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Author Topic: Threesome...did I play it safe  (Read 12090 times)

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Threesome...did I play it safe
« on: September 17, 2006, 01:28:38 PM »
Hi, I have posted before on this site and the people here have been very helpful in easing my fears...Last night I received oral sex from a girl of unknown status..I know oral sex has never been a documented case for transmission but the oral sex I received was very rough..I woke up this morning with cuts and scabs on my penis..one cut was still very visible and still tender, therefore I know it was there last night during the blowjob and I know the wound was open and fresh and probably bleeding a little...does this mean I have to worry or can I put my mind at ease and throw it in with all the other cases of no risk..thank you to all those that answer for your time and hearing from the pros, IE Ann or Andy would truly put my mind at ease..thank you again
« Last Edit: September 17, 2006, 01:41:41 PM by sabato »

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Re: Rough Oral Sex with cuts..very worried
« Reply #1 on: September 17, 2006, 01:55:17 PM »
sabato,

Getting a blowjob is not a risk for hiv infection, no matter what sort of spin you want to put on it. Saliva is NOT infectious.

You did NOT have a risk.

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Re: Rough Oral Sex with cuts..very worried
« Reply #2 on: September 17, 2006, 01:59:06 PM »
Thank you for your reply Ann...hearing from really does put my mind at ease..keep up the great work you do..It is truly appreciated..

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Kissing with visible blood...
« Reply #3 on: January 20, 2007, 09:34:18 AM »
Had an incident last night where deep n rough kissing occured...The girl was bleeding during the act from her lips and I could taste the blood in my mouth while we were kissing...Just curious here, do I need to worry or not!!

By the way...All the people that make this site what it is...impressive..Ann,Andy,RapidRod,etc....the work n effort you put on this site is astonishing and I take my hat off to all of you...

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Re: Kissing with visible blood...
« Reply #4 on: January 20, 2007, 09:42:03 AM »
You don't have to be concerned about this incident in terms of HIV.

Even IF the woman is HIV+, and please note that word "if," your saliva has an inhibitory element which would neutralize HIV.

Stop and think for a moment. Kissing is one of the most common of activities. Whether from bleeding gums, rough kissing such as you have described, sores, cuts and any other details you can come up with, we would have known long before today if there was any risk via kissing. Uncounted trillions of kisses later, there's never been a documented case of transmission in this manner. You won't make history by becoming the first.

As with so many sexual situations, "theoretically" there could be a risk. But in the real world of HIV, transmission just doesn't happen in this manner.

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Re: Kissing with visible blood...
« Reply #5 on: January 20, 2007, 09:45:59 AM »
Thank you Andy for ure reply...I figured I need not worry but because I could taste the blood and it was very visible and all over my lips n mouth after..it kinda got me paranoid a little..Hearing from you helps ease my fears though..

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Re: Kissing with visible blood...
« Reply #6 on: January 20, 2007, 10:48:31 AM »
Good. I'm glad you found our exchange to be helpful. The mind can go kazooey with fears sometimes.

Happily, you're cool this time out.

Cheers,
Andy Velez

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Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #7 on: February 19, 2007, 04:25:02 PM »
Hi all...just a quick question..had a threesome with 2 girls last night...condom was worn during all times..my question is, should I have changed condoms each time I went from one girl to the other..the condom never broke and did stay intact the whole time, actually, I changed condoms 4 times as the threesome lasted long but there were times where I went from one girl to the other and back with the same condom..just wondering if I need not worry at all..hearing from Andy, Ann or Rapidrod would be greatly appreciated!

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #8 on: February 19, 2007, 04:53:34 PM »
sabato,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.

Yes, you should have used a new condom for each new person. This isn't to do with your risk, it's to do with transfering other sexually transmitted infections from one woman to the other.

Read through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you know how to use them correctly.

You did not have a risk for hiv infection in your threesome.

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #9 on: February 19, 2007, 04:59:18 PM »
thanx for the quick reply Ann and thanx for showing me how to put new threads in my original thread..next time I will do it that way....

I did ask the women if they wanted me to put a new condom each time and they were ok with me using the same one...That was the first thought that popped into my mind...but like I said, they were totally fine with it...

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needle prick
« Reply #10 on: March 01, 2007, 02:50:25 PM »
hi, i just got pricked by a small diabetes tester needle....what now..do i go to the hospital..it was on the floor, dont know how long it was there...

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needle prick...
« Reply #11 on: March 01, 2007, 02:54:16 PM »
Ann or Andy, looking to hear from either of you please

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #12 on: March 01, 2007, 03:30:48 PM »
You wasn't at risk from getting poked by a lancet.

