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Fingering with small cutt
« on: July 20, 2011, 09:41:51 AM »
Hello ,

I just entered the forum an I am a bit concerned about a situation I had with a prostitute 2 weeks ago.
We had vaginal intercourse with a condom. Oral sex was also perfomed with a condom.
In the end she gave me a handjob and was spiting on my penis thereby. As she was doing the handjob I touched her vagina for about 30 seconds. I did not really finger her!

Before we met i saw that the finger I later touched her with was a little bit bleeding! That comes through nervous finger biting. It was a very small wound of 1-2mm maybe. That finger stopped bleeding before we had sex. As we finished I saw that it has to have started in the act, because there were small amounts of blood (dry) around my fingernail.

Do you see a risk in this situation for contracting HIV? Would there be a larger risk if I actually fingered her?
How do you see the risk for contracting a disease like Hepatitis?
Is testing recommended for this situation?

Thank you very much for answering! ;)


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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #1 on: July 20, 2011, 09:49:36 AM »
No matter what details you throw into the mix including bleeding, fingering is absolutely not a risk for HIV transmission. Zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus and not transmitted in that manner. Nor in receiving oral either including without a condom on.

All you have to know about protecting yourself against the sexual transmission of HIV is to always use a condom for vaginal and anal intercourse. It really is that simple.
Andy Velez

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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #2 on: July 20, 2011, 09:55:02 AM »
First : Thanks for the fast reply!

So you never heard about a infection that way? I just ask because there are still people who do not know how they contracted HIV because they thought to perform safe sex......


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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #3 on: July 20, 2011, 10:15:58 AM »
No risk. Period.

Those stories about people who insist they didn't do anything unsafe are unreliable for a number of reasons. Sometimes they don't recall what they did. Others recall but are uncomfortable reporting accurately about their activities.

In any case, you were not at risk and there is no cause for further concern on your part.
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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #4 on: July 20, 2011, 10:26:08 AM »
Ok thank you Andy! You helped me out!

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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #5 on: July 23, 2011, 10:21:47 AM »
now two and a half weeks after the mentioned sex i have a sore throat since about 5 days.
i also feel like i have a flu. I am worried this could be symptoms for an infection as I red in the internet.

What do you think? I this just psychological??
I never ever had unprotected sex and will never have until marriage and being 100% in the know about the status of my partner! I also ask myself why I am so frightened??!? is this a phobia i am getting? I am also asking myself whether the condom broke. But I think i would have noticed a broke condom!?!

I was in a hotel last week with an air conditioning in the room.So I guess this could be the reason for the sore throat. I have no cold.

Can you take my fear?

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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #6 on: July 23, 2011, 10:24:45 AM »
There is nothing HIV specific about your symptoms. That's not a surprise since you haven't done anything to put you at risk for the virus.

If they persist you should discuss them with your doctor instead of guessing and worrying about a non-existent HIV problem.

This is not an HIV situation. Period.
Andy Velez

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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #7 on: July 23, 2011, 10:30:30 AM »
what do you think would be hiv specific regarding an infection with hiv?

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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #8 on: July 23, 2011, 10:39:28 AM »
so you would not recommend testing for my exposure and regarding my symptoms?
I had my last test 6th june which was negative....and this was my only sex since 4 months

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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #9 on: July 23, 2011, 11:01:14 AM »
Are you reading the replies you have been given? You didn't have an exposure.

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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #10 on: July 23, 2011, 11:17:25 AM »
andrade,

You did not have a risk for hiv infection as you have been told. If the condom broke, you would have noticed. Broken condoms are VERY obvious.

There have been long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

If you read the Welcome Thread before posting like you're supposed to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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Please consider yourself warned!

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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #11 on: July 24, 2011, 03:07:49 PM »
Andrade,

You seem to think that you could avoid the time out I warned you about by sending me a PM. Not true.

Not only am I giving you the time out, but I'm also removing your PM privileges.

If you read the Welcome Thread before posting like you're supposed to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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Do NOT use Private Messages to question other members about any transmission, testing or symptom issues. These issues must be discussed in the public forum. Misuse of the PM function in this manner will result in your PM privileges being removed without warning.


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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Short Exposure
« Reply #12 on: January 03, 2012, 05:30:23 PM »
Hi guys,

I had a short exposure last week with a female sexworker!
We had vaginal sex as the condom broke. I noticed it the time it happened and stopped the act immediatly, which means that the time I had been unprotected lasted  about 2 seconds.

