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Author Topic: Prepare for the worse?  (Read 1942 times)

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Offline davidworry

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Prepare for the worse?
« on: October 04, 2011, 12:19:11 PM »
Hello All,

Actually I am not really sure is this the right forum for me to write or not, but I just want to vent my worry hoping it will calm me to bit. I am gay – with a very limited or unaware about HIV before – Well, in three days time, am going to have an HIV test.  ???About two weeks ago, my friend and I had a small talk on the subject of HIV.After that, I continued to get more info about it on net and started to worry so much since.  Am not going to list down the symptoms or unusual sicknesses I had before because I don’t even remember when the last time I had one! I recall back my sex history, and came out with these most worrying unprotected -sex encounters I had. :-[

1st guy - About 2 years ago – 5 anal sex in 12 months period – I still remember he told me that the “bottom” has more risk to get HIV infected – so I thought it was safe for me to top him! I only used condom on our first sex – yes, I did anal him in all meetings. Not so long after our last meeting, he told me he suffered anal cancer and back to his country for treatment and never heard any news from him again.

2nd guy - One year ago – 2 anal sex in one month period  - my naked cock did enter his anal not more than 10 seconds – before I pull back and put condom on and continue anal him – I used condom during our second meeting but after we finish, I found blood on my condom and told him about that. I am not sure whether I touch the blood or not. After the bleeding anal case, we never had anal sex anymore. What makes me suspicious is he has deep venous thrombosis, DVT – one of OIs right?

3rd guy – 5 months ago – one night stand anal sex.

There are couple of other guys(really hope they all negative) but I only listed 2 suspicious guys and my last anal sex without condom as baseline. 5 months is enough to get a conclusive result right? Again, what I hope now is they all clean. It’s hard to convince myself to be optimistic now but nothing much I can do anymore. Prepare for the worse?  :(

I am sorry for my English – it’s not the best of me. :-X Hope you can understand what I wrote.


Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Prepare for the worse?
« Reply #1 on: October 04, 2011, 12:52:22 PM »
You're doing the smart thing by getting tested. Hopefully you will come out of this negative. Getting tested at 13 weeks and receiving a negative result is reliable and means you are negative.

But you do need to stop putting your life at risk by not always using a condom for anal intercourse. You can have as much sex as you want to and with as many partners as you choose. But you need to do it the safer way which means always using a condom for intercourse. Whether giving or receiving, a condom is a must everytime. No exceptions.

Good luck with your test result.
Andy Velez

Offline davidworry

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Re: Prepare for the worse?
« Reply #2 on: October 04, 2011, 01:18:06 PM »
Thanks so much for your kind words Andy.i must be one of the lucky guy if i tested Negative....mmmmm :-\

Offline davidworry

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Re: Prepare for the worse?
« Reply #3 on: October 07, 2011, 08:04:16 AM »
my rapid test result negative...very happy now.. :D

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Prepare for the worse?
« Reply #4 on: October 07, 2011, 08:29:23 AM »
That's great news. Now going forward you need to protect that gift by always using condoms for vaginal and anal intercourse. No exceptions.

Andy Velez


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