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Offline sam77

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Fingering & Kissing
« on: August 15, 2012, 03:42:41 AM »
The Counselor.

I have heard a lot about you and your contribution to health industry through internet and have query regarding my health and seek you opinion on the same.

I had possible exposure before 17 days with a known female with unknown HIV / STI status, but she does have history of multiple partners. I had exposure on 29th July 2012 (17 days back) and ever since then I am having Mild Abdominal Pain (May be acidity related due to worry , fear , anxiety) & Loss of appetite (may be due to excessive worry).
My exposure activities were -
1.       Fingering (Initially) plain vagina (with urine) before discharge of VF or any other fluids of any sort.

1.A   Later (Fingering), once again fingering Post Orgasm & VF.

In both above mentioned scenario's (1 & 1A) esp. Post Orgasm & VF discharge, VF was felt on bottom / below side of my middle finger whereas I had minor peeled skin on upper side of my hand right above nail. Cut was actually very minor (with blood). I am not sure whether VF touched my upper sided so called wound.
2.       Breast sucking (Dry, without any possible visible fluids around) for mere 5 sec's only.
3.       Kissing with no wounds of any sorts in my mouth and there seems to be no wound on her side as well, No visible signs of bleeding as well, but uncertain about non visible bleeding from gums, if any.

Is there a possibility of HIV transmission if opposite partner had some minor lip rash of any sort (with no visible blood on lips) or herpes on lips (also non visible with naked eye).
Besides, above mentioned I had ‘NO’
- NO Penetrative Intercourse &
- NO Anal or No Oral sex.   

(P.S - Following are test conducted after 9 days post exposure)

1. HIV DNA PCR is 'NOT DETECTED' rather negative &
2. VRDL Test is also negative. 

But I still have doubts on HIV & STI transmission which is making me drive me crazy.

In such scenario can you please help me guide possible transmission risk? You reply would mean a lot to me .
With regards,


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Re: Fingering & Kissing
« Reply #1 on: August 15, 2012, 04:14:23 AM »

You did NOT have an exposure to hiv.

Hiv is transmitted through:

Unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse.

Sharing drug injecting equipment.

From mother to child in the womb or during birth.

Unless you were born to an hiv positive mother or have had unprotected intercourse or shared drug injecting equipment, then you haven't been at risk for hiv infection.

Fingering is NOT a risk for hiv infection. Hiv can only infect a very few, very specific types of cells and these cells are not found on the surface of the skin or even in shallow cuts that may be found on the fingers.

Kissing is not a risk for hiv infection. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect. Also, the types of cells hiv can infect are not found in abundance in the mouth. Unless you're in the habit of repeatedly punching a person in the mouth before they kiss you, there could not possibly be enough blood present to cause concern.

Breast milk is only a danger to tiny babies who rely on breast milk as their only source of nourishment. I trust you're not a tiny baby ingesting several ounces of breast milk each day. Hiv is not present on the skin, so sucking nipples is not a problem.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST SPECIFICALLY OVER FINGERING, KISSING OR NIPPLE SUCKING, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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