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Offline DanMo

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Great news!
« on: April 26, 2011, 10:18:32 AM »
About a week ago, I finally mustered up the courage to tell a good friend of mine that I was HIV pos. We had unprotected sex in November 2010. He just got his results and they're NEGATIVE  ;D

I was 90% sure that I had gotten infected after our encounter in November (in December). This just confirms it and now I'm sure it was in December, which is the only thing that fits into the timeline of events (me getting an indeterminate WB in February).

Honestly, if I would have found out that he was indeed pos, and that I infected him, it would have been more crushing to me than my own diagnosis. This news has really lifted me up!  ;D
“I tried to drown my sorrows, but the bastards learned how to swim, and now I am overwhelmed by this decent and good feeling.” —Frida Kahlo

11 Feb 2011 - Preliminary positive
07 Mar 11 - Inconclusive WB
14 Mar 11 - Diagnosed positive
05 Apr 11 - 355 (21%) / VL: 186,054
27 Apr 11 - 390 (20%) / VL: 285,095
06 Jun 11 - 298 (19%) / VL:  78,380
01 Aug 11 - > STARTED ATRIPLA <
30 Aug 11 - 699 (31%) / VL: 1,938
03 Nov 11 -                / VL: 645
27 Dec 11 - 559 (35%) / VL: 1,189
11 Jan 12 -                 / VL: <20
09 Apr 12 - 686 (40%) / VL: UD
11 Jul 12 - 793 (37%) / VL: 25

Offline spacebarsux

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Re: Great news!
« Reply #1 on: April 26, 2011, 10:41:18 AM »
That's good to hear Dan :). The thought of infecting someone else unintentionally can be more crushing than one's own diagnosis.
Infected-  2005 or early 2006; Diagnosed- Jan 28th, 2011; Feb '11- CD4 754 @34%, VL- 39K; July '11- CD4 907@26%,  VL-81K; Feb '12- CD4 713 @31%, VL- 41K, Nov '12- CD4- 827@31%

Offline denb45

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Re: Great news!
« Reply #2 on: April 26, 2011, 11:11:48 AM »
Good news indeed Dan, I cringe every-time my other-half get tested for teh AIDS every 4 to 6 months  :-[ but for the last 17 yrs. he still get's a clean-bill-of-health, I worry about it, but he says not to worry  ;D
"it's so nice to be insane, cause no-one ask you to explain" Helen Reddy cc 1974

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Re: Great news!
« Reply #3 on: April 26, 2011, 05:01:32 PM »
I cringe every-time my other-half get tested for teh AIDS every 4 to 6 months  :-[
better that ;) than being as stupid as me, my partner and my doctor were to never have suggested my partner get tested in all those years we were together, and finding out too late about the AIDS and the lymphoma. We're just four days away from the 3-yr anniversary of Jim's death on May 1st. :'( (and about a month away from the 17-yr anniversary of Randy's passing on May 25th)

That really is good news to hear DanMo. ;D
leatherman (aka mIkIE)


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Offline CaptCarl

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Re: Great news!
« Reply #4 on: April 26, 2011, 06:19:54 PM »
MiKiE-

   Please please please tell me that your new avatar really isn't a picture of your ass!! And even more disturbing than that thought is wondering who actually took the picture...

CaptCarl ( who is waddling off to the laundry room to scrub his eyes with bleach)
The only thing I can do straight is shoot..

Offline anniebc

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Re: Great news!
« Reply #5 on: April 26, 2011, 07:42:26 PM »
Danmo

I'm glad to hear your friend got his negative result, I hope you take this oppurtunity to educate him on safe sex so he can keep himself safe from any STD's.

Glad the worry for you is over also...do the right thing..safe sex from now on.

Aroha
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Offline denb45

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Re: Great news!
« Reply #6 on: April 26, 2011, 07:51:47 PM »
better that ;) than being as stupid as me, my partner and my doctor were to never have suggested my partner get tested in all those years we were together, and finding out too late about the AIDS and the lymphoma. We're just four days away from the 3-yr anniversary of Jim's death on May 1st. :'( (and about a month away from the 17-yr anniversary of Randy's passing on May 25th)


 :'( :'( :'( mikie stop it now  :-[ I feel ya buddy  :-*
"it's so nice to be insane, cause no-one ask you to explain" Helen Reddy cc 1974

Offline DanMo

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Re: Great news!
« Reply #7 on: April 26, 2011, 08:11:21 PM »
Thanks y'all for the replies!

