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Author Topic: Ending a Relationship with someone who's Neg  (Read 1669 times)

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Offline Betelgeuse

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Ending a Relationship with someone who's Neg
« on: June 17, 2011, 05:26:23 PM »
Well, I got that phone call today.  Under rather vague terms, he broke up with me.  He said it was work, but I know it's more than that.

We met each other a couple months back.  As a symbolic gesture of our commitment to each other going forward, we both got tested.  He tested neg, and this is when I tested positive.

In the beginning, he said this doesn't change anything.  And in fact, it didn't.  He went to all of my appointments to the doctors with me and really started researching HIV and serodiscordant relationships.  The initiative he took to be involved in my life was very sexy to me and I fell very hard for him.

Things started to change the last couple weeks - we were no longer talking every day to each other (he lives about 90 miles away), no more "I love you's" when hanging up on the phone.

I get a phone call this afternoon from him.  He tells me he's going through a busy phase at work and has his plate full.  Under uncertain terms, he was trying to break up with me.  I got the "we can still be friends" speech, though.

That's the way the cookie crumbles, huh?

04/19/11 - Diagnosed positive
04/29/11 - CD4 188 @ 12.5% / VL 18k
05/03/11 - CD4 171 @ unk% / VL 7k
06/04/11 - Start Truvada/Isentress
07/11/11 - CD4 not tested / VL UD
09/07/11 - CD4 252 @ unk% / VL UD

Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: Ending a Relationship with someone who's Neg
« Reply #1 on: June 17, 2011, 05:43:32 PM »
Things like this can happen when you're HIV-negative, maybe irregardless of the HIV issue things just weren't clicking enough in some other aspect, you'll probably never really know with this one.  Such is life. Sorry though if it's upsetting you greatly (you don't sound that upset from the post but maybe that because you just found out).

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Offline Betelgeuse

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Re: Ending a Relationship with someone who's Neg
« Reply #2 on: June 17, 2011, 06:49:18 PM »
Are you freaking kidding me?  I'm devastated.

But I do understand his side of things. He was married up until a year ago, had to take care of his wife with terminal cancer.

I'm thinking this has something to do with it.
04/19/11 - Diagnosed positive
04/29/11 - CD4 188 @ 12.5% / VL 18k
05/03/11 - CD4 171 @ unk% / VL 7k
06/04/11 - Start Truvada/Isentress
07/11/11 - CD4 not tested / VL UD
09/07/11 - CD4 252 @ unk% / VL UD


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