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Am I ok?
« on: July 24, 2011, 04:00:32 PM »
 Hi,
I am not sure if I am doing this right but I had a question regarding a possible risk.  I am an 18 year old guy who just had his first sexual encounter with another guy. We stripped to our underwear and We asgot hard. He rubbed my penis through my underwear including the head. I don't think he had pre cum on his fingersbut if he did could it have gotten through my underwear into my urethra? I became uncomfortable and asked him to stop . He did and we masterbated ourselves to completion. Wad this risky? Do I need to be tested ? Do you think I will be ok? Really really scared! Please help! Thanks!

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« Reply #1 on: July 24, 2011, 04:04:20 PM »
As you are becoming sexually active this is a good time to be asking your questions.

You are worrying needlessly. The ONLY confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. In terms of being with a guy, if and when you get around to having anal intercourse, as long the insertive partner is wearing a condom you will be effectively protected no matter whether he is HIV+ or not.

HIV if present is a fragile virus. It's not transmitted by rubbing or precum or cum dripping on your body anywhere.

In general we do advise anyone who is sexually active to have a full STD panel done at least annually. That's because other STDs are much easier to acquire than HIV.

But this time you don't have to test nor be concerned about HIV.

Andy Velez

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« Reply #2 on: July 24, 2011, 05:29:07 PM »
Thanks for your quick reply! I had a couple of other questions for you too! First off you reduced my stress one hundred percent and I thank you for that. So here it goes.

1. If there was pre cum on the guys hand and it touched the head of my penis with my underwear on, the boxers provide enough protection?
2. If I were naked and this happened and  pre cum came near my urethra does that change the circumstance?
3. Has anyone ever been infected with HIV this way ? I am nit ready for oral and certainly not anal and just want to make sure I am playing it safe.
4. Would an itchy rash on the butt at 9 weeks be a possible ars symptom?

Thanks for all you do! I really appreciate it!

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« Reply #3 on: July 24, 2011, 05:32:35 PM »
No is the answer to all of your questions.

HIV is a fragile virus and is simple not transmitted in a viable form in the ways you are concerned about.
Andy Velez

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« Reply #4 on: July 24, 2011, 07:24:07 PM »
The behavior you engaged in is known as frottage. And that is the rubbing of two (or more) bodies together. Whether naked or clothes, pre-cum or ejaculate, there is NO RISK of HIV infection in that behavior.

HIV is NOT easily transmitted. It requires very specific circumstances, which are found in anal and vaginal sex.

If you wear a condom for anal or vaginal sex, you will have successfully prevented HIV infection.

It really is that simple.
"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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« Reply #5 on: July 24, 2011, 07:40:08 PM »
Thank you so much! You guys are great! Do you think that the freaking out could be related to a first sexual experience?

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« Reply #6 on: July 25, 2011, 01:01:07 AM »
Anxiety after your first sexual experience is natural. Getting comfortable in your own body, not to mention sharing that body with someone else. takes time.

I urge you to read the lessons on this site regarding HIV transmission, and take the few minutes to protect yourself. Also, please know that NO STD, whether it be HIV or chlamydia or anything else, is a judgment on your behavior. Pathogens exist, and they bear no moral worth.

Sex and sexuality are great things. Giver yourself permission to have a wonderful youth.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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« Reply #7 on: July 25, 2011, 08:47:44 AM »
Kid,

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST NOW, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs. You only need to do this once you are sexually active. Maybe next year this time. You have not been at risk at this point in time.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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« Reply #8 on: July 25, 2011, 01:34:06 PM »
Thank you everyone!  You have made me feel much better.  My anxiety levels have gone back to a normal level but still a little scared even though I know I shouldnt be.  Just for safety aspect I do not understand that if pre-cum or cum get on or near one's urethra why it is not a concern.  Is the virus that weak that it cant be transferred to someone's hand and then placed on someones genital area and get into the urethra?I think once i understand that I will be able to move on!  Thanks!

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« Reply #9 on: July 25, 2011, 01:43:31 PM »
Kid,

Yes, it's that weak. Hiv is a very fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted through unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. IT REALLY IS THAT SIMPLE!!!

