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Offline WillyWump

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Phildinftlaudy's Father
« on: March 15, 2011, 06:58:22 PM »
Just got off the phone with Phil. His father was moved to Hospice this morning after a stay in the hospital. He is expected to pass shortly.

In talking to Phil last week I gathered his father was pretty sick, but I don't believe the family thought it was this bad. As you can imagine Phil is having a rough go of it.

...Sending you my thoughts and Prayers Phil.

-Will
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Offline RapidRod

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #1 on: March 15, 2011, 07:48:54 PM »
Phil, our thoughts an prayers are with you and your family.

Offline OneTampa

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #2 on: March 15, 2011, 08:00:00 PM »
Sending thoughts and prayers .

Take care.
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Offline JeffInNYC

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #3 on: March 15, 2011, 08:33:33 PM »
Phil, I am so sorry that your father, you and your family are going through this most difficult time.  I am sending only the very best of thoughts your way.  Hang in there.
Jeff

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #4 on: March 15, 2011, 08:39:01 PM »
Phil, my thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. Please remember to take care of yourself as well.  Joe

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #5 on: March 15, 2011, 09:38:52 PM »
Phil,

Thinking of you and your dad. 

Mike
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Offline wolfter

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #6 on: March 15, 2011, 11:05:10 PM »
My thoughts are with you.
Complacency is the enemy.  ;)  Challenge yourself daily for maximum  return on investment.

Offline Hellraiser

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #7 on: March 16, 2011, 02:59:49 AM »
You're in my thoughts Phil.

Offline hope_for_a_cure

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #8 on: March 16, 2011, 07:19:45 AM »
You are in my thoughts and prayers Phil and try to comfort your dad the best you can during this tough time. 

Offline GSOgymrat

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #9 on: March 16, 2011, 08:45:06 AM »
Thinking of you and your dad in this difficult time.

Ford

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #10 on: March 16, 2011, 12:32:38 PM »
I've spoken to Phil a few times being on the grants committee and he is a very nice fellow.  I wish only the best for his dad who has had some health issues over the years.  And I hope Phil will take care of his own health while caring for his father. 

Jody
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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #11 on: March 16, 2011, 11:22:48 PM »
I just got a phone call from Phil and his father just passed away a couple hours ago.  Please keep him in your thoughts.
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Offline aztecan

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #12 on: March 17, 2011, 12:38:09 AM »
I will keep him and his family in my thoughts.

Sad news.

Mark
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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #13 on: March 17, 2011, 02:18:33 AM »


   I'm sorry to hear of your father's passing.  You have my sincerest condolences.
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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #14 on: March 17, 2011, 09:15:59 AM »
Phil, you have my sincere condolences.

Hugs,
Ann
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Offline hope_for_a_cure

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #15 on: March 17, 2011, 09:18:01 AM »
Very sorry to read of your dad's passing. 

Offline WillyWump

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #16 on: March 17, 2011, 04:11:57 PM »
My condolences to you and your family Phil. Thinking about you in this tough time.

-Will
« Last Edit: March 17, 2011, 04:13:41 PM by WillyWump »
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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #17 on: March 17, 2011, 05:24:23 PM »
Big Hugs Phil ... Im thinking of you .

Offline phildinftlaudy

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #18 on: March 17, 2011, 08:10:17 PM »
Thanks everyone - my dad's service is being held on Saturday - made the funeral arrangements today - many family members will be here tomorrow - very very tired (physically, mentally, socially, etc)

Getting ready to work on writing my little "talk" for dad's service.  His last words before becoming non responsive on Sunday were for me to write to him - this I shall do - and do regularly.  My heart is hurting very badly right now and my eyes hurt from crying. 

I am also beginning to get sick - some type of bug I think I may have picked up in the hospital.

Thanks again for your thoughts and concern.

Phil
September 13, 2008 - diagnosed +
Labs:
Date    CD4    %   VL     Date  CD4  %   VL
10/08  636    35  510   9/09 473  38 2900  12/4/09 Atripla
12/09  540    30    60   
12/10  740    41  <48   
8/11    667    36  <20  
03/12  1,041  42  <20
05/12  1,241  47  <20
08/12   780    37  <20
11/12   549    35  <20
02/12  1,102  42  <20
11/12   549    35  <20

Offline ds4146

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #19 on: March 17, 2011, 09:36:01 PM »
Cry, and cry some more. I have a very strong feeling you will say the most right things for your Dad. Sometmes there are not words suffiicient to say and people should just say "my thoughts are with you" sincerely! Be good to yourself!

Offline GSOgymrat

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #20 on: March 17, 2011, 11:12:17 PM »
So sorry to hear your father passed.

Offline Jody

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #21 on: March 18, 2011, 09:49:21 PM »
My thoughts are with you Phil in this time of grief for you, your dad was blessed as well to have had a fine son like you these many years.  In time you will cherish all the great memories you had together.  Keep yourself well friend, especially that little bug you have now.

