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fecal matter on base of penis.
« on: September 12, 2006, 04:57:48 PM »
I recently posted the following on medhelp.org:

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   Hi. I am a 21 year old heterosexual college student. I wanted to experience sex with a african-american shemale and wound up doing it. I really regret it and it is the first and hopefully only time I will be with an escort. I met the shemale through an online escort referral website. During the event she was adamant about using condoms. We used a condom during anal and oral except when I briefly licked the base of his/her penis. The condom did not break to my knowledge and there was no visible blood during anal. We didn't have anal sex (I was the insertive partner) very long-maybe five minutes at max. Also I can't think of any major breaks in the skin on my penis at the time although I usually have pimples there and sometimes razor bumps from shaving (near the base of the penis) I pulled the condom off with my hand and then washed my hands. Also, we kissed and I remembered that I had bleeding gums the day before due to flossing my teeth [my dad is a dentist and made me floss them :(]...I am really worried and nervous. I have been having a stomach ache lately and I have some syptoms that may be allergies (headache, sore throat, stuffy nose). I can't differentiate these symptoms from the syptoms I would expect after an infection. I am worried because of the high risk category this person falls into and wondering if I should get tested and what my probable risk is. I took an HIV test earlier this year (before this happened) and it came back negative. Other than that I am unusually healthy (I eat organic food and take lots of vitamins. Does HIV have a preference for healthier individuals? Since I used a condom properly (to my knowledge), how would I be infected? Why am I so worried? Is it needless?

The doctor of the forum advised me thus:

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...You had safe sex by any definition. And of course nobody can guarantee that someone who uses condoms consistently didn't have the occasional episode of breakage. But in practice, people who regularly use condoms rarely get HIV, so the odds are strong that s/he isn't infected. And even if s/he was, your odds of having been infected are so close to zero they cannot be measured. It is literally true that your chance of being struck by lightning is higher that the risk you acquired HIV. Your symptoms are meaningless as an indicator of HIV infection.

HIV has no "preference" for healthy people. "Since [you] used a condom properly", you could not be infected. Is your worry needless? Absolutely.

As already said below, your unreasoned anxiety level suggests you should be tested, simply because this reassurance won't be sufficient to allay your concerns. But from a medical or risk assessment perspective, it isn't necessary.

Good luck-- HHH, MD

My question is: Why...exactly after two weeks am I nauseus and have a horrible headache. I usually never get nauseus. I am terrified that some unknown factor that night may have lead me to getting HIV. I wasn't drunk or high. I used a condom. I didn't see any blood (but what if I just didn't notice it? There were no visible sores on my penis. I was the insertive partner. After sex, I pulled the condom off and I either washed my hands and then wiped my penis off with toliet paper (what if I wiped some of the virus if there was one onto my penis...maybe there was bodily fluid at the base of my penis and I rubbed it elsewhere. I have been checking my temperature but it says I don't have a fever...but not everybody that gets ARS gets all the symptoms. It is really unusual that I'm getting nausea and a bad headache exactly two weeks after the event (it is now the third week since and I still am nauseous. What could have went wrong?

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #1 on: September 12, 2006, 05:03:37 PM »
Wart,

The advice you received from medhelp is sound. You don't need to test over this incident. Symptoms mean nothing when it comes to diagnosing HIV, so whatever is making you feel ill it isn't HIV. Please read our Welcome Thread to learn more about how HIV is and is not transmitted.

Sexually active people should have a full STD screen at least twice a year. A full screen includes an HIV antibody test. If it's been a while since your last full screen or if you've not had one before, you might consider making an appointment with your doctor or local clinic.

MtD

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #2 on: September 12, 2006, 05:16:18 PM »
what if I forgot something about that night that would be a factor?

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« Reply #3 on: September 12, 2006, 05:18:31 PM »
Something like what? Give me something to work with here kiddo.