I'm just so RELIEVED that he's ok! He would have gotten fired from his job if he turned out to be positive. (He lives in Europe). I would have felt so guilty too (Yes, I know you guys will say that I shouldn't feel guilty, that he should have been responsible... whatever; I would have felt immensely guilty nonetheless).

Mikie, I'm so sorry for your losses. Please accept my dearest condolences. *virtual hugs* @}-->---

“I tried to drown my sorrows, but the bastards learned how to swim, and now I am overwhelmed by this decent and good feeling.” —Frida Kahlo

11 Feb 2011 - Preliminary positive
07 Mar 11 - Inconclusive WB
14 Mar 11 - Diagnosed positive
05 Apr 11 - 355 (21%) / VL: 186,054
27 Apr 11 - 390 (20%) / VL: 285,095
06 Jun 11 - 298 (19%) / VL:  78,380
01 Aug 11 - > STARTED ATRIPLA <
30 Aug 11 - 699 (31%) / VL: 1,938
03 Nov 11 -                / VL: 645
27 Dec 11 - 559 (35%) / VL: 1,189
11 Jan 12 -                 / VL: <20
09 Apr 12 - 686 (40%) / VL: UD
11 Jul 12 - 793 (37%) / VL: 25

Online leatherman

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Re: Great news!
« Reply #8 on: April 26, 2011, 08:30:24 PM »
mikie stop it now 
well, sadly I have this horrible personal story that makes a point. It is much better to have your friends or partners get tested. As horrible as it would be to find out that you passed HIV on to someone else, at least if they find out sooner, rather than later, that gives that person all the options to get treated in time - perhaps even saving their life.

On a selfish level, although there's some leeway in the timeline, if we had gotten Jim tested at any time in those previous 9 years, I might have some closure about whether I passed it to him. However, the greater reason to have gotten him tested sooner, would have been to have gotten him treatment. I often think about how if he had been tested as some earlier point, treatment might have lowered his viral loads and the non-hodgkins lymphoma might never have even developed. sigh. so I live with a great hurt, and I tell this part of our story (that is the basis of why I'm an advocate/activist nowadays), hoping that others don't go through the same hell. ;)
leatherman (aka mIkIE)


chart from 1992-2013; updated 2/09/13  Reyataz/Norvir/Truvada

Offline denb45

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Re: Great news!
« Reply #9 on: April 26, 2011, 09:45:39 PM »
mikie as you well know that all of my 3 partners that died, they already knew they had HIV/AIDS, but sadly they just didn't give a dam, it really had nothing to do w/ me at all, however it was sad to watch them all die, and there wasn't anything I could do about it :'( they took the meds, but they just didn't make it out alive  :-[
"it's so nice to be insane, cause no-one ask you to explain" Helen Reddy cc 1974

Offline tednlou2

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Re: Great news!
« Reply #10 on: April 26, 2011, 11:17:22 PM »
I'm glad your friend tested neg--mostly for him, but your piece of mind, too.  Knowing that I'm poz now, I think it would be very hard to deal with knowing I infected my partner.  I mean, it would be hard even if I didn't know I was poz.  I was so glad he tested neg after I found out I was poz.  I just keep hoping everytime we have sex, nothing happens to put him in danger.   

Offline DanMo

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Re: Great news!
« Reply #11 on: April 27, 2011, 09:55:50 PM »
I'm glad your friend tested neg--mostly for him, but your piece of mind, too.  Knowing that I'm poz now, I think it would be very hard to deal with knowing I infected my partner.  I mean, it would be hard even if I didn't know I was poz.  I was so glad he tested neg after I found out I was poz.  I just keep hoping everytime we have sex, nothing happens to put him in danger.   

Thanks Ted.

I'm glad your partner is fine. May he stay that way!  ;D
“I tried to drown my sorrows, but the bastards learned how to swim, and now I am overwhelmed by this decent and good feeling.” —Frida Kahlo

11 Feb 2011 - Preliminary positive
07 Mar 11 - Inconclusive WB
14 Mar 11 - Diagnosed positive
05 Apr 11 - 355 (21%) / VL: 186,054
27 Apr 11 - 390 (20%) / VL: 285,095
06 Jun 11 - 298 (19%) / VL:  78,380
01 Aug 11 - > STARTED ATRIPLA <
30 Aug 11 - 699 (31%) / VL: 1,938
03 Nov 11 -                / VL: 645
27 Dec 11 - 559 (35%) / VL: 1,189
11 Jan 12 -                 / VL: <20
09 Apr 12 - 686 (40%) / VL: UD
11 Jul 12 - 793 (37%) / VL: 25

 


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