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Offline abc_man

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Infection worries
« on: February 26, 2011, 02:38:45 AM »
I met a girl in a bar about 2 weeks ago, it was February 11th evening. She came with me to my home, first time in my life something like this happens...and we started to kiss, and there happened to be this quite passionate kissing, then I licked her, cunnilingus, and she also was giving oral, fellatio.. and then I used a condom and there was protected intercourse and after this the condom was intact. Something strange I happened to me, she was quite "wild" and used her nails to scratch my skin during the night.

Now, it was saturday morning when she left...and on sunday I felt first some nodes in the back of my neck to be little bit swollen...then tuesday or wednesday I felt my throat getting little bit sore, and on thursday it was apparent, and on weekend I had  flu like symptoms, on friday throat was the problem, and generally ill feeling, on saturday I had to sneeze and had these nose problems and felt ill, and on sunday the cough started...on monday these symptoms started to go away, but still no after a week my health doesn't feel normal, especially on mornings have some cough.

Well, as I have been a big worrier of hiv and worrying very much all the time, I actually felt that this must just be regular flu, as so many people are ill here now and maybe it can also hit me sometimes...

but something is really making me feel like it is not just a flu...on the days of the flu like illness a week after the girl, I noticed that I started to lose hair...there was lots of hair on my keyboard every day, when I was cooking always some hairs had to pick up from food and it was obvious that more than normally I was losing hair. Now it seems like this has calmed down,  my body is working now differently...when I wake up, my heart is beating very quickly...if I do something, like walk the stairs, my heartbeat gets very high and it feels like maybe there are not enough red blood cells anymore...and my penis feels cold all the time!

While this was the first time for me to have sex outside of relationship, it certainly didn't seem to be the case with this girl, and she was very white skinned and told me in the morning it is because of anemia! I had just told her I am afraid of hiv, and when she told me about this anemia, I of course freaked out and she was just laughing that "oh, now you think about this! I've had it all my life and my mom also has it"...well, and we were in shower in the evening and I noticed that there was red line of skin between her buttocks...probably candida infection!? :O I asked her many times if I should be worried, as I was thinking about PEP but she insisted that no, and that she never has unprotected sex or iv drugs...and I also felt this might be true as she was very careful to ask me about condoms and wanted to be sure that we use one...of course it might also be that she didn't want to infect me :O

well, so the thing is that now after 2 weeks of the incident, I've had already the flu like illness, and now it seems like my blood circulation is bad...skin feels cold even under blankets..and penis feels all the time cold...and I don't know if it is just my imagination but it seems like maybe I have anemia also now, I look at myself and feel like I am more white coloured and heartbeat is quicker. Also noticed that muscles felt tired on the following day just after some normal walking, as if I had been to the gym...
« Last Edit: February 26, 2011, 02:52:42 AM by abc_man »

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Infection worries
« Reply #1 on: February 26, 2011, 03:29:06 AM »
You never had a risk of contracting HIV.

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Re: Infection worries
« Reply #2 on: February 26, 2011, 07:24:03 AM »

Guess what, it's cold and flu season and you happen to have the flu. Big deal. There's currently a cold virus going around where I live and some people - hiv negative people - have been ill with it since New Year. Colds and/or flu don't always go away easily.

If you continue to feel unwell, see a doctor. It's nothing to do with hiv as you were not at risk.

Absolutely nothing you report was a risk for hiv infection. You did the right thing and used a condom for intercourse. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection.

Getting a blowjob is not a risk for hiv infection. Going down on a woman is not a risk for hiv infection. Protected intercourse is not a risk for hiv infection. You did not have a risk.

And I think it's ridiculous that you suspect the woman of "not wanting to infect you" because she insisted on condoms for intercourse. Assumptions like this make it difficult for people to negotiate condom use. She's only doing what any responsible adult would do - protecting her health. For all she knows, YOU could be positive.

Here's what you need to know in order to remain hiv negative;

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER THIS SPECIFIC SITUATION, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Offline abc_man

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Re: Infection worries
« Reply #3 on: March 01, 2011, 04:57:59 AM »
Well, I surely don't understand how the transmission has happened if there is no risk..but some big changes have been going on...

first of all, I have become impotent now, in my previous post i wrote that my penis feels cold..well, some strange feelings there has been,all the time, like bad circulation and i cannot get it hard anymore, and it is shrunken even when i wake up...

and these hard lymph nodes can be felt now in many places...when I hold my arms next to my body, I can feel them compressing my tissues, in my groin there are hard nodes, behind my ear, even on top of my feet and I can feel some hard  nodes even in my toes! the nodes are not tender, just hard and in different positions it feels uncomfortable as they are compressed, near my knees, elbows, near ribs, groins, under pectoral muscles, and neck...

skin is dry and pale and the cough keeps appearing every other morning as well as mildly sore throat.

Offline Ann

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Re: Infection worries
« Reply #4 on: March 01, 2011, 06:42:58 AM »

Stop moaning about your symptoms on an internet forum and go see a doctor!!! While something might be wrong with you, hiv could not possibly be the cause as you did NOT have a risk. Go find out what is actually going on.

Don't bother coming back here with more symptoms. They're meaningless when it comes to diagnosing hiv infection.

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