MtD

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #4 on: September 12, 2006, 05:33:16 PM »
I don't know. People have to get aids/hiv somehow. Like...what if bodily fluid absorbed into the base of my penis somehow...or what if liquid splashed onto my penis while pulling the condom off. or what if I transferred bodily fluid from my hand to my penis. or what if there were micro-tears in the condom that I didn't know about?

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #5 on: September 12, 2006, 05:35:08 PM »
I did get semi-soft during the experience...but the condom stayed on and I got hard again. also, s/he was on top (not insertive....just on top) for a little bit. this seems like a position in which the condom could slip a little. although it didn't to my knowledge. but what good is my knowledge?

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #6 on: September 12, 2006, 06:04:54 PM »
People contract HIV from having unprotected anal or vaginal sex or by sharing contaminated injecting equipment. It's all in the Welcome Thread.

MtD

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #7 on: September 12, 2006, 06:38:02 PM »
okay. I read the welcome forum. I understand that unprotected anal and vaginal sex can lead to aids. but what about what can go wrong? and how exactly does aids transfer from a anus to a penis? does blood from the anus seep into the skin of the penis?

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« Reply #8 on: September 12, 2006, 06:45:21 PM »
Not quite wart.

If the virus makes it's way into a man's urethra (the tube that runs through the penis) it can find the sort of cells it likes to infect. HIV is rather fussy. It won't infect just any old cell.

MtD

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #9 on: September 12, 2006, 07:27:38 PM »
how exactly does it get down the urethra? bodily fluid gets rubbed into the urethra? is this usually a forceful action?

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #10 on: September 12, 2006, 07:48:40 PM »
It doesn't get DOWN to the urethra, it is caused by direct contact with the urethra.

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #11 on: September 12, 2006, 08:08:58 PM »
so the hole of the penis just has to come in contact with hiv+ blood and then bam! the person is infected? does the blood just get rubbed in?

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #12 on: September 12, 2006, 08:32:58 PM »
No that is not true either. Not everyone that comes into contact with any kind of HIV+ fluids will become infected. You need to face the fact that you had protected sex. You don't get HIV from having protected sex no matter what kind of spin you want to put on it.

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« Reply #13 on: September 12, 2006, 09:02:43 PM »
I agree with Roddles, Wart. It's time to stop the what-ifs and start accepting the fact that protected sex is not a risk for HIV transmission.

MtD

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Re: I don't understand how this is possible
« Reply #14 on: September 13, 2006, 01:56:22 AM »
hey mods...I thought you couldn't get HIV from safe sex...

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #15 on: September 13, 2006, 02:21:37 AM »
...and please stay out of threads in "I just tested positive". The last thing a newly diagnosed needs is a worried well hijacking his post!

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« Reply #16 on: September 13, 2006, 05:41:29 AM »
Hey Worrywart,

I thought you were meant to stay ouf the forums for HIV positive people. Go back to your thread in Am I Infected?.

Ya dig?

MtD

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #17 on: September 13, 2006, 06:13:17 AM »
Wart,

I've removed your post from the Just Tested forum and put it here, in your own thread, which is the ONLY place you should be posting. If you read the Welcome thread as you claim, you would have known you aren't supposed to post in the other forums. Get with the program, OK?

If you had bothered to read the thread you posted in carefully, you would have noticed that the original poster hasn't been back in over a month. Chances are very good it was someone trying to be funny and scare people like you. Ha ha. Very funny indeed.

You did the right thing and used a condom. Condoms have been PROVEN to prevent hiv transmission. Keep using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse until you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested negative for hiv and other STIs.

Use condoms for intercourse and avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #18 on: September 13, 2006, 10:44:38 AM »
well, why would people come on this forum and make up stories of acquiring hiv? how often does this happen?

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #19 on: September 13, 2006, 10:47:00 AM »
All the time. Some people have a sick since of humor.

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #20 on: September 13, 2006, 10:47:21 AM »
...and please stay out of threads in "I just tested positive". The last thing a newly diagnosed needs is a worried well hijacking his post!

