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Offline billywinter4

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Reason for condom failure
« on: June 22, 2011, 06:39:48 PM »
Hi guys,

Firstly,could you please garantee that having protected sex with a stranger and recieving an unprotected blowjob is 0% risk. I'm just a bit worried and need some reassurance.When im paranoid about stuff, i always assume the worst will happen even if the odds are small so i just need to be sure there is NO risk whatsoever

Also, why is there so much mis information on the web about oral sex and condom reliability? with regards to condom failure, is it  always due to human error or could hiv somehow get  through the condom or get under it. If not, is it safe to say that if u use a condom correctly and it doesn't slip or break, u are completly safe.

And finally, when websites say that the risk for oral sex is very small, why say very small if it is not possible?

Cheers

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Re: Reason for condom failure
« Reply #1 on: June 22, 2011, 06:48:18 PM »
Hi guys,

Firstly,could you please garantee that having protected sex with a stranger and recieving an unprotected blowjob is 0% risk. I'm just a bit worried and need some reassurance.When im paranoid about stuff, i always assume the worst will happen even if the odds are small so i just need to be sure there is NO risk whatsoever

Also, why is there so much mis information on the web about oral sex and condom reliability? with regards to condom failure, is it  always due to human error or could hiv somehow get  through the condom or get under it. If not, is it safe to say that if u use a condom correctly and it doesn't slip or break, u are completly safe.

And finally, when websites say that the risk for oral sex is very small, why say very small if it is not possible?

Cheers

THe only 100% safe sex is with your own hand. And the only other absolute guarantee in life is that eventually you're going to die. Postpone that as long as possible.

Science and evidence have proven that condoms provide very effective protection against HIV transmission.

Receiving oral is absolutely not a risk for HIV. And as far as giving oral, your own saliva has over a dozen elements and proteins which very effectively prevent the transmission of viable HIV.

That's the whole deal. Stop making it more complicated than it is. We're not responsible for what you may find on other sites. I guarantee you that if you continue so play around on the web you are going to find lots with which to feed your worst fears. All to no good purpose at all.

From what you have reported of your incident you are worrying needlessly. There is no need for HIV testing. End of story.
Andy Velez

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Re: Reason for condom failure
« Reply #2 on: June 22, 2011, 06:57:55 PM »
Thanks Andy

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Re: Reason for condom failure
« Reply #3 on: June 22, 2011, 07:01:02 PM »
You're welcome.
Andy Velez

Offline billywinter4

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Re: Reason for condom failure
« Reply #4 on: September 05, 2011, 11:43:09 AM »
Hi again,
Last week I had a small risk but because I found out the girl I was with has a history of sleeping around it has got me worried. So even though I already know the facts I just need some reassurance. We engaged in very very deep kissing and she gave me a very bad hickey on my neck. She gave me a blowjob which hurt a lot and we had protected sex.
  Im not sure why im stressing out but i am. So in order for me to move on could you please clarrify that
my scenario was risk free  and ...if symptoms do occur is 5 days too soon to get them(just curious even if i hadnt a risk)

Thanks in advance, i know my post will probably be anoying and boring to you but i just need some clarity right now and really appreciate your help

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Re: Reason for condom failure
« Reply #5 on: September 05, 2011, 11:51:20 AM »
Billy,

You did not have a risk for hiv infection. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect. For this reason neither kissing nor getting a blowjob are risks.

Protected intercourse is just that - protected. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

If symptoms occur - and they often don't - they usually happen closer to two weeks after infection has taken place. But you should not be fretting about symptoms as you did NOT have a risk for hiv infection.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO SPECIFICALLY TEST OVER KISSING, BEING BLOWN OR HAVING PROTECTED INTERCOURSE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Re: Reason for condom failure
« Reply #6 on: September 05, 2011, 11:54:45 AM »
Ok thanks ann

 


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