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #13 on: March 01, 2007, 03:34:03 PM »
thanx rapidrod but can u explain to me why...i called an info sante number n the nurse told me to go to the hospital asap and to the emergency room...whats ure take on this

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #14 on: March 01, 2007, 03:35:55 PM »
plus id still like to hear from Ann or Andy also but i do value ure opinion rapidrod n thank u

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #15 on: March 01, 2007, 03:37:39 PM »
Did you explain that it was a lancet or did you tell her you were poked by a syringe? You don't get infected by a lancet.

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #16 on: March 01, 2007, 03:39:05 PM »
i dont even now what it is...then someone told me it was a diabetes tester needle where they prick themselves with it...and i used those exact words to the nurse

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #17 on: March 01, 2007, 03:52:26 PM »
whats the difference between a lancet n syringe

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #18 on: March 01, 2007, 04:07:33 PM »
A lancet is a small metal piece pointed at one end. A syringe has a hypodermic needle attached which is hollow core and can collect blood in the tube of the needle.

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #19 on: March 01, 2007, 04:09:03 PM »
ok, so its a lancet...so i dont need to worry then, not at all..no need to go to the hospital

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #20 on: March 01, 2007, 04:16:20 PM »
No, you don't have to worry or need to go to the doctor or the ER.

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #21 on: March 01, 2007, 04:28:05 PM »
thanx rapidrod but theyre still teling me to go to the emergency room ,i explained it was a lancet and they still say to go

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #22 on: March 01, 2007, 04:31:10 PM »
Then do what you need to do. I'm just saying you don't need to test over that little stick. You don't get infected off environmental surfaces. That is all a lancet is.

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #23 on: March 01, 2007, 04:33:12 PM »
thanx rapidrod..i do appreciate ure responses...andy or ann, any suggestions

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #24 on: March 01, 2007, 05:09:31 PM »
Rod is 100% correct on this one.  And if you dont believe us or the nurses what ever are you going to do?
LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,
thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT A
RIDE!!!

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #25 on: March 01, 2007, 05:11:07 PM »
i do believe rod but those dam nurses keep telling me to go to the emergency room

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #26 on: March 01, 2007, 05:12:48 PM »
You dont need to go.  So quit asking.  If you believe the nurses then go.  Its that simple.
LIFE is not a race to the grave with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,
thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT A
RIDE!!!

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #27 on: March 02, 2007, 09:48:50 AM »
Ann or Andy, can u just please explain why this incident wouldnt warrant any testing and why i shouldnt worry...it is a diabetes tester needle, it obviously drew blood from someone else n then nicked me n drew blood from me accidently...just want to hear from the pros to reassure please....

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #28 on: March 02, 2007, 09:53:35 AM »
Sabato,

It isn't a risk because the blood would have been exposed to the environment - if there was even any blood on it to begin with. Also, a little prick would not have brought the lancet into contact the correct type of cells that hiv needs to infect. These are not found in the skin.

As Rodney says, this is similar to an environmental surface and poses no risk.

NO RISK

Ann
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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Oral sex....
« Reply #29 on: February 16, 2008, 12:44:56 PM »
Just curious here....performed oral sex on a woman lat night and later realized that her menstrual period had just started or was strating today....didnt taste any blood but while having intercourse, there was alittle on the condom..she was not aware nor was ...so, basically, is the oral sex act I performed a cause for worries..like I stated, didnt taste any blood but I assume there was a little..would I become infected through performing oral on a woman in this case

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #30 on: February 16, 2008, 01:46:56 PM »
Would love to hear from Ann or Andy

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #31 on: February 16, 2008, 02:12:42 PM »
Sabato,

No, you were not at risk.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #32 on: February 17, 2008, 12:01:04 AM »
just curious as to why Ann if menstrual blood was present and could have come into contact with my mouth

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #33 on: February 17, 2008, 12:05:06 AM »
no.  saliva has enzymes that tend to protect against infection. 

accept your good news and move on.

thanks.
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Blowjob...wondering
« Reply #34 on: March 24, 2009, 11:26:27 AM »
Hi to everyone...just wondering here...received a blowjob last night but a couple of hours before, I had removed an ingrown hair with a needle..therefore, I had a fresh open cut that was still very much tender and quite possibly, still opened..is there any risk

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #35 on: March 24, 2009, 11:34:08 AM »
No there is no risk.