Regards

Darkfiber

yeah well. he shouldn't be newly diagnosed if what everybody on this site and others say is true: 'that you can't get condoms from safe sex'. I'm sure there are more posts like his...either they are fabrications, distortions or they are telling the truth. and if they are telling the truth. what then? I think my concern is relevant.

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #21 on: September 13, 2006, 10:50:36 AM »
All the time. Some people have a sick since of humor.

well that is really sad and pathetic for people to waste their time making up fabricated hiv infections, but if the mods and regulars here wonder why there is a barrage of 'worried well', as you all refer to us, posters, then there is your answer. reading stuff like that adds to the concerns of the 'worried well'. what if the person ISN'T lying? so what if there has never been a case confirmed by science. science is prone to mistake-making despite the public perception otherwise.

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #22 on: September 13, 2006, 10:50:50 AM »
Your concern is illrelevant. You had protected sex without the failure of the condom. You didn't have a risk of contracting HIV. It doesn't matter how many spins you want to put on it.

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #23 on: September 13, 2006, 10:51:25 AM »
wart,

Some people assume they're positive before they've had the proper tests done - just go have a look at LOVELIFE's thread. And yes, people do come here and lie. Why? Wish I knew.

The fact is, condoms prevent hiv infection. This has been proven in scientific studies over and over again. If you've read the Welcome thread and the links found there as you claim, you would know about these studies.

It's up to you - you can freak out and let your life grind to a halt over a no risk incident, or you can calm down and listen to scientific fact. Your choice.

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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #24 on: September 13, 2006, 10:53:44 AM »
And anyway Wart, you aren't newly diagnosed. Why were you even in that forum to begin with? Don't put the responsibility of being scared onto anyone's shoulders but your own. Don't go off reading stuff to freak yourself out with and then come here to complain about it. Just turn your computer off and walk away from it.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #25 on: September 13, 2006, 11:02:29 AM »
I don't understand why everybody is so feisty. Look, I can read other people's posts in any forum whether or not I am infected. It may have been wrong for me to post in there, but I had a feeling it would be removed and it was. Now, I am not freaking myself out; I am reading about a potential 'mystery infection' case that may/may not be true and if it is then science is wrong (which it very well can be. scientists can be biased or look over important data)

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #26 on: September 13, 2006, 11:07:28 AM »
After 25 years of this no one is going to overlook any data. You are getting beyond the scope of help from this forum. It's time for you to seek help from a mental health professional.

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #27 on: September 13, 2006, 11:11:37 AM »
After 25 years of this no one is going to overlook any data. You are getting beyond the scope of help from this forum. It's time for you to seek help from a mental health professional.

yeah well. I'm not going to see a 'mental health professional' as they aren't really about health per se, but rather about the prescription of drugs to mask real problems (problems that I don't have anyway). I can see somebody is getting really agitated with the 'worried well' and maybe YOU need to seek out a psych doctor or try some aromatherapy!

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« Reply #28 on: September 13, 2006, 11:14:53 AM »
I believe it's time for you to get a time out and I can see it coming.

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« Reply #29 on: September 13, 2006, 11:16:32 AM »
I'm surprised I haven't been banned yet with the reactions I am generating by asking what I think are legitmate questions. If I was satisfied with what I have read in the welcome forum or on the internet or on medhelp I wouldn't have posted here.

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #30 on: September 13, 2006, 11:19:45 AM »
I believe it's time for you to get a time out and I can see it coming.
well ban me then. give me a "time out" for daring to question one of the regulars on this board. in fact. why don't you just stick to regulars or HIV+ forums only? Why even bother viewing 'worried well' posts. if all the questions concerning possible aids infections have been answered, why even have a message board such as this? I guess this entire forum is a waste. attention members of the 'worried well'! your questions are irrelevant - the answers flow in abundance on the river of information that is the welcome forum!

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #31 on: September 13, 2006, 11:26:32 AM »
worry

It's just that you don't listen....

Your question has been answered. Many times here and even by Dr. HHH!

Why are you still here if you don't want to accept and insist otherwise? You are free to visit another board. No big deal...