The amount of vaginal fluid was very low, which forced the condom failure. The girl told me that she is tested every 6 months and just got tested last week. She even showed me the puncture of the syringe to calm me.

I have to add that I am circumcised.

How do you see my risk??
Thx

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Re: Short Exposure
« Reply #13 on: January 03, 2012, 06:19:20 PM »
■Please do not start a new thread every time you have another question or thought - regardless if you think your questions are related to each other or not. It helps us to help you when you keep all your thoughts or questions in one thread and it helps other readers to follow the discussion. Additional threads will be merged.


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Re: Short Exposure
« Reply #14 on: January 03, 2012, 06:21:28 PM »
 oh okay I am sorry!

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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #15 on: January 03, 2012, 06:35:42 PM »
Hi guys,

I had a short exposure last week with a female sexworker!
We had vaginal sex as the condom broke. I noticed it the time it happened and stopped the act immediatly, which means that the time I had been unprotected lasted  about 2 seconds.

The amount of vaginal fluid was very low, which forced the condom failure. The girl told me that she is tested every 6 months and just got tested last week. She even showed me the puncture of the syringe to calm me.

I have to add that I am circumcised.

How do you see my risk??
Thx

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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #16 on: January 03, 2012, 07:21:29 PM »
I've merged your threads here. In the future please follow our rule and keep all entries in this same thread. Thanks for your cooperation.

Based on your reporting, I'd say your recent incident is one which barely qualifies as a risk. It was of very short duration and a single instance during which you were protected until the condom broke.

I suggest getting tested mainly for your peace of mind. Test at 3 months for a conclusive result. You can do an initial test at 6 weeks if you are particularly anxious to get an answer. Assuming that you test negative as I expect you to, then a negative a 6 weeks points the way to continuing to test negative at 3 months.

I expect you to come out of this ok.
Andy Velez

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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #17 on: January 21, 2012, 09:09:49 AM »
Thank you Andy!

I have collected some facts about the transmission of HIV from female to male and I am trying to educate myself in that case.

I have red that I you have intercourse the penis needs to get really wet by vaginal fluids to give you a risk of transmission. Further, the fluid needs to be penetrated into the muscous membrane (?). This cannot be done within a few seconds...
People who are circumcised have a lower risk (lower by 50-60%) to get infected, because they have less muscous membrane which could be a gate for the virus.
Another important aspect is, that the penetrating person has a lower risk than the penetrated person.

Can you confirm all those facts as an expert Andy (an maybe the others)?

Ann mentioned a several times in other threads, that she never saw the active part coming out positive after an condom failure.....can you confirm that??

Finally I want to thank you for the service you provide in this forums. This will hopefully help people to get to learn more about the virus.

And sorry for my bad english :))


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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #18 on: January 21, 2012, 09:16:52 AM »
Thank you Andy!

I have collected some facts about the transmission of HIV from female to male and I am trying to educate myself in that case.

I have red that I you have intercourse the penis needs to get really wet by vaginal fluids to give you a risk of transmission. Further, the fluid needs to be penetrated into the muscous membrane (?). This cannot be done within a few seconds...
People who are circumcised have a lower risk (lower by 50-60%) to get infected, because they have less muscous membrane which could be a gate for the virus.
Another important aspect is, that the penetrating person has a lower risk than the penetrated person.

Can you confirm all those facts as an expert Andy (an maybe the others)?

Ann mentioned a several times in other threads, that she never saw the active part coming out positive after an condom failure.....can you confirm that??

Finally I want to thank you for the service you provide in this forums. This will hopefully help people to get to learn more about the virus.

And sorry for my bad english :))
Don't have any unprotected penetrative anal or vaginal sex and it won't be a concern. USE CONDOMS.

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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #19 on: January 21, 2012, 09:36:31 AM »
I know Rod. And I have never had sex without a condom in my life.....I only wanted you and the other experts to give me a short feedback about the facts I have listed above. That coud be very helpful to give me the right view on my situation.
Thanks

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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #20 on: March 01, 2012, 12:46:58 PM »
Got tested today after 8 weeks. Fortunatly I came out negative!! ;)

Thanks to Rod, Ann and Andy!

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Re: Fingering with small cutt
« Reply #21 on: March 01, 2012, 03:38:05 PM »
Good. No surprise there. Take a breath and get on with your life. HIV is not your problem.
Andy Velez

 


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