Jody
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Offline phildinftlaudy

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #22 on: March 20, 2011, 09:44:51 PM »
Thank you all for the sincerity of your words and your support.  This has been and continues to be a very tough time for me.  When I went up to Ocala to see my dad last Friday it was supposed to be a three day trip to see how he was doing in the hospital.  I did not know that I would see a man that was 118 pounds (down from 155 six months ago).  I did not know that I would see a man who had brain damage and was quickly losing his abilities.  I definitely did not expect to be putting my dad in hospice on Tuesday, having him pass away on Wednesday at 6:33 pm; making funeral arrangement on Thursday and having the funeral service with military honors on Saturday.

My heart is completely broken.  My best friend is no longer with me.  I used to call my dad 4 or more times a day to just talk.  I am very very sad, but also know that he is at peace.

Thank you all again.
Phil
September 13, 2008 - diagnosed +
Labs:
Date    CD4    %   VL     Date  CD4  %   VL
10/08  636    35  510   9/09 473  38 2900  12/4/09 Atripla
12/09  540    30    60   
12/10  740    41  <48   
8/11    667    36  <20  
03/12  1,041  42  <20
05/12  1,241  47  <20
08/12   780    37  <20
11/12   549    35  <20
02/12  1,102  42  <20
11/12   549    35  <20

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #23 on: March 20, 2011, 09:49:00 PM »
Wishing you the best through this horrible period.
Complacency is the enemy.  ;)  Challenge yourself daily for maximum  return on investment.

Offline phildinftlaudy

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #24 on: March 20, 2011, 10:05:34 PM »
Wishing you the best through this horrible period.
Thanks Wolf -
It is appreciated.
-Phil
September 13, 2008 - diagnosed +
Labs:
Date    CD4    %   VL     Date  CD4  %   VL
10/08  636    35  510   9/09 473  38 2900  12/4/09 Atripla
12/09  540    30    60   
12/10  740    41  <48   
8/11    667    36  <20  
03/12  1,041  42  <20
05/12  1,241  47  <20
08/12   780    37  <20
11/12   549    35  <20
02/12  1,102  42  <20
11/12   549    35  <20

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #25 on: March 20, 2011, 11:30:25 PM »
Thank you all for the sincerity of your words and your support.  This has been and continues to be a very tough time for me.  When I went up to Ocala to see my dad last Friday it was supposed to be a three day trip to see how he was doing in the hospital.  I did not know that I would see a man that was 118 pounds (down from 155 six months ago).  I did not know that I would see a man who had brain damage and was quickly losing his abilities.  I definitely did not expect to be putting my dad in hospice on Tuesday, having him pass away on Wednesday at 6:33 pm; making funeral arrangement on Thursday and having the funeral service with military honors on Saturday.

My heart is completely broken.  My best friend is no longer with me.  I used to call my dad 4 or more times a day to just talk.  I am very very sad, but also know that he is at peace.

Thank you all again.
Phil

Welcome back Phil and thanks you for the Update . Because of you I will try to reach out to people in my life that need to hear how much I care about them ... I will start with you , please know that you have been on my mind and I feel honored to be one of your friends . Big Hug man  :-* 

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #26 on: March 27, 2011, 07:31:51 PM »
Just received a phone call from my mother - my favorite aunt (Aggie) passed away about an hour ago - she had been in the ICU since last Monday and was moved to hospice care yesterday morning.  With my dad passing on March 16th and now my aunt on March 27th, it has and continues to be a rough month.  I am taking comfort in knowing that neither of them are suffering any more. :'(
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Labs:
Date    CD4    %   VL     Date  CD4  %   VL
10/08  636    35  510   9/09 473  38 2900  12/4/09 Atripla
12/09  540    30    60   
12/10  740    41  <48   
8/11    667    36  <20  
03/12  1,041  42  <20
05/12  1,241  47  <20
08/12   780    37  <20
11/12   549    35  <20
02/12  1,102  42  <20
11/12   549    35  <20

Offline hope_for_a_cure

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #27 on: March 27, 2011, 07:34:49 PM »
Very sorry to hear this Phil.  Please accept my most sincere condolences. 

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #28 on: March 27, 2011, 07:51:20 PM »
Condolences Phil, hang in there for your mom.

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #29 on: March 29, 2011, 05:18:35 PM »
Dear Phil, my deepest condolences on your loss. At times like these, I find my words failing me and instead I offer the writings of Angelo Patri, he writes:

“In one sense there is no death.  The life of a soul on earth lasts beyond their departure.  You will always feel that life touching yours, that voice speaking to you, that spirit looking out of other eyes, talking to you in the familiar things they touched, worked with, loved as familiar friends. They live on in your life and in the lives of all others who knew them.”

Angelo Patri

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #30 on: March 29, 2011, 06:14:24 PM »
So sorry for both your losses.

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Re: Phildinftlaudy's Father
« Reply #31 on: March 29, 2011, 09:31:13 PM »
Phil, you and your family are in my thoughts through these difficult times. Hoping for the best for all of you. Big hugs your way!

 


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