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Offline woodshere

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #50 on: December 09, 2010, 10:44:13 AM »
Just want to clear something up.

I won't pretend to know what it's like being a gay male with HIV but I have quite a few gay friends and at least within that social circle, HIV is not the social stigma that it turns out to be in the heterosexual world.

Obviously you haven't checked out ads on Craig's List or other gay "dating" sites lately.  You seldom see ads that say I am HIV+.  As a matter of fact on CL in  my town most of the ads say that lovely word "clean" or "DDF you be too".  So to say that the stigma isn't as great is not quite true.  Anyone who has a problem with HIV have it against all of us gay or straight.  But of course as a gay man I got what I deserve.

In terms of being HIV+ this mentality of I am straight so I have it worse or I am a woman so I have it worse or I am gay so I have it worse or I am an African American so I have it worse or I am a biracial, transsexual, IV drug user, Republican so I have it worse is ridiculous.  I think any of us who are HIV+ should not think we have it any worse than our fellow posies. We all have issues to deal with and I will offer support to anyone that needs it but someone says I have more problems than you,  you will get no support from me, 'cause you ain't walked in my shoes or for that matter anyone's shoes on this site.
"Let us give pubicity to HV/AIDS and not hide it..." "One of the things destroying people with AIDS is the stigma we attach to it."   Nelson Mandela

Offline sam66

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #51 on: December 09, 2010, 10:46:52 AM »
You boys never been to Club Rolex down in Miami, huh?


        skeebo thats one place I will for sure checkout , if I'm ever in the states,

         not sure if my hear could handle it though,

         see ya later, got to eat
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Offline skeebo1969

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #52 on: December 09, 2010, 10:56:15 AM »
In terms of being HIV+ this mentality of I am straight so I have it worse or I am a woman so I have it worse or I am gay so I have it worse or I am an African American so I have it worse or I am a biracial, transsexual, IV drug user, Republican so I have it worse is ridiculous.  I think any of us who are HIV+ should not think we have it any worse than our fellow posies. We all have issues to deal with and I will offer support to anyone that needs it but someone says I have more problems than you,  you will get no support from me, 'cause you ain't walked in my shoes or for that matter anyone's shoes on this site.

Then why respond?  Sorry, while it may be an issue that most have encountered, I can certainly understand the problem Mpos has brought forth in this thread..  for the most part he and his infection will be viewed with skepticism and the lack of a pool of people to date from only compounds this issue for him evidentally.  That's the problem and some how he needs to find the solution.

Now whether that problem is self imposed or real remains to be seen... 
I despise the song Love is in the Air, you should too.

Offline veritas

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #53 on: December 09, 2010, 10:57:29 AM »

mpos,

Have you tried all of these:

http://www.whispy.com/hiv-positive-singles-dating.html

Scroll down. It'll happen. Don't beat yourself down. Be safe!

v

Offline mpositive

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #54 on: December 09, 2010, 11:17:03 AM »
Thanks Veritas, gonna check that out further too.

Hey all, I portrayed the issues and feelings I had, seriously, if you can't be helpful, don't be hurtful.  However, please don't think for a moment that if attacked I will cower.  I may be normally quiet and reserved here, but, I will not be attacked for my feelings without a response. 
That being said, I do understand where woodshere is coming from.  I gave you my experience however and as Skeebo said, it is just my experience and feelings, right or wrong.....or rather, justified or not.   I was looking for advice and helpful suggestions and of course I got that too.  The attacks ...  well certainly did not want that. 
This Forum has never let me down and the folks here , for the most part, are very helpful.  As always, I do aprpeciate it.
Much love to all!
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Offline woodshere

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #55 on: December 09, 2010, 11:45:08 AM »
Do you seriously think YOU as an individual was attacked.  Cause I just don't see a personal attack directed toward you and I have reread the thread many times.  Regardless I think we all can agree that none of us have an easy way of it.
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Offline sam66

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #56 on: December 09, 2010, 12:14:01 PM »
 Mpos,
           I meant to ask you before,  are you looking for poz, neg or doesn't matter; partner

           In my case I want to meet up with a +ve lady  , none of my female friends knows my status,
           come to think of it none of my male friends knows my status either, ( that's why I like this site, feel at
           home here some how )

           Having one to one with a +ve woman is the only thing that I feel is missing   
december 2007 diagnosed +ve ,

Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #57 on: December 09, 2010, 12:35:57 PM »
This is one thing that confuses me with HIV+ males looking for (I'm assuming) other HIV+ females -- numerically you should be in a better position than most everyone else, for the simple reason that you, the HIV+ male, are in shorter supply.  So basically I don't get what the problem is with this.