You have not been at risk. That's it.

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #32 on: September 13, 2006, 11:35:14 AM »
Wart,

This forum exists because there will always be people who need some reassurance or advice. Some people have actually had risks and need a little moral support while they wait for the appropriate time to test.

When you start demanding we explain the posts of someone who (to our minds) is obviously only here to start trouble and fuel fears, well, yes, we do get a little "feisty" as you put it.

You need to understand that we don't just parrot information here - we live hiv prevention every day of our lives. For myself, I'm in a relationship with an hiv negative man and we have a normal sex life - using condoms - and he remains hiv negative. For seven years now. Not only that, but there have been studies of serodiscordant couples - hundreds of couples over as many as ten years - and in the couples who used condoms consistently, NOT ONE of the negative partners became infected.

If condoms didn't work, I wouldn't even risk being in a serodiscordant relationship. They do work and I am in such a relationship. My virus stops with me and you can either listen to people who not only know what we're talking about, but also LIVE what we're talking about - or as DarkFiber says, you are always free to go elsewhere for your information.

Ann
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« Reply #33 on: September 13, 2006, 11:46:02 AM »
I think you all are most likely right. I am new to learning about a lot of this and I have questions and I don't need people like RapidRod telling me I need mental help. I may be swimming against the tide with my questions but I'm done questioning now. I got my answers, you guys are probably right, etc. But all I am saying is thus: people are skeptical of the status quo.

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #34 on: September 15, 2006, 05:54:18 PM »
what if I rubbed some bodily fluid that may have been at the base of my penis into my urethra with toilet paper when I was wiping my penis of. I this cause for concern? I don't know if it happened but it may have.

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« Reply #35 on: September 22, 2006, 01:20:38 AM »
could someone just answer my last question and I swear I'll leave the worried well. I haven't found anything about toilet paper to urethra contact. If this even happened. But if it did, would this be a risk for aids? I know you guys get annoyed at answering all this **** but still, I'm over here popping pimples over this crap

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« Reply #36 on: September 22, 2006, 05:48:35 AM »
Your pimple popping has no relation to HIV infection. No you can not get HIV from toliet paper.

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« Reply #37 on: September 22, 2006, 11:38:44 AM »
I know my 'pimple popping' has no relation to hiv, I am doing that because I am worried.

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« Reply #38 on: September 22, 2006, 10:21:26 PM »
could someone just answer my last question and I swear I'll leave the worried well. I haven't found anything about toilet paper to urethra contact. If this even happened. But if it did, would this be a risk for aids? I know you guys get annoyed at answering all this **** but still, I'm over here popping pimples over this crap

Worry

Look back at all of your posts do you honestly think they are all "legitimate questions" or do you think some of them might be on the verge of HIV paranoia? Being a "scientist" whom you seem to think overlook data and are prone to mistakes - I can assure you that the scientific method is much more foolproof than your worried head.  Face the facts you have an extreme fear of HIV infection. Toilet paper on your urethra as a mode of transmission? They knew even back in the late 80s that you don't get HIV from using the same bathroom as someone who was infected.  It is up to you to start educating yourself with the real science behind HIV and the modes of transmission. Start learning about virology and the immune system for yourself so you won't be so fearful of this disease. (I can provide you with the name of some great books if you want to take charge and start educating yourself.)

 While HIV is a scary thing, mankind is fortunate that the virus is not transmitted easily. There are very easy methods to protect yourself from being infected - these include proper use of condoms for intercourse and not sharing needles.  If you religously practice both of these two things you can be 99.99% sure that you will remain HIV negative.  If you continue to dwell on things like toilet paper contacting your urethra then your "questions" start to become obsessions and require the help of a counselor to work through this fear. You shouldn't take offense to people suggesting counseling - no one is saying you need to be in therapy for life.  But perhaps if you volunteered with an HIV organization and talked to some experts in the field you could alleviate some of your fears. While the internet and this site are great things - they are no subsitute for face to face interactions...

