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Author Topic: Can a giver of unprotected oral sex with small ulcer have HIV?  (Read 4016 times)

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Can a giver of unprotected oral sex with small ulcer have HIV?
« on: September 24, 2011, 05:20:51 AM »
Hi, I'm a MALE and I find this forum very informative and quick in replies. Please help me to answer my queries below if you may soonest possible.

Here it goes on my following experiences, but till date, I have not done a check on HIV yet:

1) Had several UNPROTECTED ORAL sex (With and Without Ejeculation) with Commercial sex workers (female). This happened from period 2009 till date.

2) Had several PROTECTED ANAL and VAGINA sex with Commercial sex workers (female). This happened from period 2009 till date.

3) HAD just one encounter of UNPROTECTED GIVER of oral sex with a MAN and he ejeculated in my mouth. Do note that I did not swallow the cum (BUT I may have swallowed alittle accidentally while trying to spit it out. Do also note that I have got a small ulcer at the bottom right of my lips. This happened on the 19th of Sept 2011.

4) HAD just one encounter of UNPROTECTED RECEIVER of ORAL sex with a MAN. This happened on the 19th of Sept 2011.

For items (1) to (4), even if the person is a HIV positive or not, what are the chances of me getting HIV or STD or any other diseases or infections? I'm very concerned.

Please advice soonest possible. I'm available to clear any clarifications on the above scenario if need be.

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Re: Can a giver of unprotected oral sex with small ulcer have HIV?
« Reply #1 on: September 24, 2011, 05:23:52 AM »
HIV is not transmitted by oral sex, ulcers or not.

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Re: Can a giver of unprotected oral sex with small ulcer have HIV?
« Reply #2 on: September 24, 2011, 05:44:32 AM »
Hi RapidRod,

So does this mean I should not even bother about making a trip down to have a QuickOral test or finger prick blood test at DSC center?

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Re: Can a giver of unprotected oral sex with small ulcer have HIV?
« Reply #3 on: September 24, 2011, 06:47:42 AM »
Will Ann or Alan or someone please reply me soonest possible? I need an assurance for piece of mind. Be truthful as I just want facts and not for the sake of saving the trip to test. Anyone who is helping to answer the thread please help to re-read items 1 to 4. Thanks!!!

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Re: Can a giver of unprotected oral sex with small ulcer have HIV?
« Reply #4 on: September 24, 2011, 06:55:57 AM »
HIV is not transmitted by oral sex or condom protected penetrative sex. Had you had a risk you would have been told.

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Re: Can a giver of unprotected oral sex with small ulcer have HIV?
« Reply #5 on: September 24, 2011, 07:06:12 AM »
So in future, can I swallow a HIV positive's cum and be assured safe?

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Re: Can a giver of unprotected oral sex with small ulcer have HIV?
« Reply #6 on: September 24, 2011, 07:46:32 AM »
Hi, any replies?

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Re: Can a giver of unprotected oral sex with small ulcer have HIV?
« Reply #7 on: September 24, 2011, 08:48:14 AM »
M,

As you have been told, you have not been at risk for hiv infection.

There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

However, do you know what the ulcer was? Was it herpes? If it was, you should be keeping your herpes to yourself and not giving anyone oral sex while you have an outbreak. While you have not been at risk for hiv infection during your oral experiences, you could have picked up something like herpes. Don't play it forward.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs. It does not sound as though you've been testing regularly.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Can a giver of unprotected oral sex with small ulcer have HIV?
« Reply #8 on: September 24, 2011, 09:44:14 AM »
Hi Ann,

Really thank you and appreciate alot for your prompt response.

I've been assured by you that I'm not HIV infected and life can move on.

With regards to the ulcer you were asking, it is just a normal ulcer (NOT herpes) that I accidentally bit myself on due to body heatiness. It took quite some time to heal, but in the progress, I performed oral sex on a guy who may be HIV positive. Hence, I am very concerned if I could get infected since I had an open wound called ulcer.

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Re: Can a giver of unprotected oral sex with small ulcer have HIV?
« Reply #9 on: September 24, 2011, 09:46:46 AM »
M,

For the last time, NO, the ulcer or whatever it was does not change your NO RISK assessment.

As a sexually active adult, you should be having a FULL sexual health check up at least once a year. It's a good habit to get into, so start doing it.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Can a giver of unprotected oral sex with small ulcer have HIV?
« Reply #10 on: September 24, 2011, 09:56:06 AM »
Hi Ann,

Thanks once again for your prompt reply.

Sorry that I'm new to this. What kind of full sexual health check up? What is the package name called or could you reference me to a local website or something I could reference from?

It is not the rapid oralquick or pricking blood test that you are talking about right?

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Re: Can a giver of unprotected oral sex with small ulcer have HIV?
« Reply #11 on: September 24, 2011, 10:10:32 AM »
M,

Go back and carefully re-read reply #7. All you have to do is go to a sexual health clinic and ask for a full panel of STI testing. Your local hospital probably has such a clinic and it may be called a GUM (Genito-Urinary Medicine) clinic.

You're not all that new to this - you've been having sex since 2009. It's time to learn about how to take care of your sexual health.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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