Or maybe I'm just missing something.  There are significant amounts of HIV+ females in the city I live in.
"Iíve slept with enough men to know that Iím not gay"

Offline sam66

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #58 on: December 09, 2010, 12:44:50 PM »
This is one thing that confuses me with HIV+ males looking for (I'm assuming) other HIV+ females -- numerically you should be in a better position than most everyone else, for the simple reason that you, the HIV+ male, are in shorter supply.  So basically I don't get what the problem is with this.

Or maybe I'm just missing something.  There are significant amounts of HIV+ females in the city I live in.

      Be grateful if You cold get them to drop me a line Miss P 8)
december 2007 diagnosed +ve ,

Offline Inchlingblue

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #59 on: December 09, 2010, 12:48:08 PM »
 There are significant amounts of HIV+ females in the city I live in.

Yeah, and you're one of them.

LOL

I couldn't resist. Sorry for the hijack!
« Last Edit: December 09, 2010, 12:50:03 PM by Inchlingblue »

Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #60 on: December 09, 2010, 12:49:45 PM »
      Be grateful if You cold get them to drop me a line Miss P 8)

Miss P ain't no pimp!  Seriously though, if it was me in your shoes I guess I'd forego the on line pursuit and join some HIV volunteering where you actually meet these women in person.  It might not result in marriage but at least you have the potential to make some friendships.
"Iíve slept with enough men to know that Iím not gay"

Offline skeebo1969

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #61 on: December 09, 2010, 12:58:07 PM »
This is one thing that confuses me with HIV+ males looking for (I'm assuming) other HIV+ females -- numerically you should be in a better position than most everyone else, for the simple reason that you, the HIV+ male, are in shorter supply.  So basically I don't get what the problem is with this.

Or maybe I'm just missing something.  There are significant amounts of HIV+ females in the city I live in.

I agree.  I like to think it was because of my great looks and charming personality, but to be honest, this (above)  probably had something to do with my success dating after diagnosis.   I would think New York would have someone of the female persuasion who happens to also be pos...  I wonder what his profile says, maybe I can give him something slick to say to fool a woman into his clutching arms.... I dunno, just wanta help the guy get a piece is all.
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Offline skeebo1969

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #62 on: December 09, 2010, 12:59:14 PM »



  that was a joke by the way... can feel the hammer coming down.
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Offline sam66

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #63 on: December 09, 2010, 01:08:54 PM »
Miss P ain't no pimp!  Seriously though, if it was me in your shoes I guess I'd forego the on line pursuit and join some HIV volunteering where you actually meet these women in person.  It might not result in marriage but at least you have the potential to make some friendships.

                 Yes I know, there is on org. cater for straights in london strai8t talk I think.

                   I will make some time to go see them one day.  I travell around a lot , thats the problem,
                   I'll be chasing the sun(and women  :-*)  in a few days  , too damn cold here
                   
                   Time to head south 8)

                   thanks for the advice Miss P

         Skeebo I'm going to get u to do my profile ::)
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Offline skeebo1969

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #64 on: December 09, 2010, 01:19:30 PM »
                          Skeebo I'm going to get u to do my profile ::)

LOL.......  looking for friends works like a charm ;)  I got two divorces under my belt to show for it. ;)
I despise the song Love is in the Air, you should too.

Offline sam66

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Re: Thowing in the towel.....for now...
« Reply #65 on: December 09, 2010, 01:26:34 PM »

          U been reading my profile skeebo :o,      How do u who i am ???
december 2007 diagnosed +ve ,

 


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