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #36 on: March 24, 2009, 11:35:45 AM »
thanx Rapidrod....that is what I thought, just needed reassurance....last thing, even if the wound was actively fresh or slightly bleeding, still no risk

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #37 on: March 24, 2009, 01:12:53 PM »
No guy has ever been confirmed to have become infected through receiving a blowjob. It's safe to say you won't make history by becoming the first.

And I'm talking trillions of them later that included bites, nicks, sores and whatever. Zero risk. Period. End of story.

There's no cause for concern nor for testing over getting some head.

Cheers.
Andy Velez

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #38 on: March 24, 2009, 01:25:39 PM »
Thank you ANdy

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #39 on: March 24, 2009, 01:27:28 PM »
You're welcome. Get on with your day and your life.

Cheers.
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condom breakage..worried
« Reply #40 on: July 18, 2009, 11:19:54 AM »
Hi..I was having intercourse last night with a condom and yes it broke...it lasted only about a minute to 2 minutes max when I felt something was different.. I pulled out and the condom broke..kinda freaking out a little..I dont know exactly when it broke or for how long I was unprotected but the whole act could not have been more than 2 minutes max...just worried and need some advice

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #41 on: July 18, 2009, 11:34:16 AM »
OK. The condom protected you until the brief period during which you stayed inside until you realized it had broken. As the insertive partner your risk is significantly lower than it is for a receptive partner.

Given that it was a single and brief incident the likelihood of transmission is very low, even IF the person you were with is even HIV+.

Get tested at 13 weeks for a conclusive result. If you find it too stressful to wait that long, then get tested at 6 weeks for an initial result. The average time to seroconversion is 22 days. All but the smallest number of those who are going to seroconvert will do so within 4-6 weeks after a risk. So a negative result at 6 weeks means that you will almost certainly continue to test negative at 13 weeks.

In the meantime get productively busy with other things in your life as it will help to pass the waiting time much more easily.

Cheers.
Andy Velez

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #42 on: July 18, 2009, 11:53:50 AM »
thanx for your reply Andy..it just gets to me sometimes that you take precautions and unfortunate incidents like this happen

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #43 on: July 18, 2009, 01:09:33 PM »
Yah, that's true.

But in the end I think you will come out of this ok.

Cheers.
Andy Velez

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Condom broke, should I worry
« Reply #44 on: April 27, 2012, 09:53:35 AM »
Hello to all..I had an incident last night where the condom broke...totally unaware of the person i was with status, I was wondering if I was at risk. The moment I inserted inside, she felt it break right away and ask me to pull out and put a new one. So it was basically one or 2 thrusts maximum and that was it. Now should I go get tested. What if I had tiny tears on the foreskin of my penis, would that be cause for concern...thank you

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Re: Condom broke, should I worry
« Reply #45 on: April 27, 2012, 09:56:16 AM »
Hello to all..I had an incident last night where the condom broke...totally unaware of the person i was with status, I was wondering if I was at risk. The moment I inserted inside, she felt it break right away and ask me to pull out and put a new one. So it was basically one or 2 thrusts maximum and that was it. Now should I go get tested. What if I had tiny tears on the foreskin of my penis, would that be cause for concern...thank you

This really isn't a risk for HIV transmission. If you doubt me in this, get tested 13 weeks from now.

But I'm confident you'll test negative for HIV.

I'm not going to go through the palaver of telling you how HIV is or is not transmitted, nor will I direct your attention to the Welcome Thread.

I assume you're familiar with those things.

MtD

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #46 on: April 27, 2012, 09:59:01 AM »
Thanks Matty, ya you dont need to go through all that info as I know it well...I posted to hear what Andy or Ann would say to this to basically put my mind at ease..I appreciate your response...thank you

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« Reply #47 on: April 27, 2012, 10:06:28 AM »
Thanks Matty, ya you dont need to go through all that info as I know it well...I posted to hear what Andy or Ann would say to this to basically put my mind at ease..I appreciate your response...thank you

Did you know that asking the same question again and again can get you banned? It's all explained in our Welcome Thread..

Please read it. I'd hate for you to be banned. :(

MtD

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #48 on: April 27, 2012, 01:38:57 PM »
I wasnt aware I asked the same question over and of course do not want to be banned. I do not intend to break any rules and apologize..

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Re: Threesome...did I play it safe
« Reply #49 on: April 28, 2012, 09:35:07 AM »
OK. So just keep in mind about always using condoms for intercourse and you will be well protected against HIV transmission sexually.

On with your life now...
Andy Velez

 


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