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Author Topic: threesome oral sex worries due to slightly different criteria  (Read 2120 times)

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Offline blake7779

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Hi everyone, I'd really appreciate some advice, as I've read the sticky and looked for similar scenarios within your wonderful site, but can't find exactly the same.

My wife and I had our first threesome with a call girl recently. It was very enjoyable, only unprotected oral sex was performed. My wife and the girl performed oral on each other and they both performed it on me. I only performed it on my wife.

My only concern is receiving oral sex from my wife after she performed oral sex on the call girl. Is it possible for any amount of the call girl's vaginal fluids to be passed down my urethra via my wife? So she gave head to her and then to me.  Some kissing between the three of us too. Actually, me and my wife got rather saucy and she did lick my fingers after asking me to finger the call girl.

My wife isn't worried in the slightest, bless her, but I am rather scared. I also had a minor cut on my elbow , but I guess I'm not too concerned about that, as it's not like I shoved my elbow up the call girl!

I would be incredibly greatful for any advice.

Many thanks




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Re: threesome oral sex worries due to slightly different criteria
« Reply #1 on: April 11, 2011, 06:23:46 AM »
Blake,

I'm relieved you didn't shove your elbow up the call girl. That would have been just plain rude. ;)

Neither going down on a woman nor getting a blowjob are risks for hiv infection. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

For this reason it was also not a risk to lick juices off anyone's fingers.

You and your wife have not had a risk for hiv infection.

Ann
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Re: threesome oral sex worries due to slightly different criteria
« Reply #2 on: April 11, 2011, 06:46:28 AM »
Thanks so much for an incredibly speedy response.

Haha yeah it would have been terribly rude!

That's great re-assuring news.  So my wife couldn't transfer anything to my urethra even if she had loads of vaginal fluid in her mouth from the call girl?

Thank you so much,  you've saved me from weeks of worrying xx

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Re: threesome oral sex worries due to slightly different criteria
« Reply #3 on: April 11, 2011, 06:50:27 AM »
Blake,

Her mouth could have been absolutely bursting with vaginal fluids and it would not have put you at risk during the blowjob. Neither of you had a risk - but it sounds like you had fun. Way to go!

And this fast response is due to the fact that I knew you were posting and I was waiting for it so I can go watch the last two episodes of Waking the Dead I have saved on my Sky+ box.


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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: threesome oral sex worries due to slightly different criteria
« Reply #4 on: April 11, 2011, 07:25:33 AM »
You, kind lady, are a diamond! Thanks you so much x

Yes it was actually quite a bonding experience for me and my wife, we are closer than we ever thought possible.

Aha, we recorded The Walking Dead on the old plus box too, supposed to be excellent.

You've completely put my mind at rest regarding the fun we had seeing my wife perform oral on a girl and me.

Like the majority of the poor people on the net, craving assurance like you just provided to me, I have but one last worry that could potentially still find its way into my borderline ocd-like mindset. I promise I shall leave you alone to enjoy you sky+ goodies......

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Re: threesome oral sex worries due to slightly different criteria
« Reply #5 on: April 11, 2011, 07:30:03 AM »
Blake,

I put Waking the Dead on pause to get another coffee, and thought I'd check back here.

So, out with it. What's this one last worry? You know you're going to post about it eventually, so you might as well do it now.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: threesome oral sex worries due to slightly different criteria
« Reply #6 on: April 11, 2011, 07:42:36 AM »
Whoops, submitted that early. Using my mobile at work, everyone is looking at me curiously.

So, my final worry....I had a minor graze on my elbow that marked the bed with some blood whilst I was performing some very good oral to my lovely wife. We all noticed it and stopped to determine what it was. My elbow didn't even seem like it was barely bleeding. Now I'm sure the chances of us even getting the call girl's fluids on my elbow are really small, but being paranoid, my most obvious worry would be regarding the chances of infection should any of it somehow touched my elbow. I swear this is my last question!

Thank you so much for your incredibly fast responses. Do you guys take donations or anything? Mighty fine work x


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Re: threesome oral sex worries due to slightly different criteria
« Reply #7 on: April 11, 2011, 07:57:57 AM »
Blake,

I had a feeling you were worrying about your elbow.

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies. Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect. For this reason, hiv is NOT transmitted from hiv on any objects in the environment - including sheets, doorknobs, or any other thing you can think of.

If you and your wife ever decide to have a threesome again and you take it to the next level and have intercourse with the third party, just make sure you're wearing a condom.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!!!



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You can also donate to a UK based hiv charity such as the Terrence Higgins Trust.

Your generosity will be greatly appreciated.

Ann


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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: threesome oral sex worries due to slightly different criteria
« Reply #8 on: April 11, 2011, 08:18:26 AM »
Thanks so much for your help Ann, it means the world to me.

The second site has an online donate method, which is great as I haven't used a cheque in years! Ill donate tonight

Thank you so much x

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Re: threesome oral sex worries due to slightly different criteria
« Reply #9 on: April 11, 2011, 08:23:51 AM »
Blake,

You're welcome, and thank you for your generosity. With the state of NHS funding these days, every pound really counts to the hiv charities. I'm in the Isle of Man, but I go to Liverpool for my hiv care and I've experienced the cuts first-hand.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: threesome oral sex worries due to slightly different criteria
« Reply #10 on: April 11, 2011, 08:33:02 AM »
Blake,

By the way, if you're in the Northwest, you may want to donate a little closer to home. There is an hiv charity called Sahir House in Liverpool. They're very good, but strapped for cash. I'm a member there and they've helped me tremendously over the years.

Thanks again!

Ann
Condoms are a girl's best friend

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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