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Offline jd

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Kissing (again)
« on: December 07, 2007, 11:12:39 PM »
Hi, thanks in advance if someone can help.
I`m male. I have my gums very retracted (collar exposure). I kissed open mouth a girl 6 weeks ago (it lasted about 15 minutes).

Today I saw some purple spots contained in a quarter cent area in the groin, and have a swollen lymph node that has been enlarged a couple of weeks ago.

Not any other risk before.

Can this be due to HIV?  I know a lot of people post about kissing, and you say no risk, but my gums and now the spots concern me a lot.

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Re: Kissing (again)
« Reply #1 on: December 07, 2007, 11:27:56 PM »
Even though you have poor dental hygiene, you were not at risk of infection with HIV because you kissed a girl.  Kissing is not now and never has been a risk behaviour. The symptoms you report have nothing to do with HIV infection.

Please take the time to read our Welcome Thread and follow the links to our Lessons to learn more about how HIV is and is not transmitted.


Offline jd

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Re: Kissing (again)
« Reply #2 on: December 07, 2007, 11:31:29 PM »
Thankyou Matty for your response. I think I needed your comments. I`m worried about the spots, but I think I can let it go.

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Kissing (again)
« Reply #3 on: December 07, 2007, 11:32:56 PM »

If you're worried about the spots in your groin, then see your doctor. Whatever is causing them, it ain't HIV.


Offline jd

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Re: Kissing (again)
« Reply #4 on: December 08, 2007, 07:38:57 AM »
Thanks again Matty, I`ll see my doctor

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Kissing (again)
« Reply #5 on: December 08, 2007, 07:45:30 AM »
And you should also see your dentist. Gum disease is no joke.


Offline jd

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Re: Kissing (again)
« Reply #6 on: December 15, 2007, 09:24:46 AM »
Hi Ann.

I want to thank all of you for this site and for the time you take to answer all our questions.

This time, my question is, if my sexual activity reduces to french kissing, do I have to follow yor advice: "However, if you are a sexually active adult, we recommend that you test at least once a year - more often if you're very active or if you have unprotected intercourse with anyone. You should test for ALL sexually transmitted infections because the others are MUCH more easily transmitted than hiv. You don't need to test over one protected incident and/or a blowjob. Getting a blowjob is not a risk for hiv infection, protected or not. "??

Thank you.

Let me send you a big hug and regards to all the saff.

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Re: Kissing (again)
« Reply #7 on: December 15, 2007, 09:37:38 AM »

When we speak of being "sexually active", we mean having intercourse. Kissing doesn't count and aside from oral herpes (HSV1), you don't need to worry about STIs when kissing. Don't kiss anyone with a blister on their lip and you'll be just fine - aside from maybe a cold or flu bug type thing.

Make sure you're using condoms when you have anal or vaginal intercourse and you'll be ok where hiv is concerned.

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Offline jd

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Oral risk
« Reply #8 on: October 02, 2011, 12:50:03 PM »
Hello everyone.

I started a new topic as appeared a warning suggesting to do it.

Ive been reading a lot your site about oral. I wonder if there are extreme circimstances such as receiving oral sex (I mean, I am the insertive partner) not been circumsized, from a girl who is newly hiv infected (very high viral load). Im vey worried because of this last incident. Almost 10 days after the incident, I started to have nausea and strong headache like for 4 days, then started to worry. 4 weeks after, appeared 5 aftas in my mouth. Can you give me a clue? I went to a Dr. and he gaves me the same risk assestment that is around the web: 0.5 per 10.000 acts.

Thak you for your kind attention

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Re: Kissing (again)
« Reply #9 on: October 02, 2011, 12:59:18 PM »
Oral sex is not a risk of HIV transmission no matter what the VL is of the other person.

Offline jd

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Re: Kissing (again)
« Reply #10 on: October 02, 2011, 01:44:28 PM »
Thank you for your very prompt respose, RapidRod. It is comforting coming from you.


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