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Author Topic: Tested Yesterday but very worried with questions, pls help..  (Read 1983 times)

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Offline Moonbird

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Tested Yesterday but very worried with questions, pls help..
« on: April 03, 2011, 02:31:18 AM »
Hi All,

I am an 29yo Asian Male, pls bear with my bad english. To sum up the incidents which causes a huge load of anxiety to me, I was dumped by my ex gf last year for another guy, which I was about to marry, things turn so bad for myself where I was stucked between responsibilities in work(tough work!!) and relationship issues, and finally, I turned to CSW and+ massage parlours to get some time and pressure off for myself. I know it was stupid, that's y I never did it anymore..
I have been following this site for many months and you guys have been doing an incredible job, I'd really appreciate if you could help me to assess the risk of the following incident.

1) Massage parlours(many times): handjobs, boobsjobs nipple sucking and fingering.
2) Frottage(x1): no sex performed, but she rubbed her vagina against my dick in riding post. there were oil involved.
3) CSW(x7-All CSW from china..): BJ with Condom very brief, Vagina intercouse with Condom(chinese made latex condom- are they safe???), no breakage as far as I remember...I hope i am right..

What triggered off the whole anxiety attack episode is the last CSW encounter back in 30-31st Oct 2010, after i came back from my business trip working oversea, I was kinda befriend with this chinese CSW since my previous visit to her working place two weeks before that , and I brought her home for stayover once I came back from overesea.
I had two round of sex with her each lasted not more than 10 mins, and both with condom, the problem was that the next day after i sent her home,  I only realized on I was tested for blood sugar with my right middle finger poked in a nearby clinic 4 -5 hours before our first sex on the night 30th Oct , and I used that finger to finger her vagina for around 5 mins...And also i have accidentally briefly used her toothbrush on 31st Oct Morning for 5 seconds after she used the same toothbrush 24 hours before.

I got so scared and symptoms started to appear 2 weeks later around mid of Nov where i started to develop sore throat with mild fever which lasted nearly a month after i took 3 round of antibiotic medications, I used to have  sensitive throat and I was actually suffering the same problem 2 weeks before my risky sexual encounter with this CSW. but i recovered within a week after i took some medication from the GP.
What scares me the most was that after I recovered from the sore throat by Mid Dec, my tongue started to feel sore and irritating and grew patches with white ring serounding the patches that comes and go even until today, which I have visited the GP and he said it is geographical tongue and he prescribed me  with  some antifungal med but it didn;t work even though after 2 weeks of medication.
So my second batch of questions are:

1) What are the risks of fingering a HIV+ person vagina with a poked finger 4 hours before the fingering incident?
2) What are the risks of sharing a toothbrush?
3) Do you think i am suffering from ARS based on the situation described above?
4) Is Geographical Tongue a ARS/HIV specific symptom?
5) Can I safely said that my tongue issues are not related to candidiasis since tongue issues doesn't response to the Antifungal medication?

I am really really really worried of getting a positive result next week and I really hope you can help me to assess my risks and the posibilities of me getting a + results based on my encounters and symptoms that i have described, since I also learned that condom is not always 100% safe eventhough wore correctly which added more fear to my anxiety problem.

Really hope to receive your early professional responses.

Thank you very much!!

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Re: Tested Yesterday but very worried with questions, pls help..
« Reply #1 on: April 03, 2011, 03:54:52 AM »
Moon,

Absolutely NOTHNG you did or had done to you was a risk for hiv infection. You cannot experience ARS if you did not have a risk.

I fully expect your results next week to be negative.

Here's what you need to know in order to remain hiv negative:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Re: Tested Yesterday but very worried with questions, pls help..
« Reply #2 on: April 03, 2011, 09:57:05 AM »
Hi Ann,

Many Thanks for the reassurance.
One more question, I read somewhere from the internet that the Virus subtype in Asia especiall SEA are mostly Subtype E which the transmission probability is much higher from Female to Male as compared to western countries where most of the virus train are Subtype B.

Is this true?

And putting my symptom aside,
Is Geographical Tongue a HIV specific symptom?

Thanks for your reply again.


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Re: Tested Yesterday but very worried with questions, pls help..
« Reply #3 on: April 03, 2011, 10:42:14 AM »
Moon,

There is some evidence that subtype E is easier to transmit, but only when having unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse. This has nothing to do with your situation as NOTHING you did or had done to you was a risk for hiv infection regardless of subtype E.

Anyone can get geographic tongue, hiv positive or hiv negative.

If you cannot let this go, test for your peace of mind and collect your negative result.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Tested Yesterday but very worried with questions, pls help..
« Reply #4 on: April 03, 2011, 11:05:42 AM »
Hi Ann,

Many Thanks for the prompt reply, I really appreciate your patience in providing answers to me.
Have you ever come across with any person that claimed to have contracted the virus even though they were using condom as protection?
I was kinda worry now since most of the condom i used with those CSW are chinese made latex condom, I am really worried that the quality is not up to par.

Thanks again.

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Re: Tested Yesterday but very worried with questions, pls help..
« Reply #5 on: April 04, 2011, 07:49:56 AM »
Moon,

As long as the condom didn't break, you were protected. I'm quite sure the Chinese are as capable as anyone else of making quality condoms.

While some people may claim to have become infected while using a condom, this doesn't hold up to close scrutiny. Some people are too embarrassed to admit to not using a condom - and sometimes people don't remember what they actually did under the influence of drink and/or drugs.

Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection.

There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one. These studies involved thousands of couples and went on for years. If people out there were getting infected despite using condoms, it would have been shown in these studies. It wasn't.

Ann
« Last Edit: April 04, 2011, 07:51:44 AM by Ann »
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Tested Yesterday but very worried with questions, pls help..
« Reply #6 on: April 04, 2011, 10:34:15 AM »
Hi Ann,

Am really grateful for your informative response.
I am really looking forward to a negative results by this week... cross my fingers...

It's really been driving me nuts for all the "what ifs" running in my mind for the past 6 months...
Considering all the symptoms bugging me all this while...

Thanks..

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Re: Tested Yesterday but very worried with questions, pls help..
« Reply #7 on: April 05, 2011, 01:09:44 AM »
Hi Ann,

I just called the CSW from china and asked her about her status, she said she's negative..
I really hope so because now i am really worried again of my results coming back this week..

It really seemed hard for me to accep the fact that vagina fingering with a poked finger is not a risk.. even though i have read through most of the similar stories in this site.

Your reassurance is greatly appreciated.

Thanks.

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Re: Tested Yesterday but very worried with questions, pls help..
« Reply #8 on: April 05, 2011, 07:11:55 AM »
Moon,

Prepare yourself for a negative result - because that is exactly what you're going to get.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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