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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« Reply #10 on: July 29, 2011, 09:54:06 AM »
Hi Ann and Andy again,
Thank you for your help earlier in the week. I just had one more question. How come some sites say that mutual masturbation is no risk and some say it is low risk? What is the difference? Does this change my situation? Thanks!
Worried..

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« Reply #11 on: July 29, 2011, 10:15:01 AM »
Kid,

Who knows why some websites publish out-dated or just plain WRONG information. You won't get that here. Our risk assessments are based on up-to-date, first-tier, peer-reviewed research as well as personal experience of living with hiv.

As Andy always says, if you continue to search the internet for hiv infection, you will always find sites who will feed your worst fears. My suggestion is to STOP searching for hiv information and stick with this site, where you get the real, unvarnished, scientific hiv transmission truth.

You have NOT had a risk for hiv infection.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. That's all you need to do and IT REALLY IS THAT SIMPLE!!!

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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« Reply #12 on: July 29, 2011, 10:15:52 AM »
Stop surfing the net. It's bad for your health. We are not responsible for what you can find on other sites nor are we interested in them. You get the real deal here. I can assure you that if you continue surfing the net you will find lots to feed your worst fears and all to no good purpose.

You did not have a risk. Period. Cut out the unnecessary worrying and get on with your life. Really.
Andy Velez

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« Reply #13 on: October 14, 2011, 09:52:38 PM »
Hi Ann and Andy ,
You deal with so many people and probably dont remember me but I wanted to sat thanks for all your help. I got tested at 12 weeks just to be sure but you guys were definitely right and was confirmed to be negative. I just wanted to say thanks and I hope others out there will read this and continue to ask for your support and guidance. Thanks!

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« Reply #14 on: October 14, 2011, 10:16:43 PM »
That's very happy news. Just remember to always use condoms for intercourse everytime -- both vaginal and anal -- and you will be well protected against the sexual transmission of HIV.

Good luick to you.
Andy Velez

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« Reply #15 on: January 22, 2012, 11:48:28 AM »
Hi - I wrote to you guys last summer and you helped me out alot.  I have a friend that had something similar happen to him and we tried to make a new account on my email but I think it got denied so we are trying to add it to my old thread.  Hope that does not break the rules.  I told him I think hes alright but he does not believe me.

The long story short - hes 28 and going to be married.  His fiance and him want to have a baby and have been having unprotected sex.  His fiance went out of town for the week and he went to an adult book store.  At the store he saw someone he knows (who is gay) and said that he gave 5 people head and jo them off.  My friend already shook his hand but did not notice any cum or anythin on it.  They proceeded to talk for ten minutes and my friend went to the booth and masturbated.  He wiped his hands on his shirt and pants before he masturbated but jerked off with his right hand forgetting until afterwards that he shook the other guys hand.  He is freaking - does he need to get tested for any STD, including HIV and can he coninue to have unprotected sex with his fiance without fear of harming her or the baby if she gets pregnant?  I told him no but I guess he wants to hear it from the experts. 

Thanks,

Worried kid

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« Reply #16 on: January 22, 2012, 03:00:04 PM »
Kid,

Hiv is not transmitted through shaking hands, not even if you touch your dick afterwards.

Your friend and his fiancée both need to have complete sexual health check ups BEFORE they stop using condoms. It's what responsible adults do. Get him to read reply #7 in this thread.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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« Reply #17 on: April 15, 2012, 08:30:07 PM »
Hi, I was told to post back here. I just got an HIV test that was negative. I've been having anxiety that I got infected with HIV during the test. It was a new finger prick but the nurse put it onto the table. I didn't see blood on the table but if there were trace amounts am I still ok?

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« Reply #18 on: April 15, 2012, 10:07:29 PM »
You are again worrying needlessly.

Obviously you have a lot of anxiety around the subject of HIV. The only real risks have been explained to you previously. If you continue to worry needlessly then you ought to talk with a counselor or other professional to get help about that.

Meantime I can tell you if you continue to return here with fears about what are frankly fanciful situations, you are going to find yourself getting a Time Out from the site. HIV is not passed by hand or by environmental surfaces or objects.

Cut out the worry warting and get on with your life. Really.
Andy Velez

 


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