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« Reply #39 on: September 25, 2006, 01:17:37 AM »
I'm not worried about getting aids from just any toliet paper. Or toliet paper in a bathroom shared by someone with hiv. My question was:

"what if I rubbed some bodily fluid that may have been at the base of my penis OR ON THE CONDOM!!! into my urethra with toilet paper when I was wiping my penis off (after having sex). Is this cause for concern? I don't know if it happened but it may have."

 If AIDS is transmitted by bodily fluids and I happen to wipe some into my urethra after having sex....then how does this constitute an 'extreme' fear of aids. Nobody here has answered this question yet. I just get replies saying "you can't get aids from toliet paper". That is not what I asked. I do think that is a legitimate question.

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« Reply #40 on: September 25, 2006, 01:20:03 AM »
Read the "Welcome" page and the links before you post again. YOU DON'T GET AIDS FROM BODY FLUIDS.

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #41 on: September 25, 2006, 01:47:33 AM »
From the "transmission guide" in the "Welcome thread" (which I HAVE read....if it answered my question then I wouldn't be asking it here):

"The reason why sexual activity is a risk for HIV transmission is because it allows for the exchange of body fluids."

I feel like I am being singled out by RapidRod. Half of the other questions on this forum are answered in the welcome thread and are not as specific as mine.  I'm not even getting a detailed response to my question. If you don't know the answer to my specific question, then don't answer RapidRod. I have read the links in the welcome thread. I read the welcome thread. I read Ann's safe condom use links. I can't help the fact that I stil have a question. I am not a troll. When my question is answered, I will be content. That's it. jeesh.
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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #42 on: September 25, 2006, 04:45:33 AM »
worry,

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus. Successfull transmission happens INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse. Once hiv finds itself outside the body, it quickly becomes too damaged to infect a new host. What you describe with the toilet paper has NO chance of transmitting the virus to you. If there was a chance, don't you think we'd tell you?

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #43 on: September 25, 2006, 11:43:45 AM »
Thanks for your answer Ann. Yes I think you or somebody here would have told me by now if there were a risk, but I wanted a richer answer than that (one that explains WHY there is no risk).  I think you provided one. But now I've got angular cheilitis to worry about! Noooo!

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Re: transsexual escort and my post on medhelp.org
« Reply #44 on: September 25, 2006, 11:57:09 AM »
worry,

Angular chelitis has nothing to do with hiv infection, so don't even go there.

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fecal matter on base of penis.
« Reply #45 on: February 03, 2007, 05:56:06 PM »
I recently had protected sex with another male. It was kinda messy and there was fecal matter on the uprotected base of my penis. I changed condoms after this before having sex again (the second condom got fecal matter on it too and after intercourse I tried to wipe the base of penis off - smearing the fecal matter a little bit). is there anyway that this poses a risk?

thanks in advance.

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Re: fecal matter on base of penis.
« Reply #46 on: February 03, 2007, 06:02:16 PM »
NO, you didn't have a risk. I just hope you washed your hands good before you eat any food.

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Re: fecal matter on base of penis.
« Reply #47 on: February 03, 2007, 08:36:41 PM »
As far as protecting yourself from HIV during anal intercourse, the issue is about having the head of your penis covered.

Fecal matter getting on to the base of your penis is not a risk for HIV.

Just make sure you use a latex condom everytime and you are covered literally and figuratively.
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Re: fecal matter on base of penis.
« Reply #48 on: February 04, 2007, 07:50:33 AM »
Not from HIV, but if you, say, didn't wash your hands (a good scrubbing, including around the nails), there is always the possibility of diseases that can be spread through the fecal-oral route, such as Hep A and the like.
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Re: fecal matter on base of penis.
« Reply #49 on: February 04, 2007, 09:57:55 AM »
wart,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.

Did you ever bother reading the Welcome thread when you first started posting here? Either way, go read it now and follow the Transmission Lesson link. You need to know what is and isn't a risk so we don't have to hold your hand every time you have sex.

And no, you didn't have a risk in your lastest adventure.

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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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