, even with the little particles of scrub. And do you seriously think the masseuse would stick her fingers in another person's body if they were cut or raw? No way - it would hurt her.  The scrub wouldn't cause her fingers to bleed anyway - the skin on the hands is very tough, as you should realise.

In this circumstance, you don't need to worry about hiv or any other STIs either.

Along with reading the Transmission Lesson linked to in our Welcome Thread, here's what you need to know in order to remain hiv negative:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER BEING FINGERED, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Re: Risk from anal scrubbing!?
« Reply #2 on: April 07, 2009, 07:59:47 AM »
Just to mentioned that I completly agree with Ann. Fingering is not at risk and you were not at risk for this particular sexual situation.

Keep to be safe for any sexual intercourse and you will be fine,

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Re: Risk from anal scrubbing!?
« Reply #3 on: April 07, 2009, 08:04:49 AM »
 Alefou,

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Offline porky

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Re: Risk from anal scrubbing!?
« Reply #4 on: April 08, 2009, 10:14:47 AM »
Hi Ann, thank you so much for your thoughtful reply. I could not have reasoned out my true risk or lack thereof, with my mind in panic mode. You have put my mind at ease now!

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Prostitute used vaseline
« Reply #5 on: October 26, 2011, 06:40:35 AM »
I feel so dumb. I was drunk while on a holiday 2 days ago and went back to the hotel with a prostitute. Before and during intercourse she applied copious amounts of vaseline in her vagina and on my condom. She did this a few times as I had trouble getting hard, probably due to the alcohol. I went in a few times using the same condom, each time lasting less than 30 seconds. I did not notice any slippage from the condom. Finally I gave up without ejaculating and she left.

The next morning, I realized what happened and went to the dustbin to check the condom for breakage. I filled it up with water and it didn't seem to leak, but now I'm worried if there could have been microscopic tears in the condom. Please advise me on what I should do...

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Re: Prostitute used vaseline
« Reply #6 on: October 26, 2011, 07:22:17 AM »
The condom did not fail. You were protected against HIV.

Condoms do not develop "microscopic holes" when subjected to oil-based lubricant. They can weaken and fail, however, but the result would have been a shredded condom if that had happened. It didn't. You were protected against HIV.
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Re: Prostitute used vaseline
« Reply #7 on: October 26, 2011, 07:49:42 AM »
Porky,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep everything in one thread. It doesn't matter how long it has been since you last posted in your thread or if the subject matter is different.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.





I totally agree with Jonathan. If the condom broke, you would have known. The whole idea of microscopic holes in condoms is an urban myth, mainly propagated by the Catholic church who doesn't want anyone to use condoms.

You have not had a risk.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline porky

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Re: Prostitute used vaseline
« Reply #8 on: October 27, 2011, 10:14:54 AM »
Ann and Jonathan, I can't thank you both enough for putting my mind at ease. You have saved me months of needless worrying and possible depression. Sorry for not reading the forum rules earlier, I'll remember to post in this same thread next time (though hopefully I wouldn't have to in the